Is there a name for this feeling? (Read; Am I a weirdo?)

[SuckingDownDarjeeling]

Today I bought myself a bag of lollipops.

I know, sorry, I should have made sure you were sitting down first

Anyway. I saw them, I thought 'oh yum, I love those lollipops', and then continued to walk past them, feeling somehow like I could look but not touch. Until I realised - hang on a damn minute, I'm 33 years old and I want a fucking bag of lollipops.

Does anybody else ever forget that they're a 'grown up' and occasionally have to remind themselves that they can do what the hell they want?

It’s a great feeling.

I’ve actually been doing this kind of thing quite often this year in a “life is too short” kind of way. Like getting a midweek takeaway. I beat myself up over it and then I think “settle yourself, it’s not crack!”

I'm confused. You fancied some lollys and bought them. Sounds totally normal to me

I had Happy Meals occasionally into my late twenties. I didn't fancy a big meal at lunchtimes so why not!

I do this sometimes with buying things, I’ll suddenly remember if I want to buy a nice new notebook or whatever I can and nobody can stop me!

I had this recently when I sat in a car park and ate a McDonald's in my car by myself (a sad treat you might think, but I've got three children aged 5 and under, so...). I felt like I was doing something 'wrong' and I might get 'in trouble' somehow but from who I don't know. Then I realised I am 40 years old and I can do whatever I want!

@mistermagpie

I had this recently when I sat in a car park and ate a McDonald's in my car by myself (a sad treat you might think, but I've got three children aged 5 and under, so...). I felt like I was doing something 'wrong' and I might get 'in trouble' somehow but from who I don't know. Then I realised I am 40 years old and I can do whatever I want!

I have gotten into trouble for doing that! I’m stupid and forget to hide the Mcds bag. My son is very good at telling me off

Yes at 37 years old I have recently realised that I don’t have to eat the crusts on sandpit I don’t want to. I know cut them off beforehand and enjoy my sandwiches so much more! It’s liberating (and a bit weird I suppose )

Sandpit?? Sandwiches

I now cut them off.... Bloody phone!

I was walking home alone from the shop with chocolate and realised I could just open the bag and eat some. Took a few minutes to get to grips with it because it's not something I normally do and I'm normally with a 3 year old so have to hide daytime snacks!

I also get a buzz buying alcohol at over 30yo

Hi Op
Its called Nostalgia,
Wanting to enjoy innocent wholesome things you enjoyed as a child with maybe your gran or your small friends etc.

Its a form of ecapism isn't ,hardly susprising wanting to hanker back to times which seemed less stressful

It's tricky though I think because as adults we're supposed to not be greedy or over-indulgent (often for health reasons) and we're supposed to delay gratification sometimes or we'd never get anything done!

On the other hand, I constantly feel guilty for spending money on stuff I don't absolutely need while people are homeless and going hungry, despite my own set up being fairly insecure.

Tell you what though, I couldn't half go a traffic light now you've mentioned lollipops. Anyone remember those?

I don't think op is talking about nostalgia.

More that moment of realisation that actually you can buy that if you want to because you are an adult.

Not sure if there is a name for it but I love that feeling. Actually I can have ice cream for breakfast during a heatwave if I choose to.

Ohh, DD used to try and scold me for eating left over curry takeaway the next
Morning for breakfast

I'm 70 years old, I'll eat what I fucking like, I told her. Now she tells me what curry she's left, so I can indulge in that the next day

I don't give a fuck what I'm supposed to do, sometimes I have ice cream for breakfast, sometimes it's curry. Occasionally, it's toast.
Do what you feel like doing

There MUST be a word for this feeling. The English language has more words than any other language. This is a great question OP. That feeling like a Tarzan "aaaah-aarrrgh-aaah" chest-thumping, vine-swinging-across-a-river moment. I Can Do This.

In-Your-FAAAAAAAACE!!!!!

@Bettyboop82

Yes at 37 years old I have recently realised that I don’t have to eat the crusts on sandpit I don’t want to. I know cut them off beforehand and enjoy my sandwiches so much more! It’s liberating (and a bit weird I suppose )

Ah, man, sandpit crusts are the BEST!

Sometimes I forget that I’m a grown up! For example I can be driving somewhere and suddenly think OMG I can do this - drive, own flash car, parallel park etc etc (I’m
56!!)
Other times I think stuff it - if I want to eat beans on toast or popcorn with a few gins who cares
The most liberating is spending money - if I want to spend thousands on diamonds or a designer item and eat jam sandwiches for weeks I can

After much Googling, I think it may be "Volition". ie. "The faculty or power of using one's will".

I had that exact feeling today. Driving back from a long supermarket shop and was stuck in traffic lights near a McDonalds. Suddenly realised I could easily stop my mouth from watering and go and get myself a massive burger and milkshake. Had a similar thing a few weeks ago when I decided to buy a birthday cake from Asda for no good reason other than 'because I could'. Very liberating feeling.

Yes op. I love chocolate and it's an amazing feeling to buy something and feel like it's very cheeky .

Alas no more though . The midwife has said my bmi puts me at risk of gestational diabetes. I have some sugar free choc but no longer act greedy.

oh the McDonald's one rings true for me too. The realisation it was just me on my own and I can eat a McDonald's if I want.

I think it was also the fact I wasn't at that point having to be the parent making a decision about my DC diet. (they are a bit to old now for that now, but it's that lingering sence of responsibility, which is a joy to shake away)

Ha, I'm so glad it's not just me

I've regularly driven past a drive thru McDonald's and fancied one and not 'allowed' myself to get one! The lollipops will be my first step towards a life of liberation 😂

It's such a good feeling! I was watching The Revenant at the cinema, not enjoying it, but had the revelation i could just leave, and go home and eat crisps. I was deliciously proud of myself. I would bet lots of euros there's a German word for it...

It’s called Freedom I think. We spend so much our time bending to the will of others, especially in childhood (when our brains are developing) there comes a point when we realise “hang on a minute” I have the Freedom to choose, I know one thing, when that lovely feeling strikes I feel very lucky indeed.

I bought myself 2 guinea pigs this week. I didn't have to ask beg promise to look after them and explain in detail how to look after them first. I realised as I paid for them that this is possibly the best thing about being a grown up.

I will still get grief from my mother when she finds out but I don't care. Difference between us is she sees all the work involved in pets/hobbies as a chore and I see it as a pleasure.