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Original poster

For feeling really angry ....

102 replies

Candyapple49 · 29/12/2020 13:27

We are in tier 4 . I live beside a shared piece of grass . Neighbours are currently having a birthday bbq with 15 people , including 3 other households from our street , one from the next town . Help me calm down and put it in perspective .

OP posts:
JillofTrades · 29/12/2020 13:55

Seriously, people being angry a kid is having an outdoor birthday with their neighbours?

Oh boo Biscuit. It's exactly people like you who are so selfish.
Report them Op.

NeonBella · 29/12/2020 13:57

My neighbours have been having parties all through this shit show.

At 2 in the morning, when they've woken me up again all I want to do is call the police but I assume that they won't care and I'll just look like a nosey busybody...

Original poster
Candyapple49 · 29/12/2020 13:57

Thank you every one . I think I have perspective now . It’s just the injustice that was making me mad. They are sharing food and all very close . At work we are not even allowed to make a hot drink and are doing everything the keep the kids safe and Team teach each lesson alongside the real lesson . Now my friend is critically ill and has 2 young children .
People seem to think in general that this is ok , so I will take that on board .

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Ilikewinter · 29/12/2020 13:59

Well i dont think its okay, i would definately report them.

PhilCornwall1 · 29/12/2020 13:59

You could always go out and confront them over it if it's made you so angry.

00100001 · 29/12/2020 14:00

@Ilovenewyear

I feel awful saying it but I’d also report (ducks for cover). Just because I’ve been stuck inside with my DC the whole of Christmas. Seen no one. Only gone outside for walks and the kids have moaned the entire time because they’re freezing. I’m fed up and this would piss me right off. So yeah. I’ve said it. I’d report them.
But there's other things you can do outside apart from going for a walk. You're allowed to meet up with people. The parks are open. You're allowed a support bubble and a childcare bubble. The garden centres are open. You can do scavenger hunts. Go to skate parks. Etc
Bettydot · 29/12/2020 14:02

I don’t think it’s ok I’d report. We need people to pull together and follow the rules. So many people is taking the Micky. I’d turn a blind eye to minor rule breaks but for me this is too many people.

2020isalmosthindsight · 29/12/2020 14:02

Report them. I'm a teacher, too. Report them. I'd be furious if I had to sit and watch families of children that we've worked our arses off to keep safe in school were mingling like this under the current conditions. Especially if they were the same parents who would be the first to howl if we have to shut down again and only take KW kids .. many complained that we wouldn't take theirs, and they behave badly!

Tootletum · 29/12/2020 14:03

It's annoying, given it just means they are having fun while the rest of us sit alone with no friends. But come April I'll be having a BBQ with my friends (if they still remember me) and I won't accept the rationale of someone somewhere who could have been vaccinated but wasn't coming to harm.

Leftrightatthelights · 29/12/2020 14:05

Report them.

katy1213 · 29/12/2020 14:07

Can you wear a mask, hold your nose and scrub your hands all at the same time? You should be okay but have the NHS on speed dial just in case.

minniemoll · 29/12/2020 14:09

I'd report them. Let the police decide if it's okay or not.

OrigamiOwl · 29/12/2020 14:16

@Brefugee

Either call the police or ignore it. Your anger will keep you warm but it won't solve anything.
I agree with this. There are only two options and you need to decide which one you want to do.
KatherineJaneway · 29/12/2020 14:16

Just report them.

luckylavender · 29/12/2020 14:19

I get your pain OP & it winds me up the way people in general & on this thread just don't understand the mess we're in.

roarfeckingroarr · 29/12/2020 14:22

Oh MYOB

londonmummy1234 · 29/12/2020 14:22

Report it.

stackemhigh · 29/12/2020 14:22

@luckylavender that’s so patronising, we do understand. My mum has been shielding since March and hasn’t been to the shops or anyone’s house. We are doing everything for her, including cleaning her house/gardening/shopping as well observing all the rules.

But that doesn’t mean I’m going to live in a perpetual state of anger at what other people are doing, why should I stress myself out?

Mincepiehangover · 29/12/2020 14:23

My neighbours (tier 4) have gone to Scotland for Christmas and New Year.
I wouldn't report them but also won't have any sympathy if they get stopped and fined.

eviesmum · 29/12/2020 14:24

This is j by it ok and one of the reasons we are still in the absolute thick of this mess...people thinking the rules don’t apply to them

Report them

friendlycat · 29/12/2020 14:25

I don’t think it’s ok and would be tempted to report them.

eviesmum · 29/12/2020 14:25

Sorry should have said *this is not ok

mrsbyers · 29/12/2020 14:27

Report it , I reported something on Christmas Day and the police followed up

mbosnz · 29/12/2020 14:28

I completely understand the mess we're in.

I also know that yesterday, or the day before, there was a thread where a family were going to have one last gettogether, with their terminally ill little girl relative.

I don't know what my neighbour's stories are - well, I know one of them, he's been diagnosed with cancer this year, and it isn't responding well to treatment.

I've specifically told my neighbours that I will not be peering into their gardens, noting their visitors.

Sure, if it was developing into something really rather out of hand, and risky, I'd report it, but not for a bog standard outside bbq.

Then again, I'm not a teacher, so I haven't been suffering the way you guys have, running the risks, you guys have, busting a gut for our kids the way you guys have, so I understand if you have a depth of anger about this flagrant and risky breach of the guidelines that I do not, and why you'd be far more likely to report as a result.

Orchidflower1 · 29/12/2020 14:32

@Candyapple49

Thank you every one . I think I have perspective now . It’s just the injustice that was making me mad. They are sharing food and all very close . At work we are not even allowed to make a hot drink and are doing everything the keep the kids safe and Team teach each lesson alongside the real lesson . Now my friend is critically ill and has 2 young children . People seem to think in general that this is ok , so I will take that on board .
IT IS NOT OK @Candyapple49 YANBU

sorry but itS twxts like your neighbours that make this carry on. FFS they and the scum like them are the reason the whole country are going to be in T4 before long. It makes my blood boil. Report them if you don’t want to pm me your post code and I’ll do it.

My kids should be able to go to school safely, my neighbours should be able to shop safely, my friend with her Aunty I hospital should get the treatment she needs and not have pillocks spreading it.