To be seething my husband is going to Xmas dinner with four households?

[nevereverplease]

My husband has agreed to go to his parents (didn't ask me what I was planning just decided without me).

I'm seething also because there's four households there and the group is aged 60-85 years old (except DH who is late 30s). He said he's going because he doesn't want to 'let them down'!??

I'm very angry, that I've been put in this position where I basically follow along with this crap or stay home alone.

People should just grow up and accept the fact this year Christmas won't be the same. I honestly don't understand why this is such an issue for my husband and people in general to understand.

We are lucky to have our health, lives so just forget about Christmas for one year.

AIBU?

Present at the dinner will be;
X 2 households (1bubble)

X 1 household

DH

Is this allowed under current rules?

Obviously its shit. But it's more shit to die a slow painful death and cause someone else to die a slow painful death by essentially CHOOSING to be in hospital fo something as irrelevant as Christmas. It's one random day plucked out the calendar. And everyone's decisions affect everyone else, so self centred and dense to go ahead with multi household plans when people will die as a direct result of your decision.

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion some posters have said it's now two households that's why I asked

Really selfish behaviour deciding that without you.

Would his family not be horrified knowing he’d left you home alone if it came to it? I know DP’s would be.

@problembottom I actually agree but maybe they'd think I'm being awkward as we are the same household so if he's gone I may as well be there as in the transmission rate is no different

I'm not saying I'm going but if I stay home I feel lo they'll think I'm making a point if that makes sense

YANBU 😡

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion
your the DH. 🤭

yanbu. I'd stay home alone and make them all ashamed.

YANBU. Don’t go with him. Make him isolate when he returns. And tbh I’d be furious and make sure he knew it. Or “develop a cough” around the 23rd so he can’t go.

As someone said just because you can do something doesn't mean you should.

YANBU! All the elderly people I've spoken to or heard about have said they're willing to take the risk of seeing multiple households in case this is their last. If they wanna risk getting Corona and dying that's fine but they would be taking up beds in hospitals, medicine and NHS time and money when there are younger, more deserving people who need it.

This entire situation has brought out the worst in people, even the most intelligent, level-headed, sane people have become utter morons, incapable of thinking of anything but their own selfish wants.

@Barmyfarmy exactly it's sickening that the people doing these would never ever refuse a hospital bed.

Utter selfishness

@Coquohvan ok then 🤭🙄

Deleted for asking whats so difficult about understanding its 3 households, really?