Dates makes poor effort

[sharonJJ55]

So met this date today (in the park) we got on well & agreed to another date. We've been messaging tonight and he says he's got a nice bottle of wine to share with me...sounds good to me I say and then it comes....."cool let me know when you're free and I'll bring it over." Turns out he lives with flats mates. So once again I'm expected to provide the place to go. And what's with inviting himself over? Surely it's gentlemanly to invite me to his or out on a date? Is that too much to ask???

He's a man child because he offered to go to hers with a bottle of wine?

Yes! Have you rtft? Op did all the organising of the first date. The least this bloke could do is take one jot of initiative and organise the second. And it's not good manners (or safe practice nowadays) to invite yourself to someone's house when you hardly know them, or assume that they would want you to do that.

You can't go to a pub or restaurant in tier 2 with people who are not from your household.

Yes you can, you just have to sit outside.

@Thefirstnohell

He's a man child because he offered to go to hers with a bottle of wine?

Yes! Have you rtft? Op did all the organising of the first date. The least this bloke could do is take one jot of initiative and organise the second. And it's not good manners (or safe practice nowadays) to invite yourself to someone's house when you hardly know them, or assume that they would want you to do that.

To be fair, he dropped the hint when he said he wanted to share a bottle of wine, and op was enthusiastic. I don't really understand why she was all up for 'wine' at his house but very offended about him bringing it to hers.

It's all moot anyway. She's not impressed so that's the end of it.

@rawlikesushi she was OK with having wine at his because he was in a flat share so no pressure of sex. He wants sex on the second date which is why he suggested her own flat. I don't think she's ready to go in that direction just yet.