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To be unsure about going on a girls holiday while pregnant?

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Randomtasks · 27/12/2020 18:06

Obviously the covid situation may make this a non issue, but as it stands I'm meant to be going to Egypt with a close pal in June next year. However I've just found out that I'm pregnant and if all goes well I will be around 6 months along when we go.

I just mentioned it to DH to get his thoughts and he was honest and said he wasnt keen on me going anymore. He isnt controlling or anything, it's just both of our first baby and we've got absolutely no clue how the next 9 months will go tbh! He said he isn't sure he wants me to be that far away from him in case anything happens. However he also says he might feel more chilled the further into the pregnancy I get and change his mind. I pointed out that I'd probably need to tell my friend asap so she can arrange for someone else to go in my place (its all paid for so a free holiday for them). Obvipusly I won't say anything until we get to the 12 week point anyway.

So can I ask opinions please? Is it a good idea to write the whole thing off as early as possible or should I see how I feel?

Other thing is, itll kind of change the dynamics of the holiday as it probably would've been quite boozy! But on the other hand maybe it will be a nice chance to relax before the baby?

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Whatelsecouldibecalled · 27/12/2020 18:53

I wouldn’t go. Covid aside at 6 months if it’s hot you will be boiling. You can’t sunbathe you can’t drink. You might be knackered and sick. And hope that it won’t but if you have a complication I wouldn’t want to be Egypt. I would pass

Dovesandkisses · 27/12/2020 18:58

Cancel. Too many risks. Maybe suggest a weekend near the coast in England? Congratulations btw.

AnaisNun · 27/12/2020 18:59

I went on a holiday to Barcelona for a week with my best friend when I was almost 6 months pregnant.

Had a whale of a time, really lovely, fun, loads of walking, lots of good food and the odd glass of wine, in a city I love.

Only issue was airline making me move seats three times on the way back because they saw I was pregnant and then suddenly didn’t want me sitting near an emergency exit Hmm and then they didn’t want me to sit at the front. (No firm reason why THAT was. Think it was because someone else kicked off that they’d been split up to accommodate me, but I might be wrong).

Anyway- putting covid to one side, I think a last girls holiday with your mates is a great idea in usual circumstances. Highly recommend. Maybe just rethink Egypt- could you re-book for somewhere that might a bit easier to manage?

AnaisNun · 27/12/2020 19:00

Sorry - it was June or July in Barcelona when I went. I do well in heat though and was lucky not to have morning sickness- I know not everyone is the same.

ivfbeenbusy · 27/12/2020 19:01

@AnaisNun

Because in an emergency people in the emergency exit aisle AND the front row may have to open the doors and have to be considered fit and able....That's why they relocated from you both

Cookies47 · 27/12/2020 19:05

I'm 7 months pregnant & feel like absolute shit. Just throwing that out there!

lcdododo · 27/12/2020 19:08

Christ, I flew at 4 and 6 months and it was fantastic.

No wonder the response to covid is bonkers is England is this full of worriers!

MidnightHangingTree · 27/12/2020 19:12

I'm not pregnant and don't have DC, but if it was me I wouldn't mind going away with DP, however I wouldn't like the thought of being abroad on my "own" at 6 months pregnant, in case I went into labour prematurely or needed to go to hospital for some reason. I would want him there to support me and wouldn't want to potentially put that responsibility onto friends.

riotlady · 27/12/2020 19:17

I did it by accident (found out I was pregnant the week before I went) and it was shit. I puked my way around all the major tourist sights of Madrid, the heat was unbearable, I couldn’t face eating anything other than ham and cheese toasties and my friends understandably wanted to spend the nights drinking sangria and going out dancing, so I lay in the hotel and watched tv. Wouldn’t recommend!

Morgan12 · 27/12/2020 19:20

Cancel.

You don't know how your pregnancy will be. I was at the hospital weekly when pregnant with my first.

Not worth the risk and best letting your friend know ASAP so she can make other arrangements.

nosswith · 27/12/2020 19:21

Cancel, as even if the vaccine has been widely rolled out in the UK, there may still be travel restrictions and airports may be difficult to travel through.

PinkDaffodil2 · 27/12/2020 19:23

In a few days we may know if the Oxford vaccine is suitable for use in pregnancy - if not that would decide it for me.

Latteatnaptime · 27/12/2020 19:27

I went on international holidays pregnant, but I was wary of Egypt. I was worried about getting the gastro bug people frequently get there, and I was concerned about hospital treatment should I go into early labour. I purposely went to a resort with a decent NICU nearby.

Could you reschedule to somewhere in Europe?

user1493413286 · 27/12/2020 19:32

I wouldn’t go to Egypt; I wouldn’t be confident of the healthcare and I think it’d be too hot. It’s also a longer flight than I’d want to do at that stage in pregnancy. Adding covid into the mix and that you won’t be vaccinated due to pregnancy and you’d be going on a flight and to somewhere that vaccinations may not be happening then no way.

Livinghereisok · 27/12/2020 19:32

Cancel, with Covid no way would I be risking travelling on a plane right now whilst pregnant without having had the vaccine to a destination where the healthcare system is not great. Why would you take the risk to honour a girls holiday?

KarmaNoMore · 27/12/2020 19:35

Cancel, no doubt. Any Covid related cancellations/delays and the airline may forbid you from boarding if you are in your last trimester.

KarmaNoMore · 27/12/2020 19:35

...by that I mean to take the flight back to the UK!

ireallyamthewalrus · 27/12/2020 19:38

I went on several long haul flights, some on my own, whilst pregnant. But there’s no way I would go to Egypt, in June, at 6 months pregnant, for an AI girls holiday, during a pandemic!

Amanduh · 27/12/2020 19:40

Not to Egypt.

RoganJosh · 27/12/2020 19:45

You’ll be six and a bit months. So if it’s mid June you’ll be 6 1/2 months.
I don’t think it’s a very good idea, and fairer to give notice and cancel now. Or maybe wait a few weeks and then cancel.

blubberyboo · 27/12/2020 20:01

I don’t think it would be fully enjoyable with the heat everyone else drinking and the worrying in case there was a complication.

However I don’t think it will happen anyway with covid. I think you should talk to your friend soon maybe even before the 12 weeks if you think she would keep it secret just to give her more time to think of her plans

She might end up having to stick to the UK
We once went to a hen do in cornwall in a self catering place with hot tubs and some activities and just made our own fun in the lodges. There was a girl there who’s as pregnant and she was fine and had fun.
You could tell your friend you will be pulling out of Egypt but if it changes to the uk you’ll go

LittleGungHo · 27/12/2020 22:50

I am currently 6 months pregnant and would love to go abroad right now and get some sun.
I would not want to go to Egypt due to food hygiene, hospital care and bureaucracy of trying to get baby home if baby came early. I also would not want to go away without my husband (not normally a wimp) but when pregnant I want to be close to him and home.

midnightstar66 · 28/12/2020 06:08

No I wouldn't go to Egypt at 6 months pregnant, covid risks aside. I don't think I know a souls who hasn't contracted some sort of nasty stomach bug there. It will be hotter than you are used to which won't be fun at that stage either, I doubt you'll feel like taking day trips in that heat and it won't be the boozy holiday I'd imagine your friend was hoping for.

ChristmasUserName2020 · 28/12/2020 06:32

I wouldn’t go. As soon as you said it was only the two of you and it was going to be a boozy one then you being pregnant would just change the dynamic for both of you. Don’t just give your holiday away by the way. I’d maybe offer it at a discount but free, nah 😂

MadameMonk · 28/12/2020 06:40

How old are you? That might a factor too. I was 39yo at 6 months pregnant, and only just squeaked in a visit (alone) to my granny on the other side of the world. It was exhausting and I encountered some trouble flying home (the airline didn’t believe I was only 6 months, even with medical papers). No way could I have done any sightseeing, walks, etc. One sedate swim per day and multiple naps! I was pretty fit otherwise.

Plus every pregnancy has its quirks, you’re a bit early on to get a sense of how yours might go. The one thing you do know is that you must absolutely prioritise your health, and your babies health. So if for some reason you need to come home early, you don’t want to be stuck by anything outside of your control. That’d clinch it for me.

I’d soooo much rather feel a slight FOMO of having cancelled, than the panic of being stuck there.

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