To ask what's the rudest thing a stranger has done to you?

[YoungScrappyHungry]

Inspired by the lovely thread about kindest thing strangers have done for you, and also a chance for me to share this horror.

When I was 19, I worked on the tills at a supermarket in my holidays from university.

A woman I was serving was staring at me, trying to get my attention as I scanned her stuff. I looked up at her and smiled. She said, in still the most condescending tone I've ever heard:

'Don't you wish you'd studied now?'

I was so floored and ashamed, I didn't say a thing back and just carried on scanning her things. Fact was I was actually at university, but even if I hadn't been....aghh!....still gets me.

What are yours?

Think I posted about this at the time, but when I was pregnant with DS I had severe hyperemesis. Kept going to my GP who refused to give me any medication, test for ketones, or send me to hospital. Eventually I got so ill I went to A&E and got admitted. I was +4 ketones and the consultant I saw couldn't understand why I hadn't been sent in sooner.

DH had to go see the GP about something unrelated and mentioned about how I was in hospital on a drip, the GP told him I was ill because I was a stressy person (I'd suffered depression previously) and that the baby would probably get taken off me anyway.

My parents brought my brother and I up to be bilingual. My brother now speaks our non-English language to his children, and so do I when I see them.

We were on a bus once and happily chatting away in second language. Just the usual chat-to-kids nonsense about what we can see out the window, how many yellow cars are there etc.

A charming man taps my brother on the shoulder, and says "You should take your wife and kids back to where you came from, and stop scrounging off us hard working Brits."

My brother "Number one, she's my little sister, number two we are from Kent, and number three we both work and pay taxes so you're wrong on all three counts."

@Potaoesgivemeheartburn that is the dream, but alas no the managment are very very rarely on staffs side.
Sadly I have noticed if a man complains it is taken more seriously than if a women complains, and even less so if a woman complains about a male member of staff.

I was on the London Underground with my sister who walks with a stick. Waiting in the queue to go through the wider barrier that stays open a few seconds longer. It was her turn & a man pushed his child aged about 6 in front of my sister. My sister put her stick out & he kicked off. I calmly asked him to join the queue & wait their turn. He ignored me & barged through f’ing & blinding at us. We felt sorry for the child.

When I was 16/17 there was a man who I'd pass often as I walked home from school. He was always trying to get my attention and I tried the whole quick smile move on thing because he creeped me out and the attention he was after was definitely of the "I want to do the sex with you" kind. One day, same as usual except he'd clearly had enough of me not wanting to really engage with him so he punched me in the face. The thing is it must have really hurt but I don't remember the physical pain, just the humiliation. I did nothing, just carried on walking home.

I told my mum's then boyfriend what had happened and I don't know exactly what happened but I think creepy man was "told".

Strangers have been rude to me loads since then, but a punch in the face sort of sticks in you memory!

Since Brexit, people think it is right to ask people to go back to their own country. Surely it is unacceptable in any situation. Why would you have to explain? Also teenagers spit and shout Paki at my friend who is Indian. Why is this behaviour acceptable under any circumstance? Racial insults have become acceptable in the Brexit climate.
Also I think 'cunt' should get the reply, 'oh, you mean your mother's, the one you came out of'?

Probably when I was walking around a park to try to help me lose some weight and a group of teenage boys threw a doughnut at me!

Also when I worked in a newsagents in north Wales and I asked a man with a southern English accent if he'd like a carrier bag. He said "dim". I asked him pardon twice, he repeated it and eventually he shouted "oh my god, how f*cking stupid, you live in Wales and you can't even speak Welsh! It means 'no', you idiot! Like dim parcio [no parking]! Honestly!" He was shouting and snorting with laughter at me in front of his friends.

I kept very calm and deadpan gave him an explanation that what he had said "in Welsh" made absolutely no sense in the context he had used it. He got quite impatient for his shopping as I explained that what he had said would only be applicable if there were no bags left. Absolute chump and totally unnecessary. Annoyed me more than the flying doughnut to be honest!

Id just had a baby weeks before had to get on a bus to go in town at Christmas and a women said after we started talking about my boy that oh I thought you was pregnant still I was mortified he was only 2 weeks old I couldn't believe how rude she was I felt so upset

I think the most shocking of these are the comments made by medical professionals.

Valentine's lunch out at a country pub we've never been to before with DS 4 and youngest DS who's a newborn. Comedy service, terrible delays, serving friends and locals before us. We are moved to complain politely due to delays and awful service. Manager comes to speak to us about our experience, we want to cut our losses, pay for starter and just go home. (Rarely complain I might add). All hell breaks loose: manager says 'I knew you'd be trouble as soon as you walked in the door'. It gets worse from then on in. Manager disses my eldest DS aged 4, for his table manners, saying she is glad she can afford to send her kids to private school where they learn manners. She saves the best till last: tells me at least she can change her service standards and improve what she does, whereas I'll always be fat and ugly when I wake up in the morning. One week post-partum. Then she asks us to leave her premises. It took me a LONG TIME to get over that.

My son was in hospital for a fever convulsion, he was about 14 months old. A junior doctor made a comment to me saying along these lines, your child looks quite skinny as you and his dad are both hefty and fat. No manners just rude

My parents once asked me to pop into an estate agents for some details on house they wanted to buy to rent out (they were out of the country at the time).

As soon as I'd opened the door and stood in, the receptionist said 'rental? Are you on benefits?' With a patronising grin plastered across her fake tanned face. Admittedly, I wasn't looking my best, but still?!

I smiled sweetly at her and said 'actually, I'm a cash buyer and I'm interested in - whatever the address was -'

Her face was a picture! She immediately offered me coffee and pastries, which I sat their and took, while looking through the paperwork she'd given me. A week or so later, her boss called to see if I'd (or my parents) wanted to make a viewing at said house. We didn't and I told him what a bitchy, judgemental receptionist he had.

The pastries were delicious!

When people found out I was expecting my third baby 'oh, was it an accident/planned'
Worst still 'is it because you want a boy?'

Said in front of my wonderful daughters. I hated that. The thought that they may feel lesser because they weren't a boy.
I'd often say 'not at all. I have awesome daughters so I'd be happy with another girl'
Fuck wits

Also a woman, who was lovely otherwise, when I was pregnant with my first kept saying 'are you sure it's not twins?'
Until I got to about 24 weeks and snapped and yelled 'it's definitely not, I'm just fucking huge'. Management came to have sword because apparently I'd upset her. I put them straight and they were very quiet!

The more i read the more I remember! The one when a supermarket employee (not at the shop I worked at) said it was a shame I was pregnant as I'd lost so much weight. I was so shocked I just sort of haha'ed and left.

The time where an older lady sneered at me and said THAT was absolutely disgusting. Castigating me and the baby I was with and also the blatantly older man I was with.
I was in Booths with my baby brother (I was 16) and my dad. My dad questioned her disgust and pointed out that I was his daughter and the baby was his son so maybe the disgusting one was her.

When I was heavily pregnant I pulled into a parking spot at the supermarket. Another car obviously wanted the spot too but I was first, didn't push in or anything.

The other car stopped and the driver got out and came over to my car, clearly wantedsqu have a go. I got out of the car and he realised I was heavily pregnant but still had a go at me verbally. Luckily he didn't hit me which I think he was originally squaring up to do.

Idiot.

I was once in a bar with a friend. We saw a guy who we both knew from work and started chatting, turns out she knew him as a friend of one of her brothers. Anyway the brother turned up and when my friend tried introducing us he just looked me up and down & turned away. About an hour later after chatting to friend & work guy, who apologised for his ignorant friend, the brother turned round to say bye to his sister and friend, looked at me and said best fucking tits in the place and walked off.

As a buxom blonde I’ve had my fair share of comments in the past but that one just took me off guard.

@Oneeata

There's so many coming to mind now after reading through. About 18 months after birth of son my periods stopped completely, must have taken about 40 pregnancy tests all negative, went to GP who referred me to Gynae. Went to appointment with DH, consultant took one glance at me and said "ahh yes I remember you I done your abortion when you were 15! Your overweight, have dark hair you've got PCOS." And sent me on my way. I was mortified. DH didn't know that I'd had a termination (after being raped on my way home from school at 14) No blood tests, no scans, no information - diagnosed on an assumption.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Did you manage to complain? What an absolute disgrace to his profession.

[quote DuchessMinnie]@TheLesserOfTwoWeevils you are not ugly. I swear I have never seen another woman who I have thought to be ugly. Quite a few with ugly personalities and pretty faces though. [/quote]
100% agree. Speak to yourself as if you were a close friend. X

I was visiting a friend in Barcelona and she introduced me in Spanish to a lady there. The lady looked me up and down horrified and shouted QUE BLANCA ES! in my face which roughly means "she's so pale!" or "how pale is she?!"

I said, "hello, I speak Spanish" in Spanish she looked pretty mortified. I thought it was quite funny to be fair as she was so blatant about it.

My mum and I were once walking down a main road in the height of summer when we saw a man laying a brick wall. My mum said hello as we passed and said she didn’t envy him working in this weather. He replied, “Well, no wonder you’re hot when you’re carrying a spare suitcase of fat around with you.” I still can’t bear to think of how any person could be that vicious without provocation.

I was strolling through Bristol city centre with my husband one fine Autumn evening .
A group of five young men saw me and one of them yelled 'We're all going to fuck you up your arse' . This , and the sound of their mocking , baying laughter still distresses me .
All the men who have said and done the terrible things to women and girls as told on this thread , and all their friends who laughed and cheered them on ...you should all be thoroughly ashamed of yourselves .

I had to go to hospital for a reduced movement scan. Twitchy and angry looking man was pacing in front of the maternity dept doors and blocking my path. This was during the first lockdown so social distancing a thing. I said ‘excuse me’ and he wheeled around, told me to fuck off and loomed at me to blow his smoke right in my face. I was very obviously pregnant. I told her the midwives who flew out to give him what for.

When my DD was a baby she was very small although born at term.
I took her to a wedding and most people were charming and cooed at the sweet baby. All except one lady who asked if she was prem (which I was used to) and when I said no she then went on to ask 'did you smoke during your pregnancy?'

How bloody rude. I was shocked.
I wish I had thought to respond 'not cigarettes. It must have been the crack'