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About leftovers

99 replies

autumnkate · 27/12/2020 14:41

We had a nice local butcher joint of beef for Xmas lunch.
Yesterday we had leftover cold slices of beef with bubble and squeak. Today I told DH that I was going to make something with the leftovers (about 400/500g). I gave him the option of stew or a pasta dish. He said he didn’t want stew.

Spend hour or so making a ragu. Serve at lunchtime. DH “Is this the Xmas beef?”
Me: “Yes, that’s the last of it.”
DH: “Wow I would have expected to have it sliced or something.”
Me: “What? I told you I was making pasta.”
DH: “No, I just said I didn’t want stew.”
DH to kids: “Enjoy this kids, it will be the most expensive pasta you ever have. There’s about £30 of beef there”. (not true btw)

Am I wrong to have made it into a ragu?
Am I wrong to be really annoyed off at his comments?
Argh.

OP posts:
Dundundunnn · 27/12/2020 14:43

He sounds like an ungrateful shite.

CardoMondo · 27/12/2020 14:43

Yanbu- sounds like a lovely meal. Maybe suggest your DH get off his arse and cook if he doesn’t like what you make?

Secretlifeofme · 27/12/2020 14:44

He sounds like a twat. Tell him to cook himself if he's going to moan.

LolaSmiles · 27/12/2020 14:44

YANBU to be mildly irritated with his comments, but I probably wouldn't use a nice joint of beef to make ragu/stew/one pot type dish and would probably lean more to your DH's expectation

CardoMondo · 27/12/2020 14:45

@LolaSmiles

YANBU to be mildly irritated with his comments, but I probably wouldn't use a nice joint of beef to make ragu/stew/one pot type dish and would probably lean more to your DH's expectation
The 1950s called, they want you back ASAP
InTheDrunkTank · 27/12/2020 14:46

YANBU, he's being ridiculously churlish about it. If he had a better idea he should have got off his arse and done it himself. Presumably the beef was getting dry anyway after two days so a ragu sounds perfect.

Shoppingwithmother · 27/12/2020 14:46

It does seem a bit of a waste to use nice cold roast beef and do something with it that you would usually make with cheap mince, so I can see how he would be disappointed.

A stew would be even worse - you make a stew with cheaper cuts of raw meat- that’s why you stew it, to make it tender. I don’t know how you would use roast beef to make a stew.

Ragwort · 27/12/2020 14:50

I agree it doesn't sound very tactful but like others, assuming it was a really nice piece of beef, I would just have served it cold much less cooking rather than make it into something else.

Janaih · 27/12/2020 14:50

I know violence is always wrong but I would be very tempted to stab him. People that can't articulate what they want food wise but are then precise about what they don't want are huge bell ends.

orangenasturtium · 27/12/2020 14:50

YANBU

I share your 'D'H's opinion that it is a bit of a shame to use the leftover beef in a ragu, it would have been nicer sliced and cold. He had his chance to tell you that when you told him what you were making though and there is no excuse for his comments.

CardoMondo · 27/12/2020 14:51

Can’t believe the responses saying you should have cooked something better. FFS he’s lucky you cooked anything at all! No wonder there are still men out there who think the kitchen is a fucking restaurant and their wife a maid

Plussizejumpsuit · 27/12/2020 14:51

Is he normally such a cunt?

LolaSmiles · 27/12/2020 14:52

The 1950s called, they want you back ASAP
What? For agreeing with her husband that it seems a waste of nice beef?

Or for finding unnecessary comments mildly irritating instead of deciding someone is an an arsehole / a shite?

I forgot on here there's lots of posters who need everything to be described in dispropotionately heightened emotions.

Original poster
autumnkate · 27/12/2020 14:53

We had cold beef yesterday. Didn’t fancy it again today.

I just can’t imagine him cooking for an hour and being anything other than grateful.

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CardoMondo · 27/12/2020 14:53

@LolaSmiles

The 1950s called, they want you back ASAP What? For agreeing with her husband that it seems a waste of nice beef?

Or for finding unnecessary comments mildly irritating instead of deciding someone is an an arsehole / a shite?

I forgot on here there's lots of posters who need everything to be described in dispropotionately heightened emotions.

“DH’s expectations” 🤮
Original poster
autumnkate · 27/12/2020 14:53

Me being anything other than grateful I should say

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Shoppingwithmother · 27/12/2020 14:54

Cardo

Nobody has said she should have cooked something better - in fact literally the opposite - it would have been nicer just eaten cold with no cooking at all!

CardoMondo · 27/12/2020 14:55

@Shoppingwithmother

Cardo

Nobody has said she should have cooked something better - in fact literally the opposite - it would have been nicer just eaten cold with no cooking at all!

Then maybe her DH should’ve prepared something with that in mind? Rather than sitting on his arse barking orders?
LolaSmiles · 27/12/2020 14:56

Can’t believe the responses saying you should have cooked something better. FFS he’s lucky you cooked anything at all! No wonder there are still men out there who think the kitchen is a fucking restaurant and their wife a maid
I know, how awful for people to have an opinion about using up leftovers. It really does keep women in the kitchen. Hmm
DH did our boxing day cooking and is doing ready steady cook with whatever is in our cupboard to go with turkey this evening to use the last of it up. We live in the 1950s you see where women are chained to the kitchen you see.

Stompythedinosaur · 27/12/2020 14:56

While I'd be disappointed not to have my usual Xmas leftovers to snack on, he was very rude to speak about your cooking that way. If he wanted the beef cold and sliced he should have said more clearly!

ReturntoSpamfritters · 27/12/2020 14:58

@Janaih

I know violence is always wrong but I would be very tempted to stab him. People that can't articulate what they want food wise but are then precise about what they don't want are huge bell ends.
This ^
Sparklfairy · 27/12/2020 14:59

Your husband would hate me. I'm planning on making a curry with leftover pork loin Grin

OppsUpsSide · 27/12/2020 14:59

Oh ffs Lola was clearly saying she would prefer the beef sliced like OP’s DH, not that she would prefer to meet her DH’s ‘expectations’.
You’ve just made yourself look like a bit of a dick.

LolaSmiles · 27/12/2020 14:59

DH’s expectations
Yes as in the expectation regarding using left overs.

I expect that on Boxing Day DH carves the leftover turkey and doesn't make a pasta bake because that makes more sense with the meat we have. Today I'd expect we'll probably have pasta bake or risotto or a ragu.

Maybe I should do sicky faces because it's so weird to use different leftovers in different ways.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 27/12/2020 15:00

@LolaSmiles

YANBU to be mildly irritated with his comments, but I probably wouldn't use a nice joint of beef to make ragu/stew/one pot type dish and would probably lean more to your DH's expectation
What expectation? The one that he made after he had chance to imput his preference, where he was asked 'stew or pasta'? And presumably being an adult, could also have used his words to say, 'not pasta'? Hmm