To wonder if it was an instant connection with your DP/DH?

[Magicra84]

Just that really. I've met a man. I don't fancy him physically but his personality is fab. He's attentive and kind. The connection isn't instant, whereas in the past with other men it has been. Just wondering if he might grow on me because I really like his personality.

I did with my now husband, but there are loads of fella's I THOUGHT I had a connection with cos I fancied them, but they turned out to be knobs.

But if you don't fancy him, I'd leave it.

He might 'grow on you', like fungus, but if you don't find him attractive, it's not worth going there.

Like fungus @SantasAnus

Met and married in 6 months.
In that time I had to leave the man I was living with.
Still married 33 years on

Yes and no.

I thought he was good looking but young (looked about 18 and I was 26) so thought no more of it.

We became quite friendly and I discovered he was 23 so my interest was piqued but we didn’t actually get together until after 8 months.

We’ve been together 15 years now.

I did with my DH.
Married 30 years now

I was still married and debating ending our marriage when I met this man with whom I was the most at ease with myself, comfortable and felt a deep connection and attraction. I liked and loved my husband but I simply wasn't deeply attracted to him or ever felt right with him.

I left my marriage and filed for divorce within a few days of meeting him because I knew something was missing.

I married the man I met and even after nearly 25 years of marriage, I am still deeply attracted to him and we have such a huge respect for each other.

No, I thought he was very good looking but a bit of a knob. He grew on me.