Page 6 | Annoying guests thread

SugarCoatIt · 10/12/2020 15:13

Bad manners, I.e no please, or thank yous (I'm looking at DHs sister and her ex bf here)

People staying for ages, and ages.

People taking half an hour to an hour to actually leave when they say they are heading off home.

People not taking hints to go.

People turning up empty handed.

Anyone who dares to venture into the kitchen when I'm cooking.

I sound like a bloody awful host, these are all my inner dialogue thoughts, on the outside of it I play the hostess with the mostess, and I think because I make people feel so very welcome and take such great care of them and make a big effort, they get so comfortable and enjoy themselves so much that they don't want to leave (if only they knew what was going through my head lol)

SugarCoatIt · 10/12/2020 15:15

Also, mega bug bear - you invite a Mum friend who has kids over, and end up looking after their kids as if the mum wasn't even there and they just sit around whilst you our them tea and make them lunch, etc.

Any questions raised by visiting child is met with "ooh, ask sugarcoaitit, or sugarcoatit will get you that"

ArabellaScott · 10/12/2020 15:42

Guests that bring nothing, not even a small token, eat all the food, drink all the drink, and fuck off and don't say thank you. (By 'gifts' I mean a bottle of wine, not the fucking Taj Mahal).

One guest brought a bottle of wine, drank half of it, then corked it and took the other half away with her the next day ...

Guests that turn up unannounced and expect to be fed and sleep over. One family did this, hung about all day til it was obviously dinner time, and I pointedly said, 'sorry, we don't have any food in' - woman then opened all my cupboards and started pointing to what we could potentially cook.

Other than that, I hope that I'm quite easy going about guests - it's hard hosting and it's hard being a guest. Miraculous that we do it at all. really.

at the woman who shat in your bed, pp.

Leaannb · 10/12/2020 16:15

@Ginfordinner

While I’m seeing to the baby MIL cleans my house in secret.

Why is that a problem? Does she have lower standards than you? Or does she move stuff around?

If she wants to clean why don't you give her something specific to do instead?

Excuse ots not jer or her place and ots insulting.

Sundaypolodog · 10/12/2020 17:02

The incessant witterers. - they go on and on - ok I get that they're out of their comfort zone and feel they've got to chat so theres no gaps on the conversation. But it drives me mad in the morning. I like to wake up slowly with at least 2 cups of strong coffee. I don't want a discussion about what the weather's going to be for the next 7 days in at least 2 geographical area and what it was last week, last month I stop engaging with them hoping they'll get the hint and shut up and go home but on and on they drone

airoportoventura · 10/12/2020 17:20

@ArabellaScott

Guests that bring nothing, not even a small token, eat all the food, drink all the drink, and fuck off and don't say thank you. (By 'gifts' I mean a bottle of wine, not the fucking Taj Mahal).

One guest brought a bottle of wine, drank half of it, then corked it and took the other half away with her the next day ...

Guests that turn up unannounced and expect to be fed and sleep over. One family did this, hung about all day til it was obviously dinner time, and I pointedly said, 'sorry, we don't have any food in' - woman then opened all my cupboards and started pointing to what we could potentially cook.

Other than that, I hope that I'm quite easy going about guests - it's hard hosting and it's hard being a guest. Miraculous that we do it at all. really.

at the woman who shat in your bed, pp.

My Aunt does the corking the bottle she brought and takes it away with her. When she brings a bottle that is.

her DH looked around our house and asked if we owned or rented. Then asked if we had paid the mortgage off. Then tried to get us to invest in his failing business.

Then took the ukele he had brought with him (he is an enthusiastic player) out onto our terrace and played it and sung for a few hours.

^ the above is all true. Hand on heart.

Dilovescake21 · 10/12/2020 17:50

People who insist on staying even though they don't live that far away so that they can drink alcohol as if going for one bloody evening without alcohol would kill them - totally ignoring the fact that means you have to wash the bedding etc for one night!! AAArgh .

winniestone37 · 10/12/2020 17:51

My (ex) friend would regularly come and stay from Scotland with her 3 kids - I lived in a tiny tiny flat and have one dc. It was chaos but I didn’t mind at first. We were both single Mums and the kids loved piling in together. Slowly over time though each visit basically turned into a marathon babysitting session for me. One night she stayed out till 5 in the morning with a random man then came home and slept while I entertained the kids. I was obviously furious. We were sat eating with the kids that night when she said ‘ I just can’t decide if I’ll go out tonight or not’ no question of even asking me anymore. When she left I simply blocked her from everything and never saw her again.

Mikki77 · 10/12/2020 18:22

Anyone who brings Blossom Hill wine should be shot!

Macmoominmamma · 10/12/2020 18:29

MIL used to stay for AT LEAST 5 days over Christmas. As soon as she arrived her stuff would be abandoned in a corner / spread over the settee. God knows how many times I said do you mind moving your stuff so we can sit down. The she’d fall asleep in front of telly at 9pm, Wake up at 11pm, refuse to go to bed then stayed up till 3am with telly on full volume .. She is v deaf but says she isn’t! Then she would crash around house at 3am waking everyone up. THEN next morning she would spend 2-3 hours in the bathroom so no one else could get in to brush teeth etc! We never quite worked out what she was doing for 2 hours! She never seemed to fathom that we could possibly need to get in.
Then I’d feel bad for being exasperated / knackered throughout the duration of her stay and counting down the days till she’d leave! 5 days was just a bit too long really!

5adayincludeswine · 10/12/2020 18:43

@Coldilox

People who strip the bed they’ve slept in before they leave. Drives me mad!

You would hate me then, I always do this and get pissed off that other people don’t. Agree with all the comments ref wine - we always take tons if we go and stay with people as we are complete lushes! I get pissed off when we take nice wine and get served cheap shit and hosts keep the nice stuff. Also get pissed off if people insist on bringing their dogs - we have a dog but he ones to kennels if we are staying with people.

Nearly47 · 10/12/2020 18:53

Anyone that stays more than 2 days. 3 days It is my limit. Ideally only a weekend. My weekday is too busy to have polite conversation when I get home. Also special dietary requirements. Its dificult enough with me gluten free and a picky teenager to feed to have to think of how to cook several vegan meals. My niece is vegan and I love her dearly but on the second day of the visit I just told her she had to learn how to cook

LakieLady · 10/12/2020 18:59

Last year she ate two tubes of Pringles in one sitting

Bloody hell, I'd swear that Pringles just vapourise in my presence, I get through them so quickly, but even I couldn't manage 2 whole tubes!

She is one greedy fucker.

Petlover9 · 10/12/2020 19:00

@howsicklyarsekissy. How on earth could a normal adult do that? I hope you refused any more visits💐

Franacropan1 · 10/12/2020 19:08

I took over the “guest” room as a craft room - why have a room unused most of the year just in case someone wants to stay? When you buy or rent your house you are paying for every square footage. If DH wants a guest to stay over he can book them into travel lodge. Cheaper in the long run, if you work out what you pay for all that unused square footage of a guest room.

PandaPopz · 10/12/2020 19:14

I’m probably the one being unreasonable here but I hate being watched or spoken to when I’m in the kitchen. I offer someone a tea or coffee while in the living room and say “wait here, I’ll be right back” and a minute later they’ve followed me in and are breathing down my neck..

Also the milk thing, we only have plant based milks and I don’t want to spend money on “normal” milk for ethical and health reasons and also to then have three quarters of a pint going to waste in my fridge...

ilikemethewayiam · 10/12/2020 19:17

@GoldfishParade

One of my most important habits is I take about two hours to properly start engaging with the world in the morning. So say I get up at 7, I then potter around for two hours, have multiple coffees, sit on the sofa, go on Mumsnet, cuddle my cat, moisturise, etc.

Basically if you stay at my house, please don't get up early.

So my top annoying thing is when you hear them get up like 10 minutes after you, or even worse, when you're about to get out of bed and you can hear the kettle being turned on!

^I’ve been cloned! 😁

WeeWelshWoman · 10/12/2020 19:34

Guests taking too long in the shower/ bath.

WeeWelshWoman · 10/12/2020 19:36

@Franacropan1 we've just fine this. There's a day bed in there which can be turned in to a bed. But we don't want it as a bedroom for occasional guests.

Angrywife · 10/12/2020 19:55

@qwertyuiop098

Inspired by the absolutely cracking annoying things about other people's homes threads, what annoys you about guests at your home?

I'll start - when people stay over because they live too far to travel home after a night out/late dinner...but then overstay their welcome the next day lying in until the afternoon or not taking the hint to get going.

When people leave the toilet seat up.

Making snide comments about my home e.g. MIL "ugh why do you not have any normal milk? I don't like that oat milk!"

Not bringing anything/saying thank you/returning the invitation.

Where do I start. What annoys me about guests in my home

I guess I'll start and end with "guests in my home"!
3 or 4 hours is fine. We don't have anyone staying over. Ever. Nope. Not doing it.

Seriously1996 · 10/12/2020 19:59

Just after the first lockdown . I invited My family over for a catch up . I spent most of the morning cooking . When my brother and his daughter turned up . He informed me that they weren't hungry . They had stopped Off for food before arriving. He said he didn’t realise I was doing lunch . How long has he known me . 46 years that’s how long . I always cook up a feast when family and friends come over .

Biscuitz · 10/12/2020 20:05

@Fandantastic I had exactly the same thing happen to me with a friend. Found out she had loads in savings whilst telling everyone she had no money. We argued over it but she never admitted it was wrong

joystir59 · 10/12/2020 20:07

I'm all for shirt and sweet stays

StoneofDestiny · 10/12/2020 20:08

Ye Gods - some stories on here!
I don't get how these awful guests get a shot at a second stay!
Don't let guests overstay their welcome, tell them you have plans and need to get the house ready for other friends coming
Don't buy booze for boozers who complain - let them bring their own or go to the offy.
Don't let guests linger while you are left wondering when they are leaving - tell them when you need them to be gone by - start hoovering around them, stripping beds etc
If guests are rude or critical about your hone - show them the door!

We'd never turn up at anybody's house without a bottle or wine and some chocs. Often we take them out for a meal and pay the bill!

QueenOfLabradors · 10/12/2020 20:32

@BashfulClam at least you're safe from being dragged into Asda by anyone at all this Boxing Day!