For feeling really angry ....

[Candyapple49]

We are in tier 4 . I live beside a shared piece of grass . Neighbours are currently having a birthday bbq with 15 people , including 3 other households from our street , one from the next town . Help me calm down and put it in perspective .

@Candyapple49

Thank you every one . I think I have perspective now . It’s just the injustice that was making me mad. They are sharing food and all very close . At work we are not even allowed to make a hot drink and are doing everything the keep the kids safe and Team teach each lesson alongside the real lesson . Now my friend is critically ill and has 2 young children . People seem to think in general that this is ok , so I will take that on board .

It isn’t okay. I would be equally mad in your situation, although I’d probably wait for someone else to report as I couldn’t cope with the backlash.

I know of 7 people who gathered for a pre Christmas get together. One woke up the next day with symptoms & tested positive. 3 others (so far) have gone on to test positive. It’s no wonder cases are rising.

@stackemhigh - I found your post patronising as it goes, but my comment was aimed at those people who blithely spout 'where's the harm?' Or 'life must go on' and the like.

What was patronising about my post?!

report to police

I get your pain OP & it winds me up the way people in general & on this thread just don't understand the mess we're in.

This. Report them.

@minniemoll

I'd report them. Let the police decide if it's okay or not.

This. And for all the ones saying its OK, they are the reason this country is in the shit state its in with most likely worse to come. In Tier 4 you are only allowed to meet with one person outside for exercise so report away

But that doesn’t mean I’m going to live in a perpetual state of anger at what other people are doing, why should I stress myself out?

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I can only assume that people on here saying ‘don’t report them’ are also having nice parties. Must be great for you guys, thanks so much for the rolling lockdowns!

It’s not okay, it’s illegal, and I don’t understand why you haven’t already called the police.

@Candyapple49

Thank you every one . I think I have perspective now . It’s just the injustice that was making me mad. They are sharing food and all very close . At work we are not even allowed to make a hot drink and are doing everything the keep the kids safe and Team teach each lesson alongside the real lesson . Now my friend is critically ill and has 2 young children . People seem to think in general that this is ok , so I will take that on board .

If they aren't bothering to keep apart I would report them actually. There have been stories of students getting huge fines and I don't see why the rest of the population should be treated differently.

Step away from your curtains and stick the kettle on or go do something productive with your time!

@Jollibeezus

I can only assume that people on here saying ‘don’t report them’ are also having nice parties. Must be great for you guys, thanks so much for the rolling lockdowns!

Except not one person has said ‘don’t report them’. People have said report it or forget about it, no point in being angry about it.

Call the police. This sort of thing fucking pisses me off. Why can’t people realise that if they stuck to the rules this thing would be over quicker. Cunts.

@00100001 I’m on my own with the kids during the day but I’m not a single parent, which means I can’t have a support bubble. The vast majority of my friends are not eligible for one either and the ones that are are bubbled up with other single people.

The rules under tier 4 allow you to meet 1+1 so I can’t meet anyone because I have more then 1 DC and they are above pre-school age. So I can’t meet anyone with my kids without breaking the rules.

Childcare bubble is out because I use formal childcare arrangements which are currently closed.

Tier 4 here so didn’t even get to see anyone over Christmas.

I appreciate we can mooch round the garden centre/supermarket but it feels wrong to do that. Plus I’d just be having at go at my kids the entire time to ‘keep their distance’, ‘don’t touch that’ etc. Not much fun for any of us.

The whole time we are outside they moan they are freezing and I’m sick of washing their waterproofs which get caked in mud after every visit to a playground.

So yeah, maybe I’m being a bit miserable but I would report them.

Alas Op this pandemic has shown the low intelligence of large numbers of the population, and the sad thing is they don't seem to realise it or accept they are prolonging things.

Unfortunately reporting them probably won't change them.

It's not OK, OP. And so many people were so quick to make excuses for these people, saying "Oh it's such a shame that kids can't have a bday party these days" without knowing if the party even was for a child. And it's people like these partiers and the people who make excuses for them that are the reason why we are in this mess.

I understand the anger. A friend of mine works so hard for our local food bank and organised food and toy donations for christmas hampers to ensure that struggling families could have a nice xmas. Due to a selfish person travelling to our small country town from a tier 4 area and causing a local spike, she had covid by xmas day. She is now in hospital.

@footballfootball you can meet 1 other person for "exercise and recreation" .

I'm fine having a coffee outside with my friend. Thanks.

@katy1213

Can you wear a mask, hold your nose and scrub your hands all at the same time? You should be okay but have the NHS on speed dial just in case.

@katy1213 ooh aren’t you funny? You do know 70,000 have died don’t you? Oh it’s so hilarious.

Report report report...outside or not its not allowed!!!

Sounds like fun!

[quote 00100001]@footballfootball you can meet 1 other person for "exercise and recreation" .

I'm fine having a coffee outside with my friend. Thanks.[/quote]
But you're not at a BBQ with 15 other people!

Your anger on its own does nothing. It's completely futile, and will serve only to give you a crap afternoon.

You've got 3 other options:

• Deal with it yourself
• Report them so that someone else will deal with it
• Ignore it.

Pick one, do it, and move on.

I don’t think it’s right or fair either, but I guess you won’t stop people and that will increase the length of time the rest of us will spend, either holed up, or being exposed to further danger.

It might not help anything to feel angry, but what else can you do?

@OverTheRainbow88

These threads make me so sad that it’s come to this.

Seriously, people being angry a kid is having an outdoor birthday with their neighbours?

And this attitude makes me sad we are in the state we are. This whole year has been a right off and making excuses/promoting behaviour that causes this virus to spread isn't helping anything

@Jollibeezus

I can only assume that people on here saying ‘don’t report them’ are also having nice parties. Must be great for you guys, thanks so much for the rolling lockdowns!

Yep. My friend is a ITU nurse and currently off work with mental health breakdown due to work. May not go back. She's so fucking sick of moronic people who think the rules are for a laugh or don't apply to them because they are special or just have to meet people "just once". But you all go on and live your lives. Just don't expect specialist staff or equipment when you or your families need it because there is none left in her hospital.