Pissed of at DH

[Pissoffbikes]

So more of a moan than anything so sorry about that

So my DH has a hobby - let's say cycling. And he decided at the weekend he wanted to buy a brand new bike for £750. He just decided this without having a discussion with me and it arrived today.

We don't have a joint account and we split the bills so the rest of our money is our own but I'm just so pissed of that he has spent that amount of money without even discussing it with me.

He has bought it on finance so it's not like 750 gone in one hit but we don't have a lot of money- we live paycheck to paycheck so it feels like a lot. Especially as recently we had a problem in the house that needed to be fixed urgently that cost £500. He didn't have any money so I paid that all of.

I would absolutely love to have £750 to just spend on whatever I want but I just don't. We have a DC so there's always things we need to buy for them, after all bills etc are paid there really isn't much left so buying treats isn't much of an option. I had my haircuts for the first time in 2 years a couple of months ago and that felt massive.

Idk what to do. I told him I was really upset that he's done this and he apologised etc but now I'm just left feeling so shitty but he's apologised so what can I even do?
Sorry that was a ramble.

TLDR - my DH spent £750 without consulting me. AIBU to continue to be upset after he has apologised?

@Pissoffbikes

He's shit with money. He can afford the repayments if it comes out at the beginning of the month. Part of the problem is that he spends all his money within the first week or two of getting paid so then it's down to me to get us through the rest of the month which is why I end up with no money.

You need to work out his fair share of bills and have a direct debit go from his account to yours on the first of a month. He then can only use what he actually has.

@MsPants
Well, she did raise him!
Actually I adored my MIL. But she was also quite inept.

i love it when people miss the point entirely

the man has got credit he cant afford to pay back for a hobby yet they cant book a holiday because he said it was too expensive

selfish

If he can't get his head around figures tell him his attitude boils down to what's yours is mine and what's mine is mine.

I actually don't believe he didn't have his share of the £500. How much do you really know about his finances, outgoings, savings OP? I think he just shrugs and says he has no money left when it's something he doesn't want to pay out on, knowing you'll pick up the shortfall.

He needs to start paying his share of repairs and child expenses. You need to be both paying into a saving account for surprise expenses and holidays.

The problem is hes claiming he cant afford to contribute to family expenses but is spending on his own luxuries. I'd be so ashamed of him and would tell him how little respect I had for him

If it arrived mail order it can absolutely be returned under distance selling regs, and that would be the ultimatum here.
Either it goes back or I go.