Friend texted my fiancé and not me

[littlebow1]

AIBU to think it's odd that one of my friends texted my fiancé "merry Christmas to both of you" instead of texting me it?
He met my friend through me, so obviously doesn't know her as well as I do. (I didn't get a message off her)

AIBU to think it's odd?

Bit weird to be honest. I'd text my friends before their boyfriends unless I was looking for ideas for a present or something.

YANBU -that seems odd to me

Yep very strange

Yes

Is his name higher up the alphabet than yours? Could it have been that in scrolling your friend just reached his name first and took the opportunity, knowing you’d both be together?

@LeSangeEstDansLarbre she Facebook messaged him but she has my number. We actually speak regularly on WhatsApp so not sure why she has done that

How often do they text each other? How often do you and your friend text each other?

Weird but I have done this once because he was in my phone as “Emma Paul” (not real names), and came up first. Was v embarrassed though as he must have thought I was mental.

@thefourgp we text regularly! Last conversation I had with her was on Monday. And she never speaks to my fiancé

My best friends husband and I occasionally WhatsApp silly jokes etc. Today he messaged me first and I wished Happy Christmas to him. Absolutely zero going on. He’s like a brother to me.

@TooOldforBouncyCastles I can understand that but my friend and my fiancé are not friends like that at all

I almost certainly wouldn’t send it to only the partner unless I didn’t have the number of the friend (for example I txt my family members spouse to contact either or both of them as one doesn’t have a mobile) but I would possibly txt both of them depending on the txt.

Saying that I’d probably only do that if I was friends with both of them rather than just knew a partner and saw them only through my friend

Was he on Facebook at the time? Ie did she message because he was showing as online?

That is strange! I don't ever text my friends' boyfriends unless I'm trying to secretly arrange something for the friend.

Is weird. I assume they must talk more than you think.

Definitely weird

@Trisolaris no he wasn't online we were watching a film together and it popped up so I saw

That's odd, yes.
But people are strange. My own cousin, who I am close in age to and have previously been v close to (no fall out, just live far away) texted my DH and not me when we got engaged to say congrats and then the same again when announcing my pregnancy. He's met my DH only a few times, they're not mates.

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I'm sure it was innocent. It's just one message.

Maybe they chat on messenger and you didn’t know?

Odd. Are you going to say anything to her, OP?

Do you have facebook? If not it might be that she was messaging friends/ family via Facebook rather than WhatsApp/ her phone so messaged him because you don’t have a profile. If you have your own Facebook profile though I agree that’s strange.

Yes off

Half of mn would be screaming ltb. He’s cheating

Mayb she’s trying too hard to befriend him??
I wouldn’t like it though, it’s rude. My friend always writes my husbands name first in Xmas cards “because he’s the man of the house” what shite.. that annoys me too.