About leftovers

[autumnkate]

We had a nice local butcher joint of beef for Xmas lunch.
Yesterday we had leftover cold slices of beef with bubble and squeak. Today I told DH that I was going to make something with the leftovers (about 400/500g). I gave him the option of stew or a pasta dish. He said he didn’t want stew.

Spend hour or so making a ragu. Serve at lunchtime. DH “Is this the Xmas beef?”
Me: “Yes, that’s the last of it.”
DH: “Wow I would have expected to have it sliced or something.”
Me: “What? I told you I was making pasta.”
DH: “No, I just said I didn’t want stew.”
DH to kids: “Enjoy this kids, it will be the most expensive pasta you ever have. There’s about £30 of beef there”. (not true btw)

Am I wrong to have made it into a ragu?
Am I wrong to be really annoyed off at his comments?
Argh.

Oh ffs Lola was clearly saying she would prefer the beef sliced like OP’s DH, not that she would prefer to meet her DH’s ‘expectations’.

Thank you.
I'm still entertained that a couple who share cooking and have expectations of the order we use up leftovers is the sign of being in the 50s.

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Personally when be refused stew I would have pointed him in the direction of the kitchen. I agree with you regarding cold meat. I would not fancy it two days running

Tell him to fuck off. If he wanted something different he should have offered a suggestion or done it himself.

What you said was perfectly clear Lola people just like to jump on and have a go about something you didn’t say, but might have said, although you didn’t, but if you had it would definitely deserve a telling off, which would be much more entertaining for them than acknowledging the fact you didn’t say the unreasonable thing in the first place!

And then others get thoroughly over excited at the opportunity to put the boot in over something that wasn’t said, but could have been said, and on it goes...

Why do people do it? Just read people!

Whats wrong with using ‘nice’ meat in a stew or pasta?

A proper ragu is way more luxurious and delicious than a roast.

OppsUpsSide
It's weird. I don't really understand how saying someone is NBU to be irritated by the comments whilst also agreeing with the husband's opinion on leftovers is some giant call to 1950s values.

Then again, neither me or DH would tell each other to fuck off over food, or tell each other they should be grateful we are cooking, and we wouldn't tell each other to get their arse into the kitchen if they said they didn't fancy something for tea.

Whatisapension
I'd have nice cuts of meat in a stew or a ragu, but not a nice roasting joint. Just like I use nice diced beef in pies, but wouldn't use a sirloin steak.

@LolaSmiles

I think you need to read the tone. Noone literally said any of those things, it was toungue and cheek. That said if I gave my DH a list of options for dinner and he didn't like any of them it's totally reasonable to get him to cook instead.

Most people don't want sliced roast meat 3 days in a row, especially once it's getting dry so a ragu is a decent idea. If DH didn't like it he should have said at the time and suggested an alternative.

When did mumsnet become a place where people are jumping over one another to be as offensive as possible. A minor disagreement like this is irritatingly, but do people really call their husbands a cunt or tell him to fuck off for making a comment like this?

It’s really bizarre. This is such an unpleasant place at the moment, all the snobbish threads judging presents as not being good enough and saying they’d tell people to fuck off for overstaying their welcome / calling people a cunt for making fairly minor comments. Really really odd.

YABU. The point of pasta is that it uses cheap meat. More expensive beef should be enjoyed on its own.

Sounds like he did not or misheard about the pasta part, then also he should of been more proactive in suggesting on the dinning arrangements

I don't understand this concept of leftover roast beef.

I might have made shepherd’s pie with the last of the beef, although we’ve had a plate of cold meat, bread, pickles etc since Christmas Day. He is unnecessarily rude in front of the dc.

If DH doesn’t like it then maybe he could have cooked once in the last 3 days?

If you want to prepare food for him next year, serve him his cold slices of meat on a plate while you enjoy your lovely pasta/stew with the dc.

Yummmmmm! Ragu with top-notch beef sounds amazing! Lucky family! Silly, grumpy man!

Or you could just show him where the kitchen is?

I find cold meat boring as hell so I'd have tucked into your delicious ragu with relish.

What difference does it make whether it's the most expensive Ragu they ever have or most expensive sandwich? He's being a dick

If he didn't want pasta OR stew, why didn't he say so at the time? Arse.

Well, he should have done it himself.

Or at least said somebody when you asked him whether he wanted stew.

Ungrateful fucker.

I agree with your DH in principle, but he didn't need to be so sneery about it.

How much was the whole joint of beef?

You gave you DH a choice he didn’t want stew so you made a ragu.
Is nice to have a bit of luxury now, ragu made from beef is exactly that.
Hope you enjoyed it op. Your DH will be more precise in future maybe now.