Buy your own stuff then

[Tinsel57]

Brought partner some gifts. Opens each of them saying “I don’t need one of these” and “why u got me this for my kettle works fine” “Why u brought me that and where am I going to put it”. His kettle is on its way out by the way!!
Those were his responses whilst opening most things. Well today I told him exactly how ungrateful he is and that going forwards I will not be buying him gifts again. He is now offended that I shared my mind and has gone off in a huff. AIBU to think he can piss off.

To be fair I wouldn't be iver the moon about a kettle. I had to but a new one recently and I'm happy to get it from Facebook market place. I am thinking if a new TV but if someone got me a 50 inch one u would think they had gone mad. I hate telly's that big. Maybe he thought the same especially as he got you nice things.
A bit rude of him though to be so blunt.

He was incredibly ungrateful but to be fair I'd be horrified if someone bought me a 50 inch TV. I'd still manage to be polite about it before asking for the receipt though!

Perhaps he feels suffocated by the expensive presents? I'm not saying you have done this, but some people buy excessive gifts as a way of keeping someone beholden in a relationship. It can be very manipulative.
Yes, a gift that expensive would certainly feel excessive to me, like love bombing, it would make me feel uncomfortable. That's on top of a replacement appliance being inappropriate as a gift as you don't know if the person wanted it replaced.

I wasn’t trying to “keep him” in the relationship at all. He’s bought me an iPhone before which I know cost him a Bomb. I’ve paid for a holiday for us both before and likewise he has. He has got me other expensive items in the past so I thought I’d do the same this time. Needn’t have bothered

He sounds as though nobody has ever taught him any manners.

Tbh, I wouldn't be thrilled about getting trainers for a present. Shoes are the kind of thing that you really need to try on for size. I don't mind other clothes for presents, but not shoes.

@notacooldad

To be fair I wouldn't be iver the moon about a kettle. I had to but a new one recently and I'm happy to get it from Facebook market place. I am thinking if a new TV but if someone got me a 50 inch one u would think they had gone mad. I hate telly's that big. Maybe he thought the same especially as he got you nice things. A bit rude of him though to be so blunt.

I wouldn't like it if someone got me trainers, I prefer to choose my own. Why are trainers nicer than a 50" smart TV?

@Tinsel57

But when we go out shopping and browsing he goes on about wanting a smart tv. So *@ReceptacleForTheRespectable* not thoughtless at all. I also don’t see what wrong with replacing a broken kettle. All the gifts he brought me, I have already but it doesn’t hurt to have more !

If he wanted a smart TV, he probably also wanted to choose the exact size / brand etc. A 50 inch TV will dominate the room it sits in, it's a big decision to make about someone else's house, and not an appropriate gift unless someone has asked for it. I mean, would you buy someone a sofa they hadn't asked for?

And replacing a broken kettle just isn't a good gift! Gifts are meant to be a personal treat, something the recipient will get enjoyment from. Who enjoys a kettle?

That doesn't change the fact that he was rude and ungrateful, but I don't sign up to the idea that spending ££££ means the gifts must be amazing. It's quite possible to spend a lot and still buy inappropriate gifts.

(I feel the same about trainers tbh. Unless you specified the brand/size, footwear isn't a great gift as it needs to be tried on.)

I wouldn't like it if someone got me trainers, I prefer to choose my own. Why are trainers nicer than a 50" smart TV?
Trainers are easier to exchange for a start.
Usually someone wears a certain style so it's easier to pick up on someone's personal taste for second!

I would have loved a new telly for Christmas. I’d have been happy with a kettle. My OH didn’t give me any presents.