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To be unsure about going on a girls holiday while pregnant?

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Randomtasks · 27/12/2020 18:06

Obviously the covid situation may make this a non issue, but as it stands I'm meant to be going to Egypt with a close pal in June next year. However I've just found out that I'm pregnant and if all goes well I will be around 6 months along when we go.

I just mentioned it to DH to get his thoughts and he was honest and said he wasnt keen on me going anymore. He isnt controlling or anything, it's just both of our first baby and we've got absolutely no clue how the next 9 months will go tbh! He said he isn't sure he wants me to be that far away from him in case anything happens. However he also says he might feel more chilled the further into the pregnancy I get and change his mind. I pointed out that I'd probably need to tell my friend asap so she can arrange for someone else to go in my place (its all paid for so a free holiday for them). Obvipusly I won't say anything until we get to the 12 week point anyway.

So can I ask opinions please? Is it a good idea to write the whole thing off as early as possible or should I see how I feel?

Other thing is, itll kind of change the dynamics of the holiday as it probably would've been quite boozy! But on the other hand maybe it will be a nice chance to relax before the baby?

OP posts:
LittleBearPad · 27/12/2020 18:11

You’ll likely need a fit to fly certificate and additional insurance by then.
4/5 months would be better than 6. I’d cancel.

LittleBearPad · 27/12/2020 18:12

You also won’t be able to be vaccinated whilst pregnant so a holiday might be a bit of a COVID risk

NorthernBirdAtHeart · 27/12/2020 18:13

I’d cancel too I’m afraid.
Congratulations though!

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 27/12/2020 18:15

It will absolutely change the dymamic and if youre the first in your group you will probably be resented. I wouldnt commit to anything tbh.

Thingsdogetbetter · 27/12/2020 18:17

Your mate will be expecting a boozy girls holiday. You being pregnant and wanting to relax may not be the holiday she wants anyway. Speak to her asap. Its not fair if you decide to go ahead with this 'relaxing' holiday while she's still planning shots and nightclubs.

OxfordwillsaveusbyFebruary · 27/12/2020 18:17

Pretty much no chance of Egypt in June

msmummy20 · 27/12/2020 18:18

I went at 6 months pregnant long haul. I did go business class so I was more comfortable. I had a wonderful time. I just made sure I went somewhere I was 100 percent comfortable with the medical system. So for example, I probably wouldn't have gone to a tiny island etc where they might not have all the facilities needed.

converseandjeans · 27/12/2020 18:19

I wouldn't go to Egypt while 6 months pregnant. I think you could see if she will go for a quieter hols nearer home. Or ask her to take someone else & see if you can get some money back. I don't think Egypt is great as it's so hot & it's a long way to get home.

BlenheimOrange · 27/12/2020 18:20

Ooh, I’d go. I’m 6m with DC2 at the moment and would love that. We were planning a NY trip (only to the canaries as have preschooler in tow) which is a similar flight time to Egypt I think.

In my first pregnancy I last flew at about 32-34 weeks, IIRC. It was fine. I think the airline website said I needed a letter from my GP so I got one, but then was never actually asked for it. I went with my normal travel insurance, obvs checked the policy first.

I wouldn’t be up for an adventure/trekking holiday as I can’t walk far now (PGP) and definitely not scuba diving or anything like that! But beach, pool, museums, food cooked for me in restaurants, short stroll in the warm...bliss!

msmummy20 · 27/12/2020 18:21

I wouldn't go now because of covid. Not sure how it will be in June. Probably still not great. I also didn't need any extra insurance when I went anywhere. I travelled a lot when pregnant and always made sure I had a fit to fly certificate, but never needed it. But yeah because of covid, it's hard to say.

WorraLiberty · 27/12/2020 18:21

Congratulations OP Thanks

I'd bin the holiday off.

ShyTown · 27/12/2020 18:22

Congratulations! If it were me I’d cancel. Not because of being away from your partner or anything like that which to me sounds bonkers because most people I know have travelled internationally on their own whilst pregnant for one reason or another- I’ve personally travelled transatlantic solo in both pregnancies and my DH has also taken a number of short and long haul trips without me. I would, however, be worried about the food hygiene and medical care in Egypt though so would cancel. But whatever you decide speak to her ASAP so she has adequate time to find someone else. This is all presuming you can travel... god knows what the situation will be in June!

msmummy20 · 27/12/2020 18:24

@ShyTown yes food hygiene is not great. Although to be fair I went to Egypt 10 years ago, but always got sick. I personally went to UAE when I was pregnant and it was perfect. It's very clean there, medial care is excellent and I felt totally safe. I can only recommend it as a destination.

Pukkatea · 27/12/2020 18:25

If your friend doesn't have DC, I can't imagine she would want to go on holiday with someone 6 months pregnant, sorry.

Original poster
Randomtasks · 27/12/2020 18:35

I'd not even considered food hygiene! Its all inclusive too which probably doesn't bode well. I've only been AI on my honeymoon and this is a lot more cheap and cheerful!

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Maralb · 27/12/2020 18:40

To be fair you may not even feel up to it. I was still vomiting a few times a day at six months there is no way I could have gone on a plane. Congratulations on the pregnancy x

ivfbeenbusy · 27/12/2020 18:41

I wouldn't. Aside from food hygiene concerns it will be HOT - the Middle East really starts to get hot around that time and trust me it's not comfortable when you are pregnant! I struggled just in our heatwave this year when I was about 3-4 months pregnant let alone 6!

BestOfABadLot · 27/12/2020 18:44

I'd cancel. My DH got absolutely awful food poisoning in Egypt despite being very careful and would hate to go through that while pregnant. I'd also be worried about being away on the off chance there was some comlication while away and I would prefer to seek medical attention from my normal healthcare provider.

I'd cancel now and your friend can choose a friend to have a lovely free holiday - surely someone will jump at the chance.

Aquamarine1029 · 27/12/2020 18:44

I would not go to Egypt whilst pregnant, covid or no covid.

BestOfABadLot · 27/12/2020 18:45

Also agree with PP if this was planned as a boozy girl's trip she may not be over the moon if you turn up 6 months pregnant wanting early night and not being able to walk far!

Mumbum2011 · 27/12/2020 18:46

Regardless of COVID, if I was your friend who was expecting a girly holiday with cocktails on the beach then I wouldn't want to go with someone who was pregnant. When I was 6 months I mostly wanted to go to bed and couldn't be bothered watching someone else stay up late drinking. I think be honest and give her the chance to find someone else.

Dollywilde · 27/12/2020 18:47

I did Morocco at 4 months and had a lovely time - we didn’t have a boozy one as it’s not really that sort of area tho, my friends knew I was TTC when we booked so it was factored in. I left early and went back to our apartment a couple of nights but it was a really fab pre baby break.

However, with Covid in mind, I’d probably cancel Sad sorry op. I just wouldn’t want to risk travel being restricted etc.

Mumbum2011 · 27/12/2020 18:47

Also the heat. I went middle of June and it was early 40degrees everyday. My dh hardly wanted to leave the room during the day!

Changethetoner · 27/12/2020 18:48

This is not a suitable holiday for you now. Cancel.

PeigiSu · 27/12/2020 18:51

I went to The Canaries on a girls’ trip at 20 weeks and New York at 28 weeks with DH and loved both.

We got really heavy duty travel insurance for the 28 week trip as a lot of policies only cover you not the baby and obviously NICU costs could be astronomical. Was happy with both those destinations as good hygiene and medical care and had a lovely time.

However DS when he was born at term did need NICU and I do go a bit cold thinking about what might have happened if he’d come whilst we were abroad. I’d definitely travel pre-28 weeks though in usual times!

Generally think second trimester is the nicest time to travel - less sicky, not too enormous but neat bump for the photos!

HOWEVER I think you should look carefully about what the provision is in Egypt and think I possibly wouldn’t go for that destination. Also as above - UK not giving the vaccine to pregnant women may mean your decision is made for you.