To think a lot of people are making a fuss about Covid because they don't want to see in laws

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Relaxation of the rules is allowed

People are still hardline about it, usually where there is some issue with in laws

Just be honest and say you don't want to do it

I’m sure your DIL loves you really OP.

I adore my MIL, she's utterly wonderful and we have spent the last fifteen Christmas Days together...but what was the point of not seeing her indoors for the last eight months to possibly give her covid with Christmas dinner?
She's fab, we'll go for a long walk together on Christmas day, but we just won't eat together indoors.

Yeah I think so too! If you hate Christmas every year don’t pretend you’re being holy and super ethical but avoiding seeing auntie Annie (who you hate)

Hahahahaha @PirateCatQueen I'm only 27- not a MIL yet

No. A lot of people are just more sensible than the government. Just because you can do something, doesn't mean you should.

I'm not seeing my in laws. I'm not seeing my mum either. I wish I could see them but unfortunately the virus isn't going to go away just because it's Christmas. We are staying separate because we love them, not the opposite.

Hopefully Easter or early summer will be a safe opportunity for us all to be together.

Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should.

Are you assuming all parents are married? When at least one set are separated or divorced then you can't see all parents under the 3 household rule. Even if they aren't separated , neither set of patents or in laws would be able to see others so are we assuming we are all only children too?

You don’t think people are exercising their own judgement and being sensibly cautious, because unnecessarily infecting older people, with a vaccine just around the corner, would be really stupid?

The government have relaxed the rules because people would breach them anyway. However coronavirus is not going to stop spreading for five days over Christmas and what would’ve been the point of the last bloody nine months only to give someone coronavirus as a Christmas present?!

I actually agree that covid rules have been very convenient for many when it comes to contact with PIL. I like mine but it's been nice not having to factor in extra travel at Xmas to see them

No. The litmus test is: are they relaxing rules with anyone and everyone else other than their in-laws? If they’re being consistent then it’s less likely to be opportunistic avoidance.

Exactly op. You are 27. You don't get it! You are not dissimilar to many in your age group that think Covid is all hype and what's all the fuss about. I think if you were 67 you may think differently.

Yeh because COVID is taking a 5 day break over Christmas!!

People are still being hardline because they know it's ridiculous to have spent months avoiding close contact with relatives to keep everyone safe only to blow it over five days at Christmas! When the Govt tells you that you should eat your Xmas dinner with the windows wide open, that's when you know it's not worth the risk.

All the people I know who are not seeing family are the same people who every year moan about seeing Fay and go on about wanting to have'just the 4 of them' for dinner And never go their work's night out

People are being sensible. Covid doesn't know to step back because the rules have been relaxed. It's sensible not to get together - January is potentially going to be a nightmare after all the people who do get together.

We won't be having my parents or my in laws. It'll feel very strange being our first Christmas just the 3 of us, but needs must. We want to have everyone still alive to be round our Christmas dinner table next year and I think this is how a lot of people are looking at it. People are being more sensible than the government.

Mil has been in our bubble since they were invented and has been with is every Xmas. Nothing would want me to change that and insist she stays home alone. However despite having age she isn't CEV unlike my Dad whom I've seen once since March, in masks, with no touching. Nothing would want me to have him inside our house for several days when I go out shopping, DS goes to school, we go to the park etc as a family and he barely leaves the house unless it's in the car and he doesn't need to get out. It's just love.

@user1487194234 me too! This is the point I'm making haha

You don’t see the risk as you’re 27. I see the risk as if my parents or PIL get COVID they will die. I love them and don’t want them to die, so no, it’s not an excuse.

I honestly despair of some people’s inability to judge risk, when the risk doesn’t apply directly to them.

Yes, YABU.

“The rules have been relaxed” is not the same as “it’s safe to socialise indoors with relatives, who may be elderly and vulnerable”. I’m pregnant and therefore more at risk, my father is clinically vulnerable and my sister and brother in law are out and about socialising all the time.
We’ve made a decision that we don’t feel it’s safe to be with any family this year, sad and disappointing as that is. I’m not devastated about being just the two of us but of course I’d prefer to be with family. Absolutely nothing to do with not wanting to see in laws

I agree OP and I'm in my 60s.

I wish. The rules mean I'll see my in-laws but none of my family .

I adore my in laws. They live abroad and we haven’t seen them since last Christmas. God knows when we’ll get to see them. Gutted.

Please be kind it's genuinely heartbreaking for some of us to make the decisions we have. Noone knows what's around the corner and most people are doing their best to get through this time

I was hoping my parents would want to bubble with us to spend time together over Christmas, but no. Partly them being cautious but partly as an excuse because they’re anti social