To ask what age you were when you found undeniable love?

[Sandyshores13]

I'm 34 and had 3 serious relationships lasting

3 years
2 years
8.5 years.

I've always thought I was in love. Although not so much the middle relationship. He wasn't a nice person. Very immature and we were young. But definitely with my first. With my third I felt like I had found the one. We had Alot of lovely times together. But it fizzled out and it was sad. But we just were not quite right together and ended up negative constantly.

I've now met someone and I feel like I finally understand what it is all about. I liked him from one conversation. Then we had a few more. Then I didn't see him for a while. but in that time I never forgot him. Then our paths crossed again 3 months ago. We ended up confessing exactly the same thing to eachother. We had liked eachother instantly. He is 13 years older and said he's never felt what he has for me.

We've been inseparable this last couple of months. It's hard because of covid but we meet up for what we can. We have exactly the same views on things. He says what I think and visa versa. I've never been so comfortable with anyone before.

Last week he said he loved me and I said it back. Because I feel exactly the same. I have never felt so close to anyone before. I've never felt so happy. I've never felt so comfortable. His personality is so balanced for me. He's all the things I love in a person and ive never had that with anyone. He makes me laugh so much. We both have the same humour. But we can both talk seriously. He is affectionate but gives me abit of banter too.

I don't think this would ever happen again in this lifetime. I wonder whether some people ever find it. It just got me curious to what age were you when it finally clicked with someone?

I have realised my whole twenties I just settled and never found a real connection with anyone.

Sorry if this post is sickly. But I'd love to know when other people experienced a really strong click with someone and realised that it was the first time?

16 and he was 34. It's our 21st anniversary next week.

@rebeccachoc

Was he your teacher by any chance?

Not to judge or anything...

[quote WoolieLiberal]@rebeccachoc

Was he your teacher by any chance?

Not to judge or anything...[/quote]
No just a friend of a friend.

24. Still together, 20 years later.

Yep my husband when I was 26. I was a bit dumbstruck by him the first time we met. He took that as me being uninterested and a bit of a challenge. 1st date we chatted like old friends and fizzled with chemistry at the same time. I did a little dance when He dropped me off at home which he told me later he saw through the window.

sandy
Thank you.
We're very lucky.

Aged 19. We've been together 19 years

I'm 45 and I've never found love.

I'm seriously trying to accept the fact that it isn't going to happen now.

Its weighing very heavy at the moment and I'm finding it difficult deal with 😔

@ChestnutStuffing

The flush of a new romantic relationship isn't really what I'd call love, TBH. Infatuation, liking, sexual attraction. All of which might turn into love.

But love is work, at least if you stick with it.

Love is very hard work sometimes I agree! It's 'falling out of like' at certain times yet sticking with it despite a lack of sparks and fun, but then waking up one day and it's all the feelings have returned thankfully! I sincerely hope we all find enduring love whatever size, shape, reason or flavour this may take if seeking it, and I wish those content to live without the intrusion of another half are afforded the peace to enjoy their solitude.

38. I finally understood what true love and soulmates meant.

Reader, I married him (6 days ago!).

3 significant men in my life. My first love at 20. Never felt anything like it and I doubt its even possible to feel exactly the same intensity as one does so young. Took me years to recover.

Was very very infatuated at 26 but aware that he wasn't the one. Still it was good while it lasted and it is a fond memory now.

The 'one' was my husband. I met him when I was 30 - there was no insanity but there was peace, calm and weird knowledge that 'I'm home'. Never lost that feeling and we've been together almost 9y now.

First met when we were 8 years old, he started in my class at primary school. He walked in, sat down next to me & that was it. I knew in that instant, it was like my life suddenly went from black & white to HD colour. Had our first kiss in the school yard under some trees 😂 grew up together, on & off over the year's & dated other people. We were still each other's rock, best friends & supported each other through everything. We're 27 now. A few years ago we snuck back into our primary school on a weekend, running round the yard like kids again, had a sneaky kiss under our trees remembering where we started. Next thing I know he's down on one knee, holding out the most beautiful ring. One I'd actually been looking at the week before thinking how gorgeous it was. We've been living together for 4 years in our own house, 3 dogs & a cat. Some might say how can I have known at 8 years old, but I can't explain it. I just knew! Never felt love like it

2 kids and a mortgage later some of the excitement has gone - but I wouldn't want to be with anyone else! Lockdown has been a good test really.

I found what I thought was love at 21 but true love came at 31.

I was 18 and him 20. We're still together years later. He's the greatest man i've ever met in my life.

31 when I had DD
I have a wonderful partner who I'd say is the best man I know. However, if he left us i would cope. If DD went, I would never recover. My love for her is absolute in a way it could never be for a romantic partner.

When I had my children.
I have a happy relationship, been together for 25 years, but things may change.
I am a realist.

32, with my now husband. Totally different to anything else. Almost immediate commitment - not in a "I'm going to marry this man" sort of way, just in a "this is really different and amazing and important and I am not going to mess about with it" way. He felt the same very early on too.

And realising very quickly that I had been an absolute tit to think for a moment that I could have married either of the two men I had previously thought might be the One.

Mid 50s, second marriage after 20 years long first marriage had broken down. She died last month. Loved every second of life with her, didn't take a single moment for granted, loved being with her, loved it when she was away because I knew she was coming back. Loved watching her walk down the street, dancing with her, talking about everything, big issues and trivial. Fancied the pants off her! I've never known such happiness.

And now such sadness

I was 26 (him 27) and I knew very quickly that that was it for me. Now happily married . Meeting him made me realise that I had definitely not been madly in love with anyone else. He’s also not been in love with anyone else.

15, and I still do.
22, we only dated for a few months but everything just fit, more than anyone else.
I'm 40 now and don't want to fall for anyone again

21. That’s when I met my now DH - he was so hot!!! I fell head over heels for him. We’re now mid thirties, been married for years and have two kids a sensible house in suburbia and a dog. Not so rock ‘n’ roll these days but we are still mad about each other. I count my lucky stars daily that I met him and I’m lucky enough to be his wife.

I was early thirties when I met the first person I truly loved with everything. He will always be beautiful to me and I always want him to be happy. We didn’t work out but it was real, undeniable love. Sometimes love doesn’t translate into years and years and a lifetime together. Sometimes it does.

Loving these stories and I hope everyone who currently doesn’t have it but wants undeniable love in their lives finds it - including me!