Christmas day guest (support bubble) wants supermarket pizza

[yellowhighheels]

I live alone in Tier 4. I have invited a single friend (well, it's kind of a 'situationship' but long story, he's more of a friend now) who is my support bubble for Christmas day. He has gladly accepted. I have no family nearby, he does so I let him know he's not obliged if he'd rather come round briefly or another time.

I asked him yday what he fancied for Christmas Dinner so I can shop tomorrow. He knows that cooking is a big pleasure for me and one of my favourite parts of the day. My mum and I usually cook and drink champagne and have a laugh together. I'm also a decent cook, if I say so myself so there is no element of being tactful and wanting to avoid my food (he has enjoyed plenty of my cooking before). He also wouldn't be dragged into helping, I would do most of the prep beforehand.

He insisted he wants supermarket pizza.

I have no interest in controlling what he eats so I will buy him the bloody pizza but AIBU to feel like he's being quite ungracious and churlish here? I asked him what he might like to ensure I cooked something lovely that we both enjoyed and because I don't really fancy doing a roast.

He can have a pizza every other day if he wants.

Christmas isn't a traditional part of his culture but his family do celebrate with a homemade meal together and presents for the kids so he knows it is a special time. It's also not a case of "sod it, I will do whatever I like this year as I can't see my family' as he could, if he wanted. He's not invited by duress.

AIBU to feel quite insulted by this? I know I could say I'm not making you bloody pizza on Christmas day but I would feel quite pushy doing this now that I've asked what he would like as it's his day too and he's insisted.

Odd that you asked him what he fancied. Surely the assumption would be Christmas Dinner and you could have asked what meat he wanted or declared that you are doing turkey or whatever. Anyways you've asked and he's answered so you can't really force a roast on him now. I haven't voted either way.

I'd be fine with that. No prep just shove it in the oven. Make what you like for yourself and don't share if he makes a face.

Pizza is our favourite Xmas lunch along with potato wedges, garlic mushrooms and onion rings. Maybe he just thought he was making it easy for you?

But if you say
I asked him what he might like to ensure I cooked something lovely that we both enjoyed and because I don't really fancy doing a roast.
So if you’re not wanting to do a traditional Xmas dinner what does it matter what you eat? He fancies a pizza, you fancy something else. Neither are wrong I think you’re just upset because he’s basically said he would prefer a frozen pizza over you’re cooking and you’re slightly defensive about that, and also will miss the cooking aspect with you’re mum.

It’s not worth getting het up over. Get him to bring the pizza, cook whatever you fancy and just enjoy the day together.

Neither of us really love roast dinners and I am vegetarian anyway so that was never the plan.

It wouldn't be my choice for Christmas dinner but you did ask him and it's not difficult to prepare so..🤷‍♀️

So many typos

I agree that it's odd. In hindsight, you should have given him a few options as choices, or maybe he still would've wanted pizza.

I'd go ahead and make nice food for yourself, if that's what you want. He may change his mind when he sees and smells your homemade dishes. Otherwise, there's more for you.

If you hadnt asked what he wanted I'd say YANBU but you asked and he answered so you need to go with that

I would get all the toppings in and have fun making your own from scratch

YANBU but I would have asked him why? Or said don’t be an idiot, I’m cooking. Or made a cake in the shape of a supermarket pizza and then gone on to make whatever I wanted as a main dish.

If you enjoy cooking tell him you asked to see if he had an interesting opinion but he didn’t and you didn’t like his answer.

If he’s an actual real friend then he won’t care. If you are worried he’d then say he’s not coming and you’d be on your own that’s a different matter.

I don't think it is ungracious, just very strange that when offered a meal at someone's house, even on a day in the middle of summer, you would choose pizza.

Could you compromise and make him a pizza. Homemade pizza can be a very nice meal indeed.

Sourdough base, homemade tomato and garlic sauce, whatever toppings fancied, eg sundried toms, artichokes, antipasti, ham, lovely cheeses.

Lovely salad, homemade garlic bread.... quite fancy it myself now

You asked him, and he told you! It wouldn't bother me.

Bil is having turkey dinosaurs so be thankful for the pizza. If it's what he wants then what's the problem?

Thanks all.

Sorry, I didn't make it clear but I said something along the lines of 'I'm cooking and really fancy making some curries, any in particular you'd like, or let me know if there's something you'd prefer instead, open to suggestions'.

You asked him what he wanted, he told you. Not sure what the issue is.

@Ashhead24
😂😂😂 Turkey dinosaurs?!

YANBU. I totally get where you’re coming from, enjoying cooking in the kitchen, champagne on the go and Christmas carols playing is one of my favourite things about the day. Pizza, as much as it’s delicious and has its place, is the least Christmassy food he could have chosen. Tell him you want to cook an actual dish and he should therefore revise his choice. Give him some options.

Joe yes I think that's probably about the size of it. Tbh I'll feel a bit odd cooking something lavish just for myself and eating it when he's sat there eating his frozen Margharita. Which isn't his favourite food in the whole world or anything. It would have been nice if he had got on board with the occasion a bit.

better than turkey dinosaurs at least though!

Me, my husband and our children will all be having a pizza 😂😂 We love ASDA’s “Create Your Own” pizza and we can’t wait.

All the effort and time it takes to make a traditional turkey Christmas dinner is just not worth it if there are no family with us to enjoy it...our small family just doesn’t justify the amount of work that needs to go into it.

Instead it will be a fun, cosy relaxing day where we will no doubt stay in our pyjamas, watch the children excitedly unwrap and enjoy their presents, followed by a Christmas film, cuddled up on the sofa enjoying a pizza.

It sounds perfect.

DS1 is having supermarket pizza for Xmas Dinner. We are having a mix of traditional and vegan roast. DS1 would eat it if we had guests or at someone else's house, but actually doesn't really like that type of food.
Why don't you do a homemade Italian feast?

He might be thinking that he is making it easier for you by choosing pizza. I suggest that you decide what you would like to make and ask him if he wants some of it or if he still just wants pizza. He might change his mind when he hears something else is on offer.

How about getting some supermarket pizza dough and making it yourself?
Tesco do really nice pizza dough, get some Mutti pizza sauce ( available in Waitose), tear up a couple balls of Mozzarella with some fresh basil, cover with pre grated pizza mozzarella cheese and arrange 6 asparagus spears.( not environmental or seasonal, I know). It makes for a really lovely deep, unctuous pizza.

Haha sounds like the pizza option is a bit of a trend this year!

Thanks for the suggestions of making it from scratch, its a really nice idea and I love making bread but tbh my oven isn't great and I'm not certain it would be up to fresh pizza bases.