Would you take your 3 week old to an Amy Winehouse gig?

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Please let rip on me here, I need to know if it's just me that has a problem with this.

It's two fold. This morning I received DP's birthday present to me. It's standing tickets to see La Winehouse at Manchester.

1. I'm due to give birth any day now, if I gave birth today (early!!) our baby would be just over 7 weeks old and if I go two weeks overdue, she'll be 26 days old on the day of the gig.

2. I live in Sheffield

Any one care to comment so far?

I'm am livid that I've received such a thoughless, useless present. Normally I would pretend to like what I've been given if it's not quite what I'd like but how the hell could I use this? (I'm not a shrinking violet, I'm a baby comes too kind of a gal but wtf!!!)

My second issue is that lack of thought that's gone into this. Yes, I like Amy's music v. much and I love going to gigs but for the past four years I've been subject to the plethora of gifts you can buy in 5 minutes over the internet. That's OK I hear you say but these are the sort of gifts that you could buy for anybody, i.e. ZERO thought has gone into them. Last year flowers and chocolates for example.
I am so far at the back of his thoughts that I've even had mothers day's where I've known he's bought his mum a card but I've received ... yes, you guessed, nothing! (At this point dd's were 2 so could hardly be expected to sort it out themselves).

Maybe this bit should be in relationships in the , my boyfriend clearly doesn't give a flying f*ck about my feelings, am I about to be dumped and why the hell am I about to have another child with this man? Anyone care to comment on this?

Again, I'm throughly p'd off. He has all year to come up with a decent present for me. Hell! This year I actually told him what I wanted. I ripped it out of a magazine complete with picture and said this is what our dd's should get me to make it a bit of a joke and put it in his hand to avoid being in this situation....

Let me know what you think.
Clearly I need to get this out of my system as I'm ranting for England aren't I?
Am I being a Surrey princess or do I have a point?

yanbu
you do have a point
men, what are they like!

No.

Is he mad?

I would accept and sell them immediatly on ebay- using the funds to buy something more useful ( a day at a bloody spa perhaps??!!)

telling him eaxctly what you are doing.

are some people just stupid?

Oh dear.

I think in other circs that might be a good present - showing he wants you to keep up your life as a normal person and retain your interests and have fun together...

But yes, the timing is a bit daft.

he he, I was ging to suggest ebay too
Just sell your ticket and don't tell him so he ends up standing next to a complete stranger!!

is he hoping that you'll say no can't go and that he'll be able to take his mate?

what an idiot!

lovely present, but crap timing, you won't be able to leave baby nor take it with unless you are totally mad. You could always invest in a set of Pelter ear protectors for the baby ;0) It sounds like your DP has no clue what is about to hit him as far as social life and going out goes....

Oh! He wasn't planning on going to the gig with me just for the record so this isn't about us having time together.

Also, I'll be breastfeeding new daughter so not sure how he thinks that's going to work.

I actually told him that they weren't suitable (he bought them on ebay himself - not that this is relevant) so he needs to reauction them.

I did also state what he could buy with the proceedings, however I suspect hell may freeze over before there's a smile on my face about this one.

I must admit yanbu at all. My hubbie can be a bit like this so much so that a couple of years ago I told him in no uncertain terms that he had to buck his ideas up for my Christams present as a copy of the very hungry caterpillar with stuffed caterpillar was not considered a good present, especially when I already had a copy of the book!!!!! (I was a teacher at the time)

It's not the money he spent it was the lack of thought that really upset me. Buy me a book, sure I read loads, BUT get one I want to read and write a lovely messesge in it... it's not bloody rocket science.

I would do what the others suggested -sell them and use the money to buy yourself something you want after the baby's born.

Good luck!

Saffy - he's the proud father of (nearly) 4 year old twin daughters!

Thanks muppetgirl you made me smile and you really understand what is bugging me about this gift.

He may yet manage to make it to his next birthday !

mad. YANBU. I mean apart from everything else, the noise level will be far too much for your baby's ears. Sell your ticket. Or both of them. Get something nice.

YANBU - is he really this thoughtless all the time?

Don't let him reauction the tickets - you'll never see anything back from them. Re-sell them yourself (they are yours, after all!) and buy something you would really like with the money.

Then make his life a misery until he sees the error of his ways

Sell the tickets AND HIM on ebay!

How much were they/will you get; we need to think of a good alternative for you!

God some men are stupid shits. I hope you get to sell them.

Well, if you can't go.....

Can I please go instead? Pwitty pleaaaassssseeeee!

They beat a toaster anyday.

No I wouldn't. Sell the tickets imo.

Mine never buys birthday or christmas gifts or flowers for me.

It was bad timing, BUT at least it was something he knew you would like 5/10

Definately, YOU sell the tickets, use the money to get something for YOURSELF.

Then show him what you bought, explain why you wanted it, what you like about it.

Oh and on the night you would have gone to the concert, leave him babysitting and nip out for a while somewhere nice.

YANBU, he is daft.

I think men just do not get the gift thing. My DH is one of the guys running around on 24th December looking for a gift. One year he bought me a matchbox replica of our wedding car. Ok, nice though, a reminder of our lovely day but that was all he bought me for my Christmas that year. I was so disappointed, do you know how like a little jewelery box a matchbox car looks when it is wrapped up?

He saw by the look on my face that I was not happy and nipped upstairs to get the present that he was going to give me for my birthday (luckily a week later).

Your should do as here suggested, sell them on and get what you wanted.

Sorry Manxmum, they and DP went off to work together to be reauctioned this morning.

AnnabelCaramel - in excess of 40 quid, but it's not really the price IYSWIM. This morning I reiterated that pretty feet and a facial would be appreciated (not that I've seen my toes in a while), the moisturiser I wanted in the first place (sorry I'm a real make up and grooming fiend) would obviously be lovely.

But then he could just get me a good book (I love to read) but the problem with all these things is they take more than 5 minutes to procure even if you don't have to get out of your seat to do so.

We'll see...
(I am beginning to feel the rage lessening slightly).

and at muppetgirls DH thinking that a grown woman would be chuffed to get a Very Hungry Caterpillar book!

I'd go

I've just had to sell concert tickets due to impending birth.
As disappointed as I am about it, its just not doable.

I think he needs to swap the tickets for a big fat diamond

Tis . My dh always takes me shopping on my birthday and lets me chose. Go and get your toes done today, a good pedicure can be very mood-improving.