So he’s cleaning the bathroom...

[BashfulClam]

I know ianbu as cleaning the bathroom is always left to me but I had a strop and DH has said ‘fine I’ll do it, it’s not like it’s difficult!’

So in the last 10 minutes, ‘where are the rubber gloves? Which cloth do I use? What do I use to clean the bath?Do we have loo cleaner?’ What do I use on the glass?’ all items are in a storage thing in the bathroom. He has also soaked the floor cleaning the shower screen. I’d be lying if I wasn’t so slightly smug as I passed saying ‘remember to wipe down all the tiles, it’s not that hard!’

@ItRubsTheLotionOnItsSkin

And people need to stop thinking they are "lucky" that their DH/DP does housework even though they have a cock.

I mean, come on. Is the bar set so low that we should be grateful for people doing basic fucking housework in the house they live in? People need to stop seeing it as helping - oh, and a bonus if they do it without even being asked.

I am giving this post a standing ovation.

I had an ex. His flat was spotless. When I went around clean bedding, towels everything

When the CF moved in with me he seemed to forget he shouldn’t leave his dirty underpants oh the floor. He couldn’t use a washing machine or a duster

Thing is he’d been living independently since 18 and we met many many years later before he suddenly couldn’t do these things after movIng in with me

[quote ancientgran]@Gwenhwyfar I have 3 bins in the kitchen, the waste that goes to the tip, the compost bin and the recycling bin. The first two go straight into their bins outside the recycling bin has to be sorted for different containers e.g. cardboard and paper don't go in the same container, there is one for glass, one for plastic. I haven't got a big enough kitchen to have enough bins. Actually what I've started doing recently is I get the bin bag of waste for the tip and put the compost bag in it, it is only small, then I have carrier bags for the other things which I sort out from the recycling bin so I just take the compost bag out of the big bag and put them in their bins and empty the carrier bags into the respective containers. It is second nature to me now but was mind blowing when it started and even before he was officially classified as disabled he couldn't bend well so the array of low containers weren't easy for him.[/quote]
Well, that is complicated!

@Gwenhwyfar, all residents could be classified as waste disposal experts. It works surprisingly well in my experience but you do need space for lots of bins, I'm not sure how people with big families cope.

My DH is perfectly capable of all household tasks but is terminally lazy and has to be cajoled (nagged) into doing them. My biggest pet hate is if he's cleaned the bathroom, he'll ask " is it clean enough? "
Obviously my answer is "Well, is it clean? If it's not clean, it's not clean enough". I try really hard not to be a martyr and do everything, but it's hard seeing him do it badly

"OTOH, who actually cleans their bathroom at a designated time slot. DS and his partner have a dedicated bathroom cleaning slot. I dont get it, you wipe the sink round after use, spray the shower screen with cleaner and give it a quick wipe after use, same with the bath, keep it clutter free, quick wipe of the floor on hands and knees, every day. same with tiles or glass."

Hmmm. You really wipe and clean the shower screen after every use and clean the mirror every day.
I squeegee my shower screen and will give the shower floor and sink a wipe from time to time. but every now and then you need a dedicated hour or so to bathroom cleaning.

@ItRubsTheLotionOnItsSkin

I see this is meant to be lighthearted but it always makes me when people set their bars so fucking low. It's not endearing or slightly exasperating or "well what can you do" when a grown man can't clean a fucking sink.

Agreed. Are you his housekeeper or his wife?

[quote BashfulClam]@Aquamarine1029 he’s muttering away, he’s actually quite an intelligent guy. His way of getting out of dirty housework is to get the hoover out and that will be his contribution. So I clean bathrooms, kitchen including cooker, tidy, dust, clean windows, put away the washing (although he does the washing) and we both take responsibility for the dishwasher.

He mopped the floor once using the spray mop but didn’t realise the fabric bit wasn’t on it as I had it in the washing machine 🤦🏻‍♀️[/quote]
Hoovering is just mowing the lawn inside. It doesn't count.

DP and me clean one bathroom each.

@Newjez he does the mowing because i have awful hay fever. I can’t actually hoover our living room as we have a really thick carpet and it’s bloody hard to hoover it.

He’s doing ever-so well, isn’t he boys and girls?’

Ugh yanbu

It’s the questions that get me - where is x? What should I use to do y?

Ffs - easier to do it myself

FML, some of these replies! I seriously hope I am not bringing my DC up to have these attitudes - male and female.

Any adult is capable of cleaning a house. So an adult acting as though they are "incompetent" in this area is either thick as mince and shouldn't be in a relationship, or they are taking the piss.

Leaving aside the competence issue, it's an issue of laziness and respect for your partners (aka taking the piss). I absolutely hate cleaning, I have at best a basic competence and if I lived on my own, I would be too lazy to do it and my house would be a tip. But I don't live on my own, I live with a DH who likes to live in a clean house and DC who also need to have a hygienic house and a good example to follow.

If DH had his way he would clean every single item in the house twice a day and probably get up at night to do it again. IMO this is excessive so we meet in the middle. I recognise the house needs to be cleaned to be hygienic, and DH recognises his version of hygienic is OTT. It's a matter of having respect for each other. I can't imagine sitting on my arse doing nothing expecting someone to clean up all of the house I also live in, and I also can't imagine DH whining he doesn't know what cleaning product to use and can I help him. It's so fucking disrespectful to each other. He doesn't expect me to spend 4 hours cleaning the bathroom just because he likes a very sparkling bathroom, and I don't expect him to sit in a lounge which is never hoovered ever. It's just being kind to each other and respecting each other's POV.

I think 99.99% of Mn threads could be solved with the mantra "equal leisure time and equal disposable income" so we start from there when it comes to who cleans, we balance it so we each have equal "free" time so one week I may do more of the cleaning, the next week he might. But we are both able to clean to a decent standard as we are fucking adults, and we meet in the middle.

If your partner isn't prepared to even do that, they don't have any respect for you and would prefer to be lazy and selfish. Fuck that.

(Obviously we are not quite as perfect as that in RL, I have just bribed my DD to clean the cat food station up as it's my turn but I can't be arsed. DH will probably spend his "equal free time" later using that HG mould spray which asphyxiates everyone and I will complain But the principle is there at least!)

These men that don't know what bleach is and where the dusters are kept need to grow the fuck up and show some respect and kindness to their partners.