For background been with 'D'p for just over 20 years, live apart.
He always comes to mind on a Saturday evening, we either get a take away or I cook. He never spoke when he came in, just sat down on sofa with arms folded in front of TV. I made food for us and Ds. Said very little while eating barely 2 words. Ate and sat down again. I asked how was his day, what he had been up. Got a few short and sweet answers. A programme that he likes was due to start so I reminded him and I sat down beside him to watch. A whodunnit sorta show. After half an hour he asked who did I think the murderer was, I said who I thought it was, asked him who he thought it was.
His reply, I don't want to say. Right ok. Is it that hard to take a random guess?
For a bit a fun who do you think it is?
He sat there staring at the screen, "Why do I have to say", "Why are you going on at me?"
I'm just trying to make conversation with you about what we are watching. If I said who do you think will win strictly this year, who would you pick?
Him, " I don't give a fuck about strictly, I don't give it a second thought"
We watch it every Saturday together.
I said its ok, I'll talk to the cat instead. I'll maybe get more conversation out of him. Him, "Go ahead, why don't ya". I got up and done the dishes, left him sitting arms folded, watching TV. I sat at the table reading when I finished. He got up and walked out.
What did I do wrong? He generally is a person who likes to get his own way in everything, from watching TV, to the food we eat, everything. He will make comments about the programmes I watch are crap. I usually make him 2-3 meals a week, roast dinners. He makes digs at me about these.
He is nearly 60 and is unemployed, no income worth. I am having to apply for and look for jobs for him as he just won't. He says he is trying but unless I sit with him he just won't bother.
I am the type of person that if there is a problem then you say and try and sort it.