To not put this card up?

[TaccyToo]

Received a Christmas card today from DHs family member.

Addressed to him and... his ex.

He's not been with her for many years, never married, we've been married for a good few years now.

I think it was a genuine mistake but AIBU to not put the card up on our mantle piece with the rest of them? 😂

And would you mention it or just laugh with DH and leave it?

I'd laugh and leave it.

I wouldn't display it! And maybe get DH to casually mention it after Christmas.

So someone was on autopilot writing their cards. Bin it - put it in pride of place - what does it matter?

It annoys me enough when I write all the cards and get back ., he who is superiors name and family

I always nearly do the same with my best friend... she’s married to someone for about 5 years and I always always want to call him her ex name... I really think before I write it and when around him don’t use his name. It’s very weird

@katy1213

So someone was on autopilot writing their cards. Bin it - put it in pride of place - what does it matter?

It doesn't matter in the scheme of things. I'm not seething, or shaking with anger or infuriated or anything

Just wondered if people would maybe mention it?

Wouldn’t your dh say something to his mum??

@AlwaysCheddar

Wouldn’t your dh say something to his mum??

Its not his Mum.

I'm not seething, or shaking with anger or infuriated or anything

OP! Are you not even incandescent with RAGE?!

How very dare you!

Have you sent a card to them yet? Either they have actually forgotten you're not called X, in which case when they get your card they'll go "oh crap", or they're not likely to have the same brain fart again?!

This isn’t for real, otherwise you’d be “incandescent with rage”

@VainAbigail damn it! You beat me!!!

It doesn't matter in the scheme of things. I'm not seething, or shaking with anger or infuriated or anything
Whaaaaaat? Get the F off of mumsnet you fraud 😂
Nah, seriously, if it’s definitely a brainfart error I’d laugh and leave it.

I wouldn't put it up and I'd expect DH to bring it up with whoever sent the card. It's good that you're relaxed about it.

Unless there’s back story I’d just laugh and leave it. Irritating, but if you think it’s just a mistake treat it as such!

My friend’s wife dislikes me because I called her by his ex’s name (they were very similar - eg Sammy and Tammy) after a few too many wines at a party (before they were married)...whoops!

If I’m talking too quickly I still refer to my SIL as Jessica and David (not real names), she’s not been with David for about three years now, has been with Jason for a year and a half... it’s just a habit from many many years of saying Jessica and David and slips out if I’m not paying enough attention. Although never in front of SIL though, usually when speaking to my husband. But it means I can see how it’s possible (although I’m yet to write the wrong name and not notice )

I'd stick it in the fire!

I'd send it back. X is not known at this address.

Get tour dh to ask the family member about it then.

I'd bin it without a backwards glance

I wouldn’t display it. I’d also expect dh to mention to them he’s now with you. Even if I’m a jokey way. Just to make them remember in future.
Unless it’s a really elderly relative who would be absolutely mortified at such an error. In which case I’d say nothing. Still wouldn’t display it though.

This happened to me last weekend! But the other way round - family member wrote my ex's name instead of DP. I binned it & messaged them saying 'thanks for mine & "DP's name" card', a nice message btw but just thought it might nudge her into realising she used the wrong name

I'd put it up in pride of place just to wind my husband up.

I wouldn't put it up but then my Nan has purposely always called me mum by my dads ex's name. They've been married 20+ years but she is just a spiteful old crow in general so 🤷🏻‍♀️.

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