What do you do about family wanting to break Christmas Covid rules?

[BuckleBuckaroo]

Not sure if this should go here or Covid thread. Because the rules say mixing/ bubble with 2 other households I am having my parents over christmas and then its only fair to have dh parents over. That the 2 household limit. Mil and Fil coming on 23rd and my parents coming on 25th. But now Sil is trying to invite herself over on the 23rd but she does not live with Mil so thats a 3rd household. So that would mean we were breaking the rules if we had my parents over. Dh told his sister this and she is giving him the silent treatment. Now Mil is saying it is his sister for goodness sake and making her feel unwelcome. Aibu to think its fair to have one household from my family and one from dh's and not to break christmas covid rules as thats not fair on people following the rules. Sil also lives with 2 flatmates and is a teacher so might have a higher risk of having covid?

Agree re not seeing other people's. Dsil is alone so she can go to her Mom. You and DH together. Your parents together. Sorted.

CharlieD2020 thank you

SleepingStandingUp if Mil and Fil get to see Sil then what is wrong with my parents visiting me. They don't have anyone else to visit. It's fairly like Sil will be also seeing her aunt and cousin.

I think the easiest way to get the message across about bending the rules is to explain that by seeing multiple generations this Christmas may mean you don’t have to worry about making the decision next year.
Perhaps we should just let the elderly enjoy a big family Christmas one last time. Leave it up to them to risk assess. If they don’t make it to next year then it’s their decision.
I have given up trying to explain why Christmas bubbles just won’t work. We are not mixing with any other family this year. I’m a frontline health worker and have not had contact with any vulnerable family members since April. I’m not about to put them at risk over Christmas.

@BuckleBuckaroo

SleepingStandingUp if Mil and Fil get to see Sil then what is wrong with my parents visiting me. They don't have anyone else to visit. It's fairly like Sil will be also seeing her aunt and cousin.

Well I have no idea who else they're seeing our of you have siblings. Plus you thought it unfair do should get his family but not you so surely it's unfair the other way to oo

Christmas bubbles wouldn’t work for my house either if I had all my children coming home. 3 have since left the coup.
They have decided that 2 will spend tine with each and one comes here based on who is closest to who.
On Christmas Day we are face timing.

It’s complicated here as I am CEV and two are also CV. I’ve got a nasty chest infection that’s already landed me in hospital. Haven’t been able to completely shift it since I “recovered” from CV19 back in March. And because I didn’t require hospital for CV I didn’t have severe. My lung capacity back then was 97% (amazing for a life long asthmatic) now 83% and as a result the decline has also given caution to others we know.

@BuckleBuckaroo

SleepingStandingUp if Mil and Fil get to see Sil then what is wrong with my parents visiting me. They don't have anyone else to visit. It's fairly like Sil will be also seeing her aunt and cousin.

If SIL will also be seeing her aunt then your in-laws can’t come to you anyway as that’s already their three household. So you don’t see you in-laws and then you can see your parents. But you can’t see all of them.

I’m not religious, so to me
the date itself means sweet f-a. We’ve spent years placating one set of parents or another by splitting out the bits of Christmas over a few days (Turkey, Buck’s Fizz for breakfast, lozzing about in pyjamas, Santa, getting dressed up, going out for walks... just that on the 25th we spend ages in the car... but it doesn’t matter because we get to do all our favs on other days).

OP, could you suggest to one set of guests that you all do a “proper big Christmas” in spring / when January is over instead? Then you dont have some crappy compromise edition and ill feeling now.

I had a family member wanting to meet up indoors with us and two other households, while staying with another household where yet another household was visiting. All this after visiting four other households before coming to stay from the worst hit area of the country currently. I said I wanted no part of it. We're seeing people outside only this year.