To use the toilet like a normal person?

[GlummyMcGlummerson]

I'm sure I'm not the only one to notice that MN has some very strong views about toilets and using them. There's a (brilliant) thread today about annoying things about other people's homes and there's so many comments about the toilet being next to living rooms (therefore people can hear you wee), toilet brushes, "disgusting" bins in toilets, fake tan stains on lids (that reminds people that other people's bums have been there) etc. I've also seen countless other threads about people hovering in public loo's too or people avoiding having a poo when out and about or even at work.

AIBU or am I the only one who uses someone else's toilet or a public toilet like this:

• i don't line the seat with toilet paper
• I sit my bum on the seat and don't hover
• I don't care if people hear me wee - we all do it, do you think they expect a silent wee?!
• I don't even care if they hear me poo
• I dispose of my Sanpro, in a tied nappy bag, in other people's bathroom bins and I don't care if they do it in my bin
• I let workmen and delivery drivers use my loo and don't have a nervous breakdown if they have a poo
• I poo in toilets that are somewhere other than my own home and I don't feel shameful about it
• I don't mind if a house set up means going into another room to wash my hands
• I can cope with the fact that other people's arses sit on toilets
• I am utterly indifferent about toilet brushes

Am I the only one?

No, you're not the only one

Well said.

No I'm exactly the same!!

I agree with all these points except the one about not caring if people hear me poo!

Also if I do a poo at someone else's house, I'm glad there's a toilet brush if I need to clean up a bit as sometimes happens.

All very reasonable but I probably wouldn’t dispose of used sanitary products in another person’s bin simply because of the hysteria it seems to provoke.

You are not alone.

I want to agree but I have the fear of no toilet brushes and people hearing me go, or god forbid smelling it.

So YABU but probably more normal than me

Me too.

If I'm in a grotty public loo then I will hover over the seat but apart from that I'm with you.

Yanbu

I have never understood the toilet brush hate. If you live in a household of males who regularly shit up the back of the toilet pan you need a toilet brush to clean it off. We are also in a hard water area so at least once a week I have to give the loos a good bleach and scrub otherwise the pans get all scaly.

I used to have a phobia of public loos when I was younger. Would always put loo paper round or I had disposal loo seat covers I used to carry. Then one day I was out and had to use a loo. No loo paper and only 1 tissue in my pocket. So I had to sit on the seat...nothing bad happened and since then I've not bothered.

The only thing I am a bit eww about is sitting on a loo seat someone has just vacated so it's still warm. Yuck!

Same!! Amused by the horror some have about people using a loo for bodily functions- especially people who have designated poo loos!

You're more reasonable than me OP! I'm the same in a lot ways (don't hover, do use public loos, aren't precious about people using mine etc) but after bowel related medical issues as a child I was very anxious and embarrassed about people knowing what I was doing, so the sound/smell aspect was a big problem for me. The awful thing was that the anxiety would give me an upset stomach so a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I'm much much better these days but would still be anxious about committing to stay in someone's home if I didn't know the layout/bathroom situation in advance.

Oddly enough I knew DP was the right man for me when (amongst other things!) I was comfortable enough around him right from the start to go for a poo while he was in my tiny flat. Even with my EXH I'd prefer to do it while he was out or asleep

No you are not alone.

What really gets me is people who use the loo but then don’t wash their hands because they don’t like the look of the soap. Or don’t dry their hands because they don’t want to use an air dryer or roller towel.

YADNBU.

You’re more confident than me, I try to avoid pooing anywhere other than home.

I don’t line seats or hover.

I don’t mind guests using my loo for a poo but would prefer they used an upstairs bathroom not the one under the stairs! I always make a point of showing them the 2 upstairs bathrooms (one has a light up mirror, one has extra space eg for changing nappies, both are private with good extractor fans and windows). I always keep bleach, air freshener and a loo brush in each bathroom but don’t expect guests to use them.

Workmen get directed to the loo under the stairs as they generally have boots on and we have carpet upstairs. I regularly bleach and Dettol all loos so it doesn’t seem like a big deal!

YANBU! Never really understood why some people get so worked up about something every single one of us does! I hate going to people's houses if there's no loo brush, are they happy for visitors just to leave their shit stains there?? Odd!

Yanbu, completely agree!

The only one which annoys me is no sink in the room with the loo.

I've worked in a few places where people are absolutely disgusted at the thought of someone taking a poo in the office toilet. I just don't get it - when I need to go, I need to go! It's not like they've taken a poo in the middle of the office?

My sister had trained herself (pre-kids) to only do the toilet in our house, and I think she only pooed twice a week! When she first moved in with her husband, she only went to the toilet when he was in the shower!

YANBU, Freud would have a field day with some of the attitudes on mumsnet

same.
thanks for saying this. Feel like I'm going mad on mumsmet sometimes.. like I must be some kind of grim demon.
I also sometimes go outside with wet hair and I also sometimes wear my dressing gown to answer the door to the postman or take put the recycling late at night. Sorry not sorry.

YANBU

If I'm in a grotty public loo then I will hover over the seat but apart from that I'm with you. I could never understand why so many public toilets had wet seats until I learned about hoverers. If you're going to hover, please make sure you've wiped the seat before you leave.