To not put this card up?

[TaccyToo]

Received a Christmas card today from DHs family member.

Addressed to him and... his ex.

He's not been with her for many years, never married, we've been married for a good few years now.

I think it was a genuine mistake but AIBU to not put the card up on our mantle piece with the rest of them? 😂

And would you mention it or just laugh with DH and leave it?

God I’m very laidback but that would go straight in the recycling.

DH does it a lot with DIL blush, he doesn’t mean badly, I don’t know why he can’t remember.

Not very nice for DIL. Bet he doesn’t get men’s names mixed up.

I'd be tempted to joke about it with him directly "...writing the cards after a few too many again were you..." "...still using a five year old Christmas card list?..." as I don't think I'd appreciate receiving it every year (not suggesting you will, but you might so why not joke about it and put it straight this year).
It's a bit weird imo though - shows they don't really care.

DIL doesn’t know, he does it when he is speaking to me but I fear he will one day.

You know in the same way you run through children’s & pets names before you get the right one?

He does it with men and women’s names, I’m not sure why you would place a bet otherwise.

@Lovemusic33

I would put it up but only because I don’t get many cards. We have had cards in the post before for the people that used to live here ten years ago and I have opened them and put them up 🤣. I’m sure it was just a mistake.

I love this

At least we're not having visitors this year to query it!

I feel like DH should mention it in a light-hearted way.

It feels a bit awkward to thank them for the card 😂

I expect it was just a genuine error. Put it up. I would tell DH to start calling me that from now on, or maybe just for Christmas

My DP was with his ex for years - we still get a couple of Christmas cards each year from people he hasn't seen for years with his ex's name on. We put it up, I see nothing wrong with it.

I've lived with him for 3 years now!

It doesn't offend me, as he's not close to these people, and I've certainly never met them. They're the kind of people that I'm not sure why they're still sending cards, it's been that long since he saw them - think childhood!

One of my cousin's ex wife and current DP share very similar sounding first names.

I have to give myself a pep talk in advance of seeing them not to use the wrong name and suspect if I was distracted writing christmas cards that I could get it wrong.

I also think I used the wrong name for one a friend's baby in their christmas card. I tried for ages to remember what it was (as a child I used to hate "& kids" cards), and stalked her social media and thought I'd got it right... and then the the correct name came to me last night. I need to text to apologise.

I haven't met said baby yet nor finished his quilt (which will have his name on it... this usually helps me remember as I can stalk my own social media for the picture! )

Last year I accidentally addressed ( outside and in) a card to my goddaughter and the name of her teenage boyfriend who had been all kinds of a disaster, instead of her lovely husband of 5 years.

I must have been on some kind of autopilot. Fortunately I had included the card and a present in a package to her mother, my friend, who saw the error and fished it out. It would not have gone down well - still embarrassed at the thought.

Accidents happen.

It would bother me if I felt the person was making some kind of a point, but if it was from someone who was usually nice then I'd just put it up with the others. Mistakes happen.

I suspect I will be guilty of an error like this at some point, especially if it’s not a close family member. I’m shockingly bad at remembering names. Especially ones I don’t use often. I have to keep a Christmas card list with names of all partners, children etc that comes out with the cards, I go onto autopilot and write the cards.
If I’d made the error I’d appreciate knowing now so I can update the list for next year and not keep making the error. I’d be mortified, make massive apologies and send a new card, but rather that than repeatedly offend someone.

laugh and leave it

I’d Chuck it in the bin - not in an angry way but who wants another woman on their mantelpiece?!

And tell DH to remind, if you care.