So jealous of ex-he’s wealth

[Onedropbeat]

I know I am being unreasonable because I’d never want to be with him. He was financially, emotionally and physically abusive throughout our whole marriage and I’m glad we never had children together

I’m now in a safe and happy relationship with lovely babies

However, I’m so badly jealous of ex-h’s wealth.
He’s never worked hard but fell into a high paying career and after I left he bought a huge country house.
Hes constantly travelling to lovely places, has multiple lovely classic cars and this year he’s had a huge Christmas bonus. (No idea how much obviously but it’s between £5-10k.

I on the other hand am in a house that’s too small, too cold, with clothes that don’t quite fit, haven’t been on a holiday for a long time, with a car that needs fixing that I’m struggling to afford and a job that I work really hard at but will never pay huge sums

I’m feeling all very woe is me right now but it feels so unfair that someone who was so horrible and awful is doing so well when life is quite a struggle here

If friends do mention how well he's doing, just say 'thank you for letting me know but it was years ago and I'm just not interested in what he's up to.'

Why are your friends still telling you about him. It’s been 5 years

@Starlightstarbright1

Different but relevant - my childhood.My parents were rich but abusive.. I would have given anything to have poor loving parents. I think it has damaged my life in a way that I have never recovered from.

You have a chance for a new life.Tell people you don't want to know.

This puts things in perspective

Thank you for sharing and I’m sorry for your childhood experience

In my experience the people who brag about money the most are usually the ones who don't really have it. If he really got a big bonus he wouldn't be bragging to all and sundry about it - how crass! I also second the suspicion that he is in lots of debt.

I used to be like this with my ex and for ages he was doing better than me. However, revenge truly is a dish best served cold and he really isn’t doing better than me now. I’m hardly a millionaire or anything but all I did was be nice and wait it out and I finally got my nice life. You will too @Onedropbeat Let the twatty ex go, I promise you’ll feel better for it and one day you’ll come out on top (can’t promise the second bit sadly!) You’ll definitely feel better knowing that you’re having a lovely life though.

@ImnotCarolineHirons

If he's that rich why aren't you getting more child maintenance so your children aren't living in a cold house ?

If you're that bitchy why can't you actually read and comprehend the details given in the OP? Duh!!

Better to have made a genuine mistake than be a bitch on purpose

Apologies @WhereverIGoddamnLike

Your comparing your inside to his outside
He’s kicking around in a huge dusty house that will cost a fortune to run
He might have loads of money but that doesn’t buy happiness
You have a lovey child and partner

He’s never going to be truly happy due to the abusive sod he is

Comparison is the thief of joy.

@Onedropbeat

To be honest I’m surprised he’s done so wel as I was sure he’d have been broke by now

When we were together he stole thousands from me, had thousands from my parents bailing him out due to his gambling addiction which I assume he just now have under control

Appearances can be deceptive. You don’t know that he doesn’t owe millions and whether he still has someone bailing him out. You get half the picture from people who should really be keeping their noses out.

He might have the big house and fancy cars but he doesn’t have you!

All that cash won’t keep him warm at night, will it? It won’t keep him company during the day and it certainly won’t give him unconditional love! Every time he comes into your head, just think of this because he is a sad old man and I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t swap you little one for any amount of cash! You have a hell of a lot, that money CANT buy!🙂

@TakeMe2Insanity

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Did you not read the whole thread or at least OP’s posts before you spouted your pearls of wisdom?

[quote Onedropbeat]@ExitChasedByAnImposter
I made it part of the divorce agreement that he paid my parents back with the proceeds of selling the house

He managed to get out of paying me back somehow but I was too exhausted to keep fighting for it[/quote]
That’s horrible. Is he allowed to not comply? I thought it would be your lawyer’s job to make sure he pays back every penny, it shouldn’t be on you