Do household appliances count as gifts?

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I don't mean replacing something that's broken/on it's last legs or something that was never in the house and being bought for the first time.

More like, one partner wants a bigger bed, a comfier sofa(i forgot to include household items in the title too) , a nicer TV, a bigger fridge.. things like that and the other partner buys they for Christmas/birthday,especially if the wishes are expressed around that time.

YABU - household items/appliances are not gifts and it's a lazy/disrespectful/horrible thing to do.

YANBU - if it's an expressed wish then it counts as a gift.

The first year we moved into our first ever house with dd we were struggling with baby and household tasks. My dmil asked me what we like for xmas. I said a dishwasher. My pil and my parents shared the cost but honestly that still working dishwasher is the best present ever for dh and myself. Its used daily. We were ok with no other presents that year although dmil got us some new pjs as a suprise as that dishwasher made a huge difference to our life. My dsis asked for a washing machine one year from her dpil who kindly got it as a joint present. Sometimes you cant afford something that is needed and that gift means sooo much. Dh and myself are getting a steamer and egg poucher this year which we be vvvv grateful for as the ones we have are now burning our hands and we use them daily. So answer to question depends on if the gift is needed and couldnt be afforded otherwise x

Really depends on the person I think. This year I've hinted that I would quite like to have a breadmaker and have in the past asked for a digital scale for baking. Both benefit everyone in the house, but are relevant to things I particularly enjoy (like having decent bread). I would be less than delighted with a mop though. Things like a piece of furniture would be ok if it makes both partners happy, but I'd probably hope for at least a small present (book or similar) that shows some effort has been made.

I got a robovac for my birthday which sounds shit but l really wanted one - DH always tell me during the year if l see something l want to just get it (obvs l don't spoil myself but then odd little treat here and there), so by the time my birthday arrived, l didn't need anything. Best present ever! Saves me so much time which l can then spend doing nicer things than hoovering. I am sure some people will think DH should Hoover too but he works 6 days a week and l am at home a lot more so l naturally am the main hoover upper!

We are getting a toaster this year from SIL - our current one is struggling after 13 years and whether it chooses to toast or not seems to be down to how it feels on the day. I'm quite excited about it I wouldn't buy someone a household appliance if they hadn't asked for it though.

If it's unnecessary, it's a gift. So if you have a Hoover, but have been ogling the shark or euffy, then that might be one. If your hoover is rubbish and needs replacing with another basic hoover, then it isn't.

@Nicketynac - I got an Samsung one which did a lot more than the old one I had.

Absolutely not in my house. DH offered to buy me a new iron one Christmas .... he changed his mind when I told him where I would put it if he did .....

I love asking for household gifts as presents. Because they are always something I really want so I am excited to get them. To be honest I have no idea why - my hubby wouldn’t even blink if I bought the things myself without them being a present...but for some reason because they are things I really want I prefer them as presents. For one wedding anniversary I asked for a second dishwasher, for my 50th I asked for a ninja foodie. I bought my husband a fancy knife and chopping board for his birthday and was so excited by them. More excited about then than the Apple Watch I also bought him.

I’ve suggested we have our front path redone as a Christmas present - maybe some time in the next coffee months. It looks very tatty with lots of peeling paint, but it doesn’t need to be done. It’s a nice to have extra, therefore counts as a gift to ourselves. We will get no other presents.

Few, not coffee!

Definately not for me.

But I'd be happy with my favourite box of chocolates for about a tenner, or a new orchid for a fiver.
The appliance / household item would be brought jointly, but not as a present.

It really depends how the receiver feels about it and if the appliance is something that they will be excited by.

I received a food processor as a housewarming gift, and I have bought my partner a barbecue for Christmas. Both have / will be very much appreciated. I would be unimpressed with an iron though.

It depends on what it is. A new fridge/washing machine/microwave wouldn't be a gift as the whole house would benefit.

A fancy coffee machine or weird kitchen gadget is a maybe.

A tablet, laptop, Alexa etc would be a gift to me.

It depends on lots of things.
It's maybe a little strange if one partner is buying it for the other, if they are going to use it just as much.
My parents once bought a dishwasher as a joint gift for DH and me - that definitely counts as a (very generous) present. If it had been DH buying it for me, or vice Versa - not so much (though we would still have doubtless been pleased not to have to take our turn at washing up.)

I have bought a coffee machine for DH before - I don't drink coffee, so it was definitely just for him, and he has bought kitchen things that I have specifically asked for too.

I got a new stand mixer out of the family pot pre first lock down and tbh I would have been delighted to get one as a present. I use it daily to make bread, fruit loaf, dough etc. So although it's a family item, I derive higher pleasure from it.

If somebody bought me an iron I would be mighty pissed off as I haaaate ironing.

Surely it depends, personally I love practical things, and I would hate jewellery/clothes/perfume/books/music/spa voucher etc as a present. I absolutely don't want a 'surprise' ... the best present my DH could give me would be to take my car to the garage & get it valeted (or do it himself ). This year he's chosen his own present - hair clippers! He has asked me to chose something for myself and he will wrap it up. Suits me ... but I know some people love a surprise or ££££s spent on them.

It depends, as previous posters said.

I got an Instant Pot for my birthday last year and I love it. The year before, I got a Kenwood stand mixer. This year it’s a new toaster. The glamour is never ending!

But I’m also one of those boring people who don’t want gifts and who have decluttered ferociously over the past few years, so DP and my family are happy when I suggest “utilitarian” things.

I've asked for a drill and/or a food processor lol. However these will be from parents/siblings not from a partner.

Husbands buying wives unasked for domestic items is massively entertaining for everyone else. I'll always remember my Aunt being so impressed with a frying pan she twatted my uncle over the head with it

Actually I would be impressed with a frying pan if it's some really good one

I think they are, I’m getting a new saucepan set and spare battery for my hoover.

If they’ve asked for it then,yes, it’s a good gift.
If it’s something that’s needed, will make their easier and cannot be afforded otherwise then it can make a thoughtful gifts also.
I’ve never had an issue with useful presents like hoovers etc... if rather the ones was spent wisely.

Money not ones!

My friends are buying themselves a robot hoover as a joint present this year.
Other friends bought themselves a coffee maker last year.

I asked for a bread maker last year, and I'm getting more baking things this year.

(I also think clothes are good presents for DC)

The thing is that if you are buying it as a present you usually spend bit more than you would normally and buy the better option. At least that's what I've concluded from my non academic research amongst my mates over the years😂