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DH and the bloody sodding double garage!!!

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Pumpertrumper · 23/12/2020 06:54

DH and I had a bit of a set to yesterday.
We rarely argue but he drives me mental over the double garage!

When we bought the house we were so excited about the amazing storage space. We don’t keep cars in it as have a large private drive.

But EVERY.SINGLE.TIME I suggest we put something in the garage DH reacts like I’m asking him to drop it directly on his testicles.
Moaning, groaning, eye rolling and complaining. Muttering under his breath and claiming there’s ‘no room’ and he’s ‘fed up’ with it being such a mess.

There is plenty of room. Lots of floor space and easy to walk around in.

It’s a mess because DH uses it for all his stuff and doesn’t tidy it but it’s nowhere near ‘full’ or even ‘cluttered’.

There are several piles of things that need taking to the tip. I’m pregnant and they’re too much for me to move alone but DH never gets around to it and just seems to enjoy complaining.

I’ve suggested he get a skip in (there’s not enough to justify it- but the way he talks you’d think he’d fill 15) but again he’s not organising it- just complaining.

Does anyone else’s DH get this possessive over the blooming garage?

OP posts:
Eckhart · 23/12/2020 08:23

@Pumpertrumper

I told him he could either put it in the garage or store it in his study (he would rather die than do that it’s his baby) but it WAS NOT staying in my dining room for Christmas and If he didn’t move it I’d do it myself and any damage to me/baby would be on his head.

He moved it. Muttering under his breath!

Sorry, I hadn't seen this when I posted.

Are you always so disrespectful of each other's views? It sounds like you're both looking to be the boss of the other, rather than working as a team.

WingingIt101 · 23/12/2020 08:27

Ooh yes. And don't forget the hallowed shed. Both are precious spaces that are reserved solely for his stuff. To be fair pretty much anything I ask to keep there does make it there but we have the same rigmarole!

C8H10N4O2 · 23/12/2020 08:29

Just order a skip op. Easy done, especially as you have a drive to put it on.

This. Put tinsel on it and he can have it for Xmas.

Offer to pay someone to shift the stuff into the skip as birthday present in advance Grin

LabiaMinoraPissusFlapus · 23/12/2020 08:31

Yes, the garage is a mess with my husband's stuff, and he moans that the reason he can't freely move around it is because I put my bike in there! Nothing to do with all the other crap in there that he never gets round to sorting out!

SisyphusDad · 23/12/2020 08:33

Not strictly on topic but maybe a helpful story.

Earlier this year I got fed up with all the useful things I was saving crap accumulated over 20 years, with the garage being the black hole at the centre. So I hired a huge skip and, with the help of the well - bribed DSs, got rid of the whole lot. Then put some shelving up to store the things that I actually wanted to keep but that had been cluttering up the house because there was nowhere else to put them.

Result: tidy house, tidy garage. I still get a buzz when I go in there and see everything in its place. And indeed appreciate that I can actually get into the garage in the first place!

The loft though. That needs a whole extra level of commitment Sad

EnterFunnyNameHere · 23/12/2020 08:37

@waffleblock
Homemade static bicycle that was meant to be a bicycle powered smoothie maker

You can't drop something like that in the thread and not explain it! Tell me more Grin

Crumbleweed · 23/12/2020 08:37

Yes! My DP was moaning about me storing some stuff in the shed. In addition to the shed he has a whole garage to keep his junk in (and an extra chest of drawers to me).

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Pumpertrumper · 23/12/2020 08:40

We don’t usually argue. Honestly it’s about once every 6 months at most that there’s a raised voice.

I just snapped yesterday because I’m stressed and totally fed up of being treated like a criminal for wanting to put a bagged up snuz pod in the garage! It makes everything pointlessly hard having to have the same conversation over and over.

It’s like I’m asking for permission to use his garage and he’s unhappy with me for it Angry

Anyway it’s fine now and I’ve told him I’m not gonna argue over the garage anymore. I will simply present him items which need to be stored and he can put them wherever he likes, garage, shed or attic but if he so much as grumbles about it I’ll do it myself. Sucks enough feeling like I’ve got my hands tied behind my back atm, without having to justify to him Grin

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LisaLee333 · 23/12/2020 08:40

@Pumpertrumper

YANBU. Men are a pain in the arse when it comes to stuff like this Mine is the same. Every time I want to put ANYthing in the garage or shed, he rolls his eyes, and claims there's too much stuff in there already, and you can 'barely move in there.' Like yours, our garage is 80% EMPTY. Most of the floor is empty, yet he sighs and huffs and puffs whenever I want to put anything in there.

Men are really funny and controlling and weird when it comes to what THEY class as a 'man's area.' I just go there and use the places even more, as I don't like being told what to do, and it's mine as much as his, so he can fuck off trying to control what I put in there.

Fbtw · 23/12/2020 08:44

I would honestly put stuf like that in the loft not the garage.

LisaLee333 · 23/12/2020 08:45

Oh, and the shed is around 70% FULL. However, HE decided that we only needed a 3 X 5 foot one, when we easily have enough room for a 6 X 8 foot, or even a 8 X 10 foot. So the lack of room in there is because HE decided on a stupidly small shed.

Will he take it down and replace it with one twice as big..? (Or let me do it!) NOPE. Because THAT would be him admitting he is WRONG. Stupid fucking 3 x 5 shed. Can't even get the bastard BIKES in there. So THEY are in the precious hallowed garage!

EggBobbin · 23/12/2020 08:50

ExH was like this with the loft. When he left I asked if he was coming to clear the loft, was happy to leave him the keys to the house for a weekend. He said no- but he might pop in and just take the few things he needed? Told him to obv get fucked, it was an all or nothing deal and I wasn’t clearing his rubbish for him. He decided to go for nothing and I made about £250 slowly EBaying various bits of clutter...

Jeremyironseverything · 23/12/2020 08:55

My dh moans that our internal garage is just a big cupboard to me that I just throw stuff in. He's absolutely correct. As long as my house is tidy I don't care if everything tumbles out of cupboards garage He likes everything organised perfectly. I throw it in the garage then let him get on with organising whilst grumbling away.

CallmeAngelGabriel · 23/12/2020 08:58

I hear you, OP.
My dh is exactly the same over the shed, the loft and the study. Where the hell else are we meant to put things. He also insists on leaving his manky dog-walking coat over the banister post in my beautifully-decorated hall, on the grounds that he "will need it again later."

ekidmxcl · 23/12/2020 09:00

Anyjunk is a company that will turn up at your house and take away anything you want. It’s expensive but sounds like it would be well worth it in your case. You pick a day and time slot, pay for the amount of junk you want taken and they turn up and take it. Fantastic! I used them to take away a 3 seater sofa.

doctorhamster · 23/12/2020 09:05

Oh I hear you. Our garage is the source of much heated debate in our house. It's full of crap and big piles of stuff that need to go to the tip, but DH never gets round to it. I just refuse to go in there any more.

Going to the tip is his job because his car boot is more than double the size of mine and I refuse to saw shit up to fit it in my car and then have to do four trips when he could do it in two. I've made myself all cross now just thinking about it Grin

Sparklfairy · 23/12/2020 09:10

@SimonJT

I own a garage (not attached to my building), my partner doesn’t know, I might tell him when we get married, but it will still be exclusively for my motorbike and my stuff.

Thats my kingdom, noone elses.

I just love this Grin
AuditAngel · 23/12/2020 09:13

DH moaned last night that there were still boxes waiting for me to take to the tip cluttering the garage. He has now had 3 months furlough, one month furlough and a week so far furlough, whereas I have worked all through. He has a car.

So why is the tip my job??

Pyewhacket · 23/12/2020 09:15

Does anyone else’s DH get this possessive over the blooming garage?

Yep, total man cave. He has his workshop in there and I'm not allowed in there in case I " touch something".

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 23/12/2020 09:16

We have one garage. It’s full of DJ’s shit. 5 motorbikes which are hardly ever used. And the house is bursting at the seams. It drives me mental. Nothing can go in his precious fucking garage.

justasking111 · 23/12/2020 09:17

When we had a small holding OH had a barn, workshop and two big sheds . We downsized to a double garage. The extra xmas bits are in there drinks, veggies you should hear the moans.

paintfairy · 23/12/2020 09:22

🤣 We don't have a garage but he sounds like my DH. We live in a 3 bed semi (its not small) and there's 2 of us. We have a massive boarded loft. And 2 sheds outside (one is huge). Any time i want to put anything anywhere (inside or out), we don't have enough room. He hates clutter. And he starts ranting we need a bigger house. 🤣 He's so dramatic. I just ignore him. Anyone would think there are 5 of us living in a 1 bed flat the way he carries on. 🙄

ememem84 · 23/12/2020 09:24

ah the garage. we have a garage. or rather dh has a garage. he keeps saying its a mess (it is). and keeps saying he'll tidy and clean it (he doesn't). and that he has no time.

when i had a day off, i emptied everything out of it (including a gigantic spider) and then tidied it and got rid of a load of junk. everything was organised. shelving units were put up and i bought containers for things. that was in august. its back to a mess because dh just throws stuff in there. i'm going to have to do it again soon.

thenightsky · 23/12/2020 09:24

@Thepilotlightsgoneout

I could’ve written your post. My DH’s ambition seems to be to have a lovely big garage, completely empty. He takes it as a personal insult if I want to put anything in it.
Same here. I have a small sports car (my hobby) in one half. The other half has the freezer, lawnmower, barrow and gardening tools, plus the hoover and a box of cleaning products.

DH is obsessed with getting a garden shed to 'put all the garage clutter into'. The garden is tiny and a bloody shed would look dreadful. Why does he want an empty garage, just to gain a horrible shed? I can never get a sensible answer when I ask.

Neenan · 23/12/2020 09:27

I’m very territorial over our garage. It has all my gardening things in it, dryer, extra fridge and freezer and DH pisses me off dumping his shut and golf clubs in it all the time instead of getting rid of the shut and putting the clubs tidy at the back. No they have to be dumped for his ease just inside the door so he has minimal effort getting them out and I have to fall over them every time I need to get in the garage for the dryer.

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