Always feel sort of forlorn at Christmas

[Chrisrear]

Does anyone else ever? Obviously, this year even more so, I adore Christmas but it often brings up a strange, sad feeling 🤷🏻‍♀️

Totally.

Nostalgia for times gone by.

A creeping sense that these happy family celebrations will one day fade away as people pass

Its subconscious but has always been a part of Christmas for me.

Yes. I'm feeling it right now. I'm just having a moment before I give myself a shake and get some more Christmas Eve jobs done.

This year has really hit me that I don't have small children anymore. I genuinely feel sad at the 2 teens lack of excitement and unwillingness to sit with us.

There was a film on earlier ('Cars' I think) and I got teary as it feels like yesterday I was watching it with DS and now hes stuck on the PS4.

@CrotchBurn

Totally.

Nostalgia for times gone by.

A creeping sense that these happy family celebrations will one day fade away as people pass

Its subconscious but has always been a part of Christmas for me.

I was alright until I read this now i do want to cry 😢

The Welsh have a word for it.

I just came on here because I'm feeling the exact same way. Christmases as a child were such mixed emotions. Had a very difficult one last year. I wonder if it's the build up, the expectation and the reality is often different. I think we all feel pressure to have a 'perfect' day, yet there is no such thing. I think this creates a bit of tension in me. Need a glass of prosecco and something to make me giggle. Any suggestions for things to lighten the mood?!

It was the birthday of someone very special to me and after they died it's never been quite the same.

Feeling this a bit this year too. DD18 and DS13 but feel but less like a close family Xmas this year. DD sat with us watching Paddington 2 (not planned) right now which is reminding me of times past with us all enjoying family films together.

Don't like not feeling unsure what to continue doing or not doing with them. Don't want them to feel they have to go through the motions for our sake!

I actually enjoy being maudlin at Christmas

I've just watched The Snowman while thinking about all the people I've previously watched it with who are dead now.

They would roll their eyes.

Me too @Saltn, first year with no believers is making me feel sad.
I still want it to be special but have no energy to do anything about it.
@Chrisrear Christmas always makes me feel low, I lost 2 grandparents when I was younger at Christmas and I think it stems from there.

@Misshapencha0s

I just came on here because I'm feeling the exact same way. Christmases as a child were such mixed emotions. Had a very difficult one last year. I wonder if it's the build up, the expectation and the reality is often different. I think we all feel pressure to have a 'perfect' day, yet there is no such thing. I think this creates a bit of tension in me. Need a glass of prosecco and something to make me giggle. Any suggestions for things to lighten the mood?!

Oops. I think my comment might not lighten the mood! I do still enjoy Christmas, but we have managed to find ourselves isolating this year which sucks a bit!

Don't want them to feel they have to go through the motions for our sake!

Bollox to that - the stuff I was made to do every Christmas is the stuff I am nostalgic for.

Any suggestions for things to lighten the mood?

Wallow in it is my advice! Or, Bad Mom's Christmas.

Yes I know how this feels too.

I love Christmas but find myself tearful often in December.
For me it's the past Christmases when I was much younger that I think of. Some very close family members have passed away and my only sibling gone way before her time.

First Christmas just DD and I. Been sad all day

@Saltn

This year has really hit me that I don't have small children anymore. I genuinely feel sad at the 2 teens lack of excitement and unwillingness to sit with us.

We have our two adult children with us this Christmas (one has moved in, one is back from uni).

We eat together at the dining table, then they go and do their thing. It’s important for their development not to need us all the time.

Yes
I hate Christmas since my dd died, I'm always teary at Christmas. My visit to the cemetery on Christmas morning is sad, BUT I'm a very good actress as I have dd2 who is so excited about Santa and believes that mummy is just as excited as her.🎅🎅.
Merry Christmas Everyone 🥂🥂

@DecemberSun

The Welsh have a word for it.

Such a beautiful word.

@ParkheadParadise

Yes I hate Christmas since my dd died, I'm always teary at Christmas. My visit to the cemetery on Christmas morning is sad, BUT I'm a very good actress as I have dd2 who is so excited about Santa and believes that mummy is just as excited as her.🎅🎅. Merry Christmas Everyone 🥂🥂

I get like this too. I have a 5 month old and I thought I may never have children so am feeling very lucky this year. But still that feeling is there! Right of passage each year for me, I think. There is always something sad at Christmas or an argument and something goes wrong. But it does leave me somewhat whistful.

We were going to adopt a little boy last year. He was with us for a couple of months but then returned to foster carers.

I always think of him at Christmas

I feel nostalgic for when nurses turned their cloaks inside out and walked around the wards singing carols on Christmas Eve and that was decades before I was born.

My dad died a week before Christmas when I was a child.
My mum died 2 days after Christmas couple years ago.
So, yes Christmas is sad for me.

I'm just listening to a Christmas song 'Christmas in New Zealand' and bawling my bloody eyes out. . .

I figured it would be a good idea to get it out me system. . .