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Where to volunteer to find sense of belonging?

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Wandafishcake · 05/12/2020 19:24

Posting here for traffic.

I recently changed job. I much prefer my new role, and I’m happier with the work, but while my colleagues are lovely they aren’t interested in being a team beyond the actual job. They have busy lives and work colleagues just aren’t that important to them. We’re not getting together for a Christmas zoom meeting or anything, none of them wanted to do Secret Santa. It just makes me sad. My old workplace felt much more of a family and like we cared for each other.

I am a single person, early 30s, and I’m lonely. I have friends, but 1:1 friendships aren’t the same as feeling like I belong in a team. I love the actual job and it’s quite niche, so I’m not changing my workplace, but I thought I should look for this sense of community in a voluntary role. Something that bonds people. Something relating to public service maybe?

There is an RNLI nearby but I am not a strong swimmer and have poor vision (fine with glasses but -10 without). I would volunteer for the fire service but I suppose I am a bit scared? Again the vision might be a problem. I’m not afraid of physically or mentally demanding work, because I think that’s what bonds people, and I don’t mind a significant commitment at weekends & evenings or lots of training.

What else is there? Any ideas? I’m happy to give my time to any good cause, but it needs to be teamwork, I wouldn’t want to man a charity shop for hours.

Thanks for any ideas!

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Sparklesocks · 05/12/2020 19:28

Are there any causes you’re particularly passionate about? You’d probably find the work more rewarding if you had a personal interest in the are.

Our council has a volunteering page full of voluntary roles/posts in the Borough, perhaps yours has similar? If so it might be worth scrolling through and seeing what you like the look of.

Darker · 05/12/2020 19:31

What do you enjoy doing? Ideas:

How about a conservation group? I imagine there are lots of projects.

If you are into it, join a political party.

Local soup kitchen.

Check out DoIt or your local volunteer centre.

Witchend · 05/12/2020 19:31

Could you ask the RNLI if there's non-water based roles for you? Admin, collecting money, writing thanks to donors, cleaning the lifeboat etc?

GoodbyePorpoiseSpit · 05/12/2020 19:34

Schools need people to hear readers?
Hospitals need patient helpers - that could be a good on one as you’d meet so many people.
I think for camaraderie maybe a political party... although I did that and met a kid of absolute weirdos...!

Wandafishcake · 05/12/2020 19:35

Well, my job is around mental health, and my previous job was working with children.
So I’m skilled in these areas but it might be nice to try something different / new ?

I’m a keen walker and would be into outdoor stuff.
Love animals
Volunteered with St John’s once but they were all much older or younger than me and I didn’t really fit in, plus the duties were quite uneventful, I didn’t use the first aid much. I might consider going back and trying again. I just wondered if there was something else ?

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MrsTwitcher · 05/12/2020 19:35

Citizens Advice, local animal charity, brownies or cubs, food bank, Shelter, Crisis at Christmas, community transport, patient advocate, WRVS, hospital or hospice volunteer.

MrsTwitcher · 05/12/2020 19:36

Where about are you living

Wandafishcake · 05/12/2020 19:37

Thanks for the ideas! Political party is a good idea, although my party isn’t very strong in my area, so I’m usually a tactical voter. I will investigate...

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HeddaGarbled · 05/12/2020 19:37

National Trust?

Wandafishcake · 05/12/2020 19:38

I live in a town in a rural area of Wales

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JoeWicksSurvivor · 05/12/2020 19:38

Have a look at the website do-it.org for volunteering ideas.

What a fab idea and I wish you lots of happy times ahead.

Sparklesocks · 05/12/2020 19:39

I’ve volunteered in a food bank which felt worthwhile but I must admit it was quite hard going seeing how many families were struggling, although I suppose is why it felt significant to be helping.

I’ve also previously volunteered with a school for the blind going out for day trips with teens, but I’m not sure if that is still happening with current restrictions.

BefuddledPerson · 05/12/2020 19:39

If you're at all political then campaigning can be fun and pretty good for meeting people.

TriSeaSwim99 · 05/12/2020 19:39

Local search and rescue group? Coastguard volunteers? Adventure scout leader they are aged 14-18 (my sister in law does this and really enjoys it).

BecomeStronger · 05/12/2020 19:40

Once it restarts, Parkrun. No community like it. We have a number of volunteers who are very much part of the family despite not being runners although we do get most of them in the end

Purplewithred · 05/12/2020 19:40

Ambulance volunteer - community first responder - if you like that kind of thing.

EssentialHummus · 05/12/2020 19:41

I think your experience will vary dramatically based on quite random things - I lead a quite busy food bank and some shifts are lively and full of laughter; others aren’t. I’d start by finding something either very close to you or something that you’re interested in, and go from there to trying it out.

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 05/12/2020 19:41

I was reading about a community volunteer group in York who cleared the home of a depressed woman who had been hoarding for years. I think you would be pretty well bonded with the team after something like that!

Conservation volunteering might suit if you like the outdoors.

titchy · 05/12/2020 19:41

Scouts, guides, canal and river trust, extinction rebellion, kids sports league, cats protection, church.

First few likely to have working people and volunteering activities in a group and might be more sociable.

1busybee · 05/12/2020 19:42

Homestart, local sports clubs always looking for volunteers to help at events - ie swimming clubs need volunteer coaches, time keepers, team managers, officials and often struggle to find enough volunteers, once part of the team it’s a great atmosphere and a big variety of ages in sports clubs. You don’t have to play the sport either

Diddlysquatty · 05/12/2020 19:42

Army reservists?
Disclaimer - I know NOTHING about it but am sure there is fantastic camaraderie

thesandwich · 05/12/2020 19:42

Conservation work? Maintaining footpaths etc?

MrsTwitcher · 05/12/2020 19:42

Is there a Welsh Wildlife Trust near you and look at a volunteering in Wales site.

Darker · 05/12/2020 19:43

Parkrun

BlueDaysTillChristmas · 05/12/2020 19:43

If you find a big and active scout group they can have quite a few dedicated volunteers who are up for volunteering???

Start a walking group? Keep it small obviously.