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DH and the bloody sodding double garage!!!

104 replies

Pumpertrumper · 23/12/2020 06:54

DH and I had a bit of a set to yesterday.
We rarely argue but he drives me mental over the double garage!

When we bought the house we were so excited about the amazing storage space. We don’t keep cars in it as have a large private drive.

But EVERY.SINGLE.TIME I suggest we put something in the garage DH reacts like I’m asking him to drop it directly on his testicles.
Moaning, groaning, eye rolling and complaining. Muttering under his breath and claiming there’s ‘no room’ and he’s ‘fed up’ with it being such a mess.

There is plenty of room. Lots of floor space and easy to walk around in.

It’s a mess because DH uses it for all his stuff and doesn’t tidy it but it’s nowhere near ‘full’ or even ‘cluttered’.

There are several piles of things that need taking to the tip. I’m pregnant and they’re too much for me to move alone but DH never gets around to it and just seems to enjoy complaining.

I’ve suggested he get a skip in (there’s not enough to justify it- but the way he talks you’d think he’d fill 15) but again he’s not organising it- just complaining.

Does anyone else’s DH get this possessive over the blooming garage?

OP posts:
coldwaterfeed · 23/12/2020 06:59

YANBU. DH is like this with the attic, no space for my stuff gut his stuff is in a mess up there. I just ignore him.

Put your foot down, OP.

Maybe have a garage each?

flyingant · 23/12/2020 07:04

We need to see pictures Grin

SimonJT · 23/12/2020 07:07

I own a garage (not attached to my building), my partner doesn’t know, I might tell him when we get married, but it will still be exclusively for my motorbike and my stuff.

Thats my kingdom, noone elses.

DrWankincense · 23/12/2020 07:08

Just do it. Put the stuff in.
Not sure how it works right now but there are plenty men with vans round here picking up and taking stuff to the tip, could you arrange that? Obviously get someone registered.

SuddenArborealStop · 23/12/2020 07:09

My DH is like this about our shed.. My Dad thinks his shed is the tardis though and will keep adding to it until the walls fall off.

BarkHoneyBark · 23/12/2020 07:10

@SimonJT

I own a garage (not attached to my building), my partner doesn’t know, I might tell him when we get married, but it will still be exclusively for my motorbike and my stuff.

Thats my kingdom, noone elses.

I’d love to own a separate garage thar no one knew about. I have a shed though.
DonLewis · 23/12/2020 07:11

Offer to drop it on his testicles instead? Or just leave it all under the duvet on his half of the bed?

Pearsapiece · 23/12/2020 07:12

Dh is like this over our storage room. Refuses to take anything to the tip because of 'the faff' but then moans there's too much in the way to get his bike out.
If I suggest something go in the storage room, it's a huff and puff, "well I don't know if there's space", half expect him to get blue prints out! Drives me mad

coldwaterfeed · 23/12/2020 07:12

@SimonJT but op is entitled garage space

Sunnydayhere · 23/12/2020 07:13

I wish I could walk round in our garage.

It was full before I added stuff from my parents before they downsized.

MessAllOver · 23/12/2020 07:13

Start getting quotes for building a second double garage and tell your DH it's because he won't share.

Whattimeisdinner · 23/12/2020 07:14

Just put stuff in there. Don’t tell him.

Waffleblock · 23/12/2020 07:14

YANBU. Admittedly we have recently moved in from somewhere with a decent sized garage to a place with just a side storeroom. But it's always "a disaster in there" and when I suggest maybe something could live in there rather than on the kitchen table or in the hall (think big box of plumbing supplies/power tools) I'm being unreasonable. It cant possibly go in the storeroom, obviously it makes more sense to have it right next to where we eat for weeks on end.

And nothing gets thrown out because we might need it one day... a spare kitchen table? Homemade static bicycle that was meant to be a bicycle powered smoothie maker? Dismantled cheap smoothie maker from the same project (from 7 years ago)? Nope, all essential! Drives me bonkers!

Ohdeariedear · 23/12/2020 07:14

Oh yes! My lockdown project was to buy a load of shelving units and see though storage boxes and we sorted everything into boxes or hung on hooks on the walls. He was totally against this for reasons known only to himself but now has grudgingly accepted it’s much better.

frazzledasarock · 23/12/2020 07:14

Stop asking him. Tell him things are going in the garage.

It’s part of your house. It’s a joint garage.

DH loves our garage too. Doesn’t keep any cars or vehicles in it oh no. Just full of random crap.

Thepilotlightsgoneout · 23/12/2020 07:15

I could’ve written your post. My DH’s ambition seems to be to have a lovely big garage, completely empty. He takes it as a personal insult if I want to put anything in it.

Fbtw · 23/12/2020 07:15

Why don’t you just put whatever it is in the garage? Why do you need to ask him?

BackwardsGoing · 23/12/2020 07:17

Grin we are married to the same man. I tease him out of it and just do what I have to do.

He also looks like I suggest we create a bonfire of £20 notes if I suggest bringing a chargeable item to the tip. Apparently I should turn broken wheelbarrow tyres into garden ornaments rather than paying £2.50 to dispose of them.

Lotsachocolateplease · 23/12/2020 07:19

I boxed up some jars I wanted to keep from the kitchen cupboards. Asked my 13 yr old to put them in the garage for me, he then quizzed me on why I wanted to keep them, why they had to go in the garage. If I was ever going to use them again etc! I ended up agreeing that I’d date the box and if I hadn’t used them in a year they could be thrown away.
This garage possessiveness these guys have starts young!

lifestooshort123 · 23/12/2020 07:19

Could be cos the OP is pregnant and the stuff's heavy or awkward to carry

frumpety · 23/12/2020 07:21

Skips are really expensive, what about one of those big rubbish bag things that they collect for you ? Or is DH one of those doesn't want to do it himself and doesn't want to pay someone else to do it types ?

Fbtw · 23/12/2020 07:22

I read it as the stuff for the tip was too heavy for her?

SpiderinaWingMirror · 23/12/2020 07:22

Oh I hear you sister!
I politely pointed out to my dh that my possessions, ie things that are "mine" rather than the furniture and pots and pans fit in a drawer under the bed. Plus 4 cubes in a kallax for my clothes. He has 2 sheds, the integral garage, the loft and the second loft over the garage full of his stuff. This fact does not bother me in the slightest. Until he picks up a book I have bought and asks in a slightly pained way where I intend to keep it.

Katkincake · 23/12/2020 07:24

I also have a DH that has the same “the garage must remain empty” stance. We moved house two weeks ago so the garage is still full of boxes and it’s making him angsty. He was the same with our last double garage - we’d put the old bedroom carpet down in there and I swear he hoovered that more than rooms in the house Grin

FedUpAtHomeTroels · 23/12/2020 07:26

Tell him to get it tidy or he'll be living the bloody garage, you need storage space too.