Nursery teacher swore at children?

[babom]

Maybe more WWYD than AIBU...

DS started nursery in September and has loved going in, teachers seem lovely.

We was playing "school" last night and he got to be the teacher. We gathered all the teddies to be other students.
He was mimicking all the things that I can imagine his teacher does in class and it was brilliant until little teacher then says in a sentence "...fxcking dxckhead childrens..."

I asked what did you say? And asked once more just incase I really did mishear him. I asked where did he hear that from? (Neither me or his dad say f'ing d'head, he doesn't watch YouTube, no other people are around him such as other family we don't live close to them).
He says Mrs XXXXXXX said it, his school teacher. I said really? when did she say that?
He just said yeah and repeated the phrase again.

I'm pretty sure I can tell when DS is lying as he will laugh straight away and then says the truth and it didn't seem so as he had no reaction after saying it was his teacher.
I'm not sure how to address it with teacher without accusing her? Would she be offended? Is it even something I should address? I feel like so but don't know if I'm overreacting... first time mum
We've had the discussion about not using it again and he nodded. Should it end here really?

Gosh. I'd absolutely address this formally with her manager.

Crikey, raise this with the manager of pre school, just say you what you have said here... You can usually spot when he lies... I'd have big alarm bells ringing about my child going to that pre school!!

I saw said teacher this morning too and didn't say anything, she just REALLY doesn't seem like someone to say that and she's heavily pregnant too which is maybe why I'm holding back as don't want to cause her any stress.
My heart does believe DS though and I often think people laughing off young children telling serious truth is when a bigger problem happens. I'm thinking of going to the school office and asking who I can speak to regards when I pick him up at 3.

There is absolutely no way this has come from a nursery teacher. It's much more likely to be one of the other children and he's either mis-remembering it or doesn't want to get them in trouble.

Honestly, don't report it. Just move on.

I was the heavily pregnant teacher who was cornered by a furious parent who shouted in my face that I’d told her child to ‘sit down and take her fucking wings off’ (mini beast dress up day).
I hadn’t.

Raise it if you must, but it is far more likely that another child has said it than the teacher.

Feel free to ask, but my money is on one of the little poppets saying ‘fucking dickheads’ and not a member of staff.
Years back, I had a parent complain about their child ‘using language’ and I asked if anyone swore at home.
She said ‘Well, I sometimes say ‘Get up them stairs you little fucker’ but you don’t expect them to say it back do you?’
Yes, I do.
That’s how they learn.

There is absolutely no way this has come from a nursery teacher.

How can you say that?!

I'd think it's more likely to be copied from another child or misheard/mispronounced e.g. fuzzy ducks and chickens or similar

I would guess another kid and not the teacher.

Honestly I just can’t imagine that any nursery teacher would say this - I teach over 16s and we have a very relaxed atmosphere and I still manage not to swear at them, so someone who works with little ones all day every day...they’re so tuned into watching their language it doesn’t even enter your mind to swear! I mean I’m as sweary as anything in real life yet I’ll stand there and say “oh my goodness!” to a burly 18 year old because it’s just ingrained.

One of the other kids ' playing teacher'. But do raise it as there is something going on in class. Either your son or somw other poor child has heard jt somewhere.
It may be she said it in the staff room!

I can't imagine even the most frustrated nursery worker saying these particular words about very young children, whether directly to them, or overheard. Other colourful phrases conceivably, but not this one. There must surely be another explanation.

But still worth raising in a spirit of enquiry, in case your DS was parroting another child. It's still wholly unacceptable language to be doing the rounds in a nursery.

I'd raise it as if you're assuming it came from one of the other children. If it wasn't her then she can listen out for sweary kids, if it was her she'll know to be more careful in future.

Think I'd be more inclined to speak to the pregnant teacher and say that your child said fucking dickhead children and you're just letting them know as he said he heard it at nursery.

Don't say who he heard it from as she will know if it's herself and will be mortified

Doesn't surprise me.
A relative of mine works in childcare. She saw some horrendous behaviours from the nursery staff when she was doing her training. Very similar to what you describe OP.
He wouldn't just come out with that on his own. Report it to the nursery.

I'd bet my last KitKat that it wasn't the nursery staff that said it. He's a kid, give him a break, he's probably heard one of the other kids say it and got mixed up.

I don't understand why you didn't speak to the person in question- if you had, you'd probably both have had a chuckle at the things kids say and moved on. If it helps, he probably tells her all sorts of stories about you too - not in a nasty way but because it's what kids do, they miss hear and get mixed up all the time

I should probably say, I've previously worked in a nursery and never once heard any of the staff swear, no matter how stressed they were

Please don't accuse the teacher, as PP have said, mention that he heard it in class. Then keep an eye on the situation, maybe play 'teachers' again in a few days. I can imagine that sometimes school staff might let slip a little rant thinking they are out of earshot but 'dickhead' is such an odd word to describe children!

Sorry to say your sons mixed it up don’t embarrass yourself by tacking it further .

My son overheard some bad language in a shop at that age he mentioned it to my mother and said his teacher said it.

Best way to raise it is as a PP suggested, DS has said this at home, has he said it in nursery?

If it is the teacher then she'll know to be more careful with her language. She's only human and may have sworn in frustration under her breath more loudly than she realised.

If she had sworn AT the children it's very likely another staff member would have heard.

I’d say it’s far more likely to have come from another child than the teacher.

Do raise it, but be careful how you do it. Don’t go in with the assumption that is was the teacher.

I’d be very shocked if this happened exactly as he’s said. Not that he’s lying, but he’s a young child and they misremember or misinterpret things very easily. Far, far more likely it’s another child who’s said it (or possibly the parent of another child while dropping off or picking up)

Speak to the staff but do not go in accusing anyone

I was a teacher in a school nursery class years ago. A parent once told me her child had sat her toys round in front of her and said 'if you kids don't bloody shut up I'm not reading this story' . I hadn't said it and the parent didn't, for one minute, think I had. She told me because she thought it was funny.

I'd take it with a pinch of salt and not jump to conclusions, she probably got it from another child.

I would be gobsmacked if this were true. In 25 years of teaching, I’ve never heard a colleague swear in front of a child. Go and speak to them and explain what your child has said and see if you can get to the bottom of it.

Obviously if it’s true, the teacher will probably face a disciplinary.