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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To use the toilet like a normal person?

113 replies

GlummyMcGlummerson · 06/12/2020 10:42

I'm sure I'm not the only one to notice that MN has some very strong views about toilets and using them. There's a (brilliant) thread today about annoying things about other people's homes and there's so many comments about the toilet being next to living rooms (therefore people can hear you wee), toilet brushes, "disgusting" bins in toilets, fake tan stains on lids (that reminds people that other people's bums have been there) etc. I've also seen countless other threads about people hovering in public loo's too or people avoiding having a poo when out and about or even at work.

AIBU or am I the only one who uses someone else's toilet or a public toilet like this:

  • i don't line the seat with toilet paper
  • I sit my bum on the seat and don't hover
  • I don't care if people hear me wee - we all do it, do you think they expect a silent wee?!
  • I don't even care if they hear me poo
  • I dispose of my Sanpro, in a tied nappy bag, in other people's bathroom bins and I don't care if they do it in my bin
  • I let workmen and delivery drivers use my loo and don't have a nervous breakdown if they have a poo
  • I poo in toilets that are somewhere other than my own home and I don't feel shameful about it
  • I don't mind if a house set up means going into another room to wash my hands
  • I can cope with the fact that other people's arses sit on toilets
  • I am utterly indifferent about toilet brushes

Am I the only one?

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Melamine · 06/12/2020 13:14

YANBU. The most insane (non MN) story I ever hear was from a friend who worked for a very strange man who fired a workman (I think) for daring to take a shit in his downstairs toilet and apparently after that put a sign up in there, strictly forbidden anyone from doing the same. Completely bonkers!

BertieBotts · 06/12/2020 13:18

I don't like people hearing me poo. I also did a fart in the work toilets the other day and was really embarrassed in case someone was in the other cubicle, but I know I shouldn't be! It's just weird isn't it?

I'm sure men don't care if other men know they shit.

HappygoLucie · 06/12/2020 13:20

With you on the not being afraid of loos thing! Only thing that freaks me out is when couples or friends or whatever use the bathroom at the same time e.g. someone brushing teeth while partner poos. I didn't know it was a thing people did until DP and I stayed at a friends and noticed they both went in to get ready for bed and flushed twice! DP has had to pee while I was in the shower once and even that was weird.

MoMoxX · 06/12/2020 13:22

YANBU

However, I don’t use public toilets. I think this is due to the fact that I don’t work, I make sure I use the toilet before I leave the house, I also make sure my children do the same, I would never do a number two in a public toilet or in someone else’s toilet.

CookPassBabtridge · 06/12/2020 13:30

No you are not alone! We all shit and piss 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don't know how I would clean a toilet without a brush and where the fuck would I put sanitary towels etc apart from a bathroom bin?
People are weird.

DPotter · 06/12/2020 13:36

I'm with you Glummy

weeing, pooing, periods - all totally naturally bodily functions and whilst I don't glory in having a poo, like my darling other half, I don't find it shameful like some people.

DynamoKev · 06/12/2020 13:38

YANBU

DynamoKev · 06/12/2020 13:38

Hovering is batshit.

thosetalesofunexpected · 06/12/2020 13:40

Hi
I disagree somewhat,
I don't like you using my local town indoor market toilets as for so long the toilets facilities are grotty,have Crap stain marks usaul on the cubicle walls of them,gaffitti obsene comments like secondary school I went.

I had for a short while issue with itchy Pin worms a couple of times,from a toilet somewhere.(it was itchy irritating like mad

So I allways make sure I have bit of toilet paper on seat,
I don't have a problem weeing in public toilets
But I will rarely do no 2 poo in Public toilets, only do that having a poo if If nobody else in public toilets or nobody I know about at all.!(cause of odour...

I would never poo in public toilet if a friend or someone I knew was in next cubicle or waiting outside to go into toilet no way,as it will could be embarrassing.

pinkbalconyrailing · 06/12/2020 13:41

yanbu

I'm the same. toilets have a purpose and I use them accordingly. the most I do is wiping the seat before I sit down.

I would never do a number two in a public toilet or in someone else’s toilet.

but how? do you never get an urge?

BellsaRinging · 06/12/2020 13:42

YANBU. I cant fathom not letting workmen/women use the loo when they need to. So wierd.

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 06/12/2020 13:42

Well said op, I totally agree.

DynamoKev · 06/12/2020 13:43

@MereDintofPandiculation

If I'm in a grotty public loo then I will hover over the seat but apart from that I'm with you. I could never understand why so many public toilets had wet seats until I learned about hoverers. If you're going to hover, please make sure you've wiped the seat before you leave.
^This fucking hoverers cover the seat with their piss. Bastards.
Glitteryone · 06/12/2020 13:43

Sorry OP, I’m the opposite of you.

CalishataFolkart · 06/12/2020 13:47

YANBU

Derekhello · 06/12/2020 13:48

I do want to be like you, sadly I’ve had too many peeing over the floor/seat incidents from tradesmen so now I always say no you can’t use it if they ask 😂 it used a bit awkward saying that but I figure if they don’t feel awkward peeing all over my bathroom then I won’t for saying no

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 06/12/2020 13:48

agree with all those
frequently pissed off with women that "hover" over public/office loos, consequently pee all over the seat (and sometimes floor), walk off and just leave it

MrsMomoa · 06/12/2020 13:50

Well said Op! Smile
People are weird.

TonMoulin · 06/12/2020 13:51

Oh I found my people 😃😃

PopcornAndWine · 06/12/2020 13:52

Before I joined Mumsnet I never realised there are so many people out there who refuse to take a crap anywhere besides their own homes. Utterly bizarre.

LoveMyKidsAndCats · 06/12/2020 13:57

You are alone on that OP.

LoveMyKidsAndCats · 06/12/2020 13:58

Iv'e been at my job 8 years and work mon-fri and have never had a poo at work.

sst1234 · 06/12/2020 14:05

Sorry OP, can’t agree. Using someone else’s loo, especially public toilet without a liner or wiping down the seat with antibacterial gel is a no go. Letting random people use a loo in my house is also not good, although would struggle to say no.

MustardMitt · 06/12/2020 14:21

I'm the same, bar pooing in public toilets. I'm ok if I'm at a service station or large shopping centre - but at work or at Tesco or something I just can't. It's awful, such a mental block about it!

GlummyMcGlummerson · 06/12/2020 14:25

@HappygoLucie

With you on the not being afraid of loos thing! Only thing that freaks me out is when couples or friends or whatever use the bathroom at the same time e.g. someone brushing teeth while partner poos. I didn't know it was a thing people did until DP and I stayed at a friends and noticed they both went in to get ready for bed and flushed twice! DP has had to pee while I was in the shower once and even that was weird.
Oh I agree there, it's true that familiarity breeds contempt and whilst I don't have a problem having a poo in any toilet I don't want to watch anyone else poo
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