Do household appliances count as gifts?

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I don't mean replacing something that's broken/on it's last legs or something that was never in the house and being bought for the first time.

More like, one partner wants a bigger bed, a comfier sofa(i forgot to include household items in the title too) , a nicer TV, a bigger fridge.. things like that and the other partner buys they for Christmas/birthday,especially if the wishes are expressed around that time.

YABU - household items/appliances are not gifts and it's a lazy/disrespectful/horrible thing to do.

YANBU - if it's an expressed wish then it counts as a gift.

It depends whether the recipient is happy to get such things, I think, rather than a general rule.

I'm happy to, as is DH; we went halves on a bread maker for our wedding anniversary gift to each other.

Games consoles, hair gadgets and maybe a tv if it’s purely an upgrade to a working one I’d say were gifts.

Rest no. Household essentials and not a gift. Bit like buying clothes, toothbrushes etc for children for Christmas.

Can’t see the voting but yanbu. If it is EXPRESSED then that would be a fantastic gift. I’d love a eufy Robert hoover but it wouldn’t work in this house. I’d happily have one as a present.
If I got a household item without the wish then all bets are off.

I mean - Ive asked for a new oven, a cooler washing machine and a kitchen aid as Christmas gifts so I would count it as a gift myself....

This year ive asked for a new steam injection oven, and the new shark hoover 😂

Yanbu.

I think it depends on the recipient and if they have expressly asked for the item?
If they are a keen baker and have asked for a KitchenAid then fair enough.
If they've mentioned the sofa is looking a bit tatty and maybe it should be replaced in the coming year, then no.

Yes if asked for. I got a Lakeland heated airer as a birthday present one year and was very happy (but I had asked for it).
This year's Christmas present from husband to me, and also from me to husband, is a fancy new coffee machine as the last one broke and we are both working from home. We may have started using it already.

Is it supporting a hobby or something they love to eat or drink? A stand mixer if someone loves to bake, a coffeemaker if someone loves coffee, etc... that's a gift. A new kettle is probably not. A slow cooker to help them prepare family meals is not. Anything to do with cleaning is deffo not!

It very much depends. I got a kitchen aid mixer years ago and love it, it's probably still one of my favourite presents but I know many people would be unhappy with such a gift.

If its asked for then its absolutely fine.

However not just like 'we need a need dishwasher, ill give it to DH for xmas'

God no.

I mean who honestly thinks of gifting a washing machine/hoover/kettle etc as a present.

I think they’re definitely gifts. Quite typical type of gifts in my household.

Yes, household stuff is a great gift. DH and I are getting each other some plaster board for Xmas. One birthday I got him the kitchen sink 🙈

We do normal presents at times we don't have a big house project going on but right now we have a massive one and as neither of us want anything it makes sense to both contribute to that instead.

They shouldn’t be gifts in my opinion, unless you’re being tight/ thoughtless. I’m sure plenty of people don’t mind if they ask for it in advance but I wouldn’t like to receive an item like that for sure.

An everyday household item, no I wouldn’t be happy with as a present. So no to new bed or bigger fridge. But I would be quite happy with non essential kitchen gadgets as a gift, e.g. Kitchenaid, bread maker, ice cream maker.

@lioncitygirl what makes a washing machine cooler?
I would rather have nothing than a household item as a gift, assuming money was tight.

I got a bed one year for my birthday.

Ours was fine but I wanted a bigger one and it had to be lift up.

I don't know but maybe because it wasn't really essential, plus I chose the colour,specs etc and it was what I wanted it did feel like a gift and it made me very happy.

I think it depends. I'd love a ring doorbell or a shark hoover for Christmas but I know that other people would be appalled! I think it entirely depends on the person!

I'd be fine with it if I'd been allowed to pick a shortlist. I'd not be happy to receive something like a kitchen aid mixer as I would have no use for it.

the possible problem is it can been seen as at least partly a gift for yourself like if you buy a tv you will watch it

I think it depends.

If there's not alot of spare cash on the family, it isn't as simple as saying they should just be brought generally. If the only way to justify a coffee maker is as a present and only one person really wants it , then it's a present. Or of you both want it it's a reciprocal present.
Buying your OH a kettle to replace the broken one because they broke it / use it the most, not ok

It very much depends.
Not every couple is the same.

We get untensils for example. I like to cook a certain thing so I get good quality dish as a present.
He gets something for what he cooks or makes.

I would be absolutely ok with good quality hoover too. I like to hoover! I do hate mopping. He mops.

Do coffee machines count? Because he got that as a present, though I use ut sometimes too.

Not sure about washing machine. But if I ever asked for it? Why not.

It depends. My fancy KitchenAid mixer was definitely for me. If DH got me a Hoover, he'd see his arse sharpish.

I think it depends on your financial circumstances. Lady Gawain and I are fortunate to be able to afford most of the things we would want or need and we are comfortably off. (Not wildly wealthy or particularly materialistic). We tend to by things when we need them and so don't bother much with major presents for Christmas or birthdays. I suppose if we were less priviliged we might buy such things as gifts to each other. As children and during child-rearing years we managed but were not well off so that may have shaped our attitude to money.