AIBU re cancelling Christmas dinner as brother now in tier 4

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Invited to DM for Christmas dinner. Brother (no children) goes into tier 4, his MIL cancels, so our DM feels sorry for him and invites him to dinner.
AIBU to cancel going to DM?

He’s not alone, so he should stay out w his partner.

I’m all for applying sense to the guidelines, but as he has company for Christmas he should stay at home this year and avoid contributing to the spread. This is the sensible thing to do.

Yokey -

You are being really silly.

The guidelines have to be general. It’s perfectly reasonable to apply sense to the them when there is an obvious huge downside - eg when someone will be left alone, or left to struggle with their own or another’s poor health, or is terminally ill and won’t see another Christmas, etc.

But, the NHS is under pressure, and the curbs in place because of that will have long term economic consequences for all of us. So when possible people need to stay put - not be able to see one of your children for Christmas is not a vast sacrifice even after a tough year.

You need to stop talking about sense, and actually stop and think sensibly yourself.

Hi, this is an upsetting time for the majority, and for many different reason.

People seem to have a different take on the rules, even when the rules are written down.

We were due to see my BIL and his family with my FIL, so three households, all allowed within the Christmas bubble. We weren’t going to stay overnight etc etc.

We had a rethink about this and decided, before we were placed into tier 4, that we wouldn’t go to them, but that my FIL same tier as us, would just come to us.

We, although a smaller celebration, were very happy and excited at the prospect of being together on Christmas Day.

Yesterday we had a conversation with him, where he said “if I get covid I’ll know I got it from being with you”.

This really upset us and cutting a long story short, we had to say that was too much unfair pressure on us, and that we can’t take on that responsibility.

He has a lady friend who is immuno suppressed, and if he/she got it, we basically would be blamed, even if it was 2/3/4 weeks after seeing us. He says he can’t get it anywhere because he wears a mask and washes his hands, as do we!

It’s sh*t not being able to have him with us, but that’s the way it has to be.

Let’s hope it’s better luck next year!

abusing the support bubble thing is rubbish, unless they live right on the boarder with one at each side in easy travelling distance then obviously DM is not his 'support bubble'.

You cant just decide for one day to have a new special support bubble far away and ignore lockdown rules, Tier 4 cannot travel that is the rule if he has a support bubble in Tier 4 he can still use it but not to decide for 1 day he wants to travel out of quarantine and declare a sudden new bubble.

You do what you do OP, and let them get on with what they want to do. You should do what you feel comfortable with, but avoiding judging your dm and dB - people are trying to get through this the best way they can.