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AIBU?

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CF or God loves a trier?

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Hoppinggreen · 10/12/2020 17:03

Just had a delivery from a well known online supermarket ( sadly it wasn’t Jesus in the cabbage van)
After a bit of socially distanced chat about substitutions and Xmas deliveries We had this convo
Driver - you know you can give your driver feedback
Me - yes I do, I get an email about it and I usually respond
Driver - but if you email in unprompted it’s better
Me - I didnt know I could do that
Driver -yes, if you email in to say I was really good I might win some vouchers
Me - ok
Driver - so please could you do that?
Me - ok

I’m not “fumming” or anything, I think I’m actually quite amused and may well do it since he’s asked but is he a bit of a CF or not?
YABU - completely fair to try
YANBU - Cheeky Fucker

OP posts:

threediamonds · 10/12/2020 17:03

Ha, I'd quite like the honesty! I'd do it

terriblyangryattimes · 10/12/2020 17:06

I'd probably do it too. Its a pretty shitty job to be doing in the cold and dark in the run up to Christmas! I definitely couldn't do it so I am hugely thankful to all the delivery drivers who do!

Plonque · 10/12/2020 17:06

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest, he's told you something you didn't know and you can do whatever you want with that information.
Personally if I thought he'd been good I'd have done a quick survey or whatever. It's nice to be appreciated at work.

pussycatinboots · 10/12/2020 17:08

I'm in the "God loves a trier" camp - seeing as it's Christmas

BreakfastOfWaffles · 10/12/2020 17:10

The people who get on in life are those who are proactive in getting others to notice and recognize them. Good on him!

IntermittentParps · 10/12/2020 17:28

God loves a trier for me too. Have to admire the honesty.

Northernsoullover · 10/12/2020 17:33

Advice I frequently give (and should take myself) is stop being so passive. A company I worked for was recruiting. My friend had applied when I did but didn't get taken on and she heard that they were taking on again and had a bit of a whinge because no one had been in touch. I grabbed her phone, gently chided her and emailed the recruiter. She got the job.

Dontforgetyourbrolly · 10/12/2020 17:35

You don't ask you dont get ! Good for him

BooFuckingHoo2 · 10/12/2020 17:38

Good on him! I’d never thought to do this before but I will now if I get someone nice.

Whenwillow · 10/12/2020 17:39

God loves a trier from me too

IliveonCoffee · 10/12/2020 17:41

A little cheeky but in that good way...unless you're going to come back and tell us he held your wines to ransom while you got your phone out.

Sounds like he felt they'd built a little rapport if you had a chat, so if anything they probably reckoned you'd actually have some good feedback, that would make them stand out in whatever voucher comp. Or recognition thing they run.

After all saying 'driver was really helpful, explained subs and really took the time, was friendly blah blah blah' is probably better feedback than 'helpful and fast'

glas14368 · 10/12/2020 17:41

I would email after speaking to him. It's not a nice job, or well paid. If he got some vouchers close to Christmas it could make a real difference to his family.

Also think it's nice he's chatty. Some people he visits could be isolating and he could be the only person they speak to for weeks.

Ginfilledcats · 10/12/2020 17:41

Oh I agree - I'd not know I could email without the prompt and would do so. What harm would it do - 2 mins out of my day and he might get a little something for a job that gets taken for granted a lot.

BoobsOnTheMoon · 10/12/2020 17:43

Oh you should do it.

My friend works for a nameless health food shop chain and their annual bonus is based on their feedback from the bloody customer satisfaction survey that you have to go online and quote a code from your till receipt to fill out! I fill it in every time for this reason.

WitchesSpelleas · 10/12/2020 17:43

If his service warranted a special email, send it.

fluffyboxes · 10/12/2020 17:44

God loves a trier I would 100% email in. Life's hard he may as well go for gold

MojoMoon · 10/12/2020 17:51

I had some workers from the council outside clearing up after fixing a drain disaster and I popped out to thank them (it was a pretty rank job they had to do)

The older guy then knocked on my door and asked if I'd consider emailing the council to say that the young man he was working with has done a good job - he was an apprentice who was coming to the end of his apprenticeship and he was hoping that if he got some good feedback, they'd be able to keep him on as an employee.

I thought that was perfectly reasonable thing to ask - and I did it.
Got an email back from the council to say they'd recognised him as employee of the week or something similar and he'd had a prize of supermarket vouchers. I hope they were able to keep him on as an employee but I bet that even a small voucher was really useful to a young man on an apprentice wage so I am glad his colleague ask me to do it

BetsyBigNose · 10/12/2020 17:51

I'd totally do it, fair play for him to ask!

I had some really excellent care from a member of Hospital staff during a 4 month long admission earlier this year, and her ideas on new treatment plans for me have made significant improvements to my quality of life, so when I was leaving, I thanked her in person and gave her a letter, detailing how much she had done for me. She was grateful, but asked if I would mind emailing the feedback to her Line Manager as she was working towards a promotion and felt this could help. I did as she had asked and also nominated her for an 'Excellence in Care' award at the hospital.

A few months later, she had been promoted and had won a prize - I was really pleased my feedback had been able to be put to some practical use, rather than just making her feel good!

Elfieishere · 10/12/2020 17:51

If he’s actually providing a good service and does a good job I don’t see a problem with it.
Maybe he needs the money in the vouchers.

Gwenhwyfar · 10/12/2020 17:53

Can't blame him for asking. You don't have to do it though.

Spied · 10/12/2020 17:54

His forthcoming attitude would make me smile.
I'd email

HaHaVeryBunny · 10/12/2020 17:55

What is it but a few minutes out of your life to send the email and he seems like a decent guy. So yeah, deffo.

jessstan1 · 10/12/2020 17:55

I'd do it at the drop of a hat.

gottakeeponmovin · 10/12/2020 17:56

I would do it

CherryBlossomTree7 · 10/12/2020 17:56

Good for him. Definitely not a CF.

He may be struggling financially and the vouchers would help him buy Christmas presents. Or he may not be struggling financially but his job is physically demanding especially in the winter. Why not do something nice for him?

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