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To think this is really romantic

93 replies

Letmegoplease · 18/12/2020 12:29

I just saw this story pop up on my suggestions, a rather nice story from the DF in my opinion. People may obviously have their complaints but I think this is such a romantic thing to do. Yes it was stupid and reckless but so many of us do stupid things for love. Blush Grin

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9067217/Girlfriend-Romeo-jet-skier-crossed-Irish-Sea-breaks-silence-call-legend.html#article-9067217

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Rabblemum · 18/12/2020 14:04

He's a deluded idiot, not romantic at all.

LadyR77 · 18/12/2020 14:07

Nope, he's an absolute wanker.

PlanDeRaccordement · 18/12/2020 14:09

See we shouldn’t encourage such reckless behaviour in men. To me this is an example of both toxic masculinity (risking people’s lives for a booty call) and toxic feminity (calling this escapade “romantic” and “heroic” and saying you would “shag your man nonstop if he did this”)

LemonSqueezy0 · 18/12/2020 14:15

This is pathetic on so many levels.
If you are still thinking this is romantic, or a fantastic escapade, I honestly think you should look at what is lacking in your life to make your standards so low.

Covid adds to it for me, but even outside of a pandemic this is a Dick move. Literally. Shame Darwin didn't step in...

RaptorInaPorkPieHat · 18/12/2020 14:21

He's a knob.

What makes him so fucking special that the rules don't apply to him?

ColdTattyWaitingForSummer · 18/12/2020 14:30

I might have thought this was romantic when I was 18! But at the ripe old age of 30-something, I think he's a right (cov)idiot. There's the cost of the search for him, which tax payers will be picking up. There's the fact that he risked taking COVID to a community that, through strict rules and a closed border, is currently free of it. There's the two sets of kids whose Christmas has been messed up - his with daddy in jail, and hers as she's now having to isolate, so presumably they are too.
It's just the height of selfish stupidity.

RightYesButNo · 18/12/2020 14:34

@TheBumbleNums

I’m amazed that she hasn’t been arrested and charged to be honest. She knew what he’d done and then went out on the piss with him, endangering the lives of others. She should be keeping her mouth shut and hanging her head in shame. And he is a prized bellend.
THIS. Honestly, OP, you claim it’s so romantic and you’d shag a man silly for doing this for you. Well, she surely didn’t bother; they just went on the lash and endangered the whole island (as said again and again, the reason he couldn’t visit her was because of the Isle of Man’s strict coronavirus rules). Honestly, those two pubs involved should change their advertising to, “We’re the ones really worth crossing the Irish Sea for!” since he saw more of them than he spent “romantic time” with his girlfriend. So was he really so desperate for her? Because in my eyes, he would then just have gone to her house and not left. OR was he just worried about what she was doing without him, because that’s the reason a boyfriend like that “shows himself’ around the local pub, most likely. Right, yes, what a romance, but no.

@PlanDeRaccordement hit it in one, calling this both toxic masculinity from duffers like him and toxic femininity from women like you who would reward behavior that risks a a very COVID Christmas for a whole fucking island!

Beautifulbonnie · 18/12/2020 14:37

I’ve jet skied for over 20 years. I’ve raced professional races

What he did was so incredibly reckless. He crossed in winter. At dark. With no experience. He also went out on some rough seas.

Idiotic. Not romantic.

MagicMatilda · 18/12/2020 14:39

Ah I thought it was a lovely story, bless him. He didn’t mean any harm to anyone. Young and in love, what we need more of!!

Hailtomyteeth · 18/12/2020 14:41

What a fool.

LovingCountryLife · 18/12/2020 14:43

@MagicMatilda

Ah I thought it was a lovely story, bless him. He didn’t mean any harm to anyone. Young and in love, what we need more of!!
This is MN, you can’t say soppy stuff like that, you’ll be lynched Grin

Start running now if I were you Grin

SonjaMorgan · 18/12/2020 14:44

I can't imagine as an adult risking my life to visit a girlfriend I had recently met. He has children, they obviously aren't a priority.

Letmegoplease · 18/12/2020 14:48

ColdTattyWaitingForSummer

I might have thought this was romantic when I was 18! But at the ripe old age of 30-something, I think he's a right (cov)idiot. There's the cost of the search for him, which tax payers will be picking up. There's the fact that he risked taking COVID to a community that, through strict rules and a closed border, is currently free of it. There's the two sets of kids whose Christmas has been messed up - his with daddy in jail, and hers as she's now having to isolate, so presumably they are too.
It's just the height of selfish stupidity.

I do agree with this. I obviously if my DH at the age he is now did it I wouldn’t be so pleased. However when I was reading the article it felt like a story of young and reckless love think the criticism is a bit over the top. In hindsight it put a lot of people in danger I still think it was romantic though.

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Letmegoplease · 18/12/2020 14:53

“He put his life at risk”. To me that makes it even more romantic knowing he would put his life on the line to see her. Grin Blush

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JazzyGeoff · 18/12/2020 14:54

@Letmegoplease

“He put his life at risk”. To me that makes it even more romantic knowing he would put his life on the line to see her. Grin Blush
I doubt he even worked that bit out
SueEllenMishke · 18/12/2020 14:56

@Letmegoplease

“He put his life at risk”. To me that makes it even more romantic knowing he would put his life on the line to see her. Grin Blush
But he also potentially put other people's lives at risk.

It's not so romantic when you consider this.

AfterSchoolWorry · 18/12/2020 14:57

Young and reckless love?

They're both parents. They have two kids apiece.

I bet his ex is laughing her socks off at the ridiculous plonker.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 18/12/2020 14:57

You don't think that he should have thought of his kids before putting his life on the line or is his "relationship" with a woman he's only met ONCE more important? Nothing romantic about a bad father.

user1471565182 · 18/12/2020 15:00

Watch out for the ones who do grand gestures

andawaywego · 18/12/2020 15:03

@AfterSchoolWorry

Young and reckless love?

They're both parents. They have two kids apiece.

I bet his ex is laughing her socks off at the ridiculous plonker.

I give it about 3 months until she's up the duff and the papers are reporting 'pregnancy joy for lockdown jet ski couple' or some shite headline like that.
youvegottenminuteslynn · 18/12/2020 15:05

@Letmegoplease

“He put his life at risk”. To me that makes it even more romantic knowing he would put his life on the line to see her. Grin Blush
Yes but the point is that to make his big gesture, he put other people at risk too. Which is what makes it a dick move not a romantic one.
GlummyMcGlummerson · 18/12/2020 15:07

Man illegally drives a jet ski to another country, prompting hard working volunteers to give up their valuable time in efforts to search for him.

Shakespeare eat your heart out Hmm

grassisjeweled · 18/12/2020 15:09

I love it, great story

MrsTerryPratchett · 18/12/2020 15:13

I'd shag the coastguard. But not this idiot.

Stupidity isn't attractive. And messing with the sea is stupid, regardless of covid.

BrumBoo · 18/12/2020 15:14

@Letmegoplease

“He put his life at risk”. To me that makes it even more romantic knowing he would put his life on the line to see her. Grin Blush
Would you think the same if he climbed a mountain in his underwear and needed a helicopter to rescue him? Because it's pretty much equal in stupidity and waste of search and rescue effort, never mind that bad conditions puts the rescuers lives at risk.

I dont know where you live, @Letmegoplease but I grew up near both the Irish Sea and mountains. Sorry to be a killjoy, but I've known too many incidents of bodies being brought home to families due to completely avoidable situations to find your increasingly goady posts even remotely amusing.