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Bought DH something for Christmas and he has just said he doesn't like them..

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Bebo14 · 04/12/2020 18:50

DH is somebody who is prone to feeling the cold and always comments that he's chilly. He often wears my leggings under his trousers as long johns and wears double layers because he feels the cold that much Grin

I bought him a lovely thick Ben Sherman dressing gown as one of his chrismas presents thinking it would go down well.

This evening he was complaining about being cold again and I tested the waters and said "have you ever thought of getting a dressing gown, me and the kids love ours"

He replied saying "nah, I don't like them and can't get on with them"

What do I do about that now? Blush

Would you give it to him anyway because I'm fairly sure he'd end up liking it if he gave it a chance, or would you return it?

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fluffysocksgoodbookwine · 04/12/2020 21:37

Seconding merino base layers, DH loves his! That said, he also loves the dressing gown I bought him after he'd said he'd never own one (and the slippers). Grin

Didkdt · 04/12/2020 21:38

I don't get on with dressing gown and feel the cold I really don't think he'll grow to love it

Athinginitself · 04/12/2020 21:42

I'm always cold but not a dressing gown lover, feel I cant move around in them, much prefer cosy jumpers, thermals, thick socks and woolly hats.

Biancadelrioisback · 04/12/2020 21:45

I adore dressing gowns, I wear mine all winter (I have about 6) and slippers.
DH hates both. Hell snuggle under a blanket or add on hoodies as layers etc but rarely wears his dressing gown. I on the other hand hate hoodies and big socks etc.
It's weird how differently we feel about warm snuggly things!

HollyandIvyandallthingsYule · 04/12/2020 21:47

Mine isn’t thick - it’s a fairly thin cotton one. But it just adds another unbulky layer, which helps to keep me comfy.

AliceMck · 04/12/2020 21:51

@Stonecrop

Ooh this is a difficult one. If it was me I think I couldn’t resist showing it to him early and letting him decide but I’m really weak willed !
This is what I would do.

On a side note, has he ever been tested for raynards? It might be why he feels the cold.

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Bebo14 · 04/12/2020 22:01

He hasn't been tested for raynards no, he's very doctor avoidant so it's unlikely he'd want to get checked if I broached it but I'll bare that in mind as it's worth considering, thank you.

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HowManyToes · 04/12/2020 23:09

I got my husband a huggle a few weeks ago - it's a giant hoodie made out of heavy blanket material. Gigantic. Mine comes down past my knees. Same idea as an oodie but much less expensive. He's off work just now and is practically living in it

diddl · 05/12/2020 09:15

I haven't worn mine for years.

I tend to get up, straight into the shower & get dressed.

I only wear mine over night wear.

If he wouldn't wear it over clothes & doesn't need one for over night wear it seems a waste.

Thermals sound more useful.

Does he have a warm cardi/jacket type top layer?

Shinyletsbebadguys · 05/12/2020 10:04

I would return it and get him some thermals. I really feel the cold but I can't bear fluffy dressing gowns , they get in the way and make me feel puffy. Some people have preferences so for example I hate slippers but always have soft socks. I would be a bit Hmm if DP got me something he knew I didn't particularly want but insisted I would like it eventually.

Saying that you know him better so if it is a case that he will like it when he has it give it a shot. I admit I'm biased as DP and I both have quite specific preferences as we know from the time he said he wanted some new work shoes , and was happy for me to buy them and then promptly didn't wear them because they "felt funny" officially now buys his own damn shoes because I am not getting involved in that again Hmm

iklboo · 05/12/2020 10:31

I hate dressing gowns. They're not comfy to lounge around in. DS(15) has one of these and we have to practically chisel him out of it to wash it (not really, I do it while he's at school but he loves it).

Bought DH something for Christmas and he has just said he doesn't like them..
Scarlettpixie · 05/12/2020 10:35

Return it and get him something he wants, bet you are kicking yourself for bringing it up though!

Notverygrownup · 05/12/2020 10:37

Ooh @iklboo where did you get that. DS2 spends his life encasing himself in fluffy things. He would love it!

janaus50s · 05/12/2020 10:42

He needs an Oodie

iklboo · 05/12/2020 10:44

@Notverygrownup - it was from Amazon for about £20. It's soooooo soft & fluffy. If you Google 'oversized Sherpa hoodie' there's lots of other stockists.

Simplyunacceptable · 05/12/2020 10:46

I hate dressing gowns too so wouldn’t be thrilled if DH bought me one. Agree with PP’s, get him some thermals instead.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 05/12/2020 10:48

@Bebo14

I've kept the receipt and can return it within 28 days so I might give it to him for Xmas as planned but present the receipt too so he can decide whether he wants to take it back and get something else. I'll make it clear I won't be offended.

It makes no sense that he wouldn't like it when he spends his time indoors wrapped up in blankets and multiple layers. He's a funny man Confused

My ds 12 is the same. Spends days in the house wrapped in a blanket hes had since he was a baby. He walks about wearing it like a dressing gown yet, I've bought him a few dressing gowns and he won't wear them. Doesnt like them apparently. I bought him a cheap oodie for Christmas. No way I was spending 50 quid on something he probably won't wear, I just want to let him give it a try.
Callipygion · 05/12/2020 10:49

Return it. I know from experience the disappointment of getting a present of something you have clearly said you don’t like or want. ☹️

itsgettingweird · 05/12/2020 10:50

I find dressings gowns uncomfortable.

I don't like how they get behind you and the gap opens up allowing cold air through.

I'd much prefer a throw or blanket or I wear the fleecy loungewear jumpers.

So perhaps he'd still prefer something along those lines but not as an actual dressing gown? How about a heated blanket?

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 05/12/2020 10:50

Yes! Like the one iklboo has posted. Ds was 13 pounds, looks cosy but isn't as big as the one in that pic. It will do him though.

Ladylimpet · 05/12/2020 10:53

My mum bought my boyfriend one a couple of years ago upon my suggestion that he'd like it. He doesn't...I wear it! It frustrates me, as I know he'd like it if he bothered with it! Haha...

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 05/12/2020 10:57

Return it, I hate dressing gowns too.

draughtycatflap · 05/12/2020 11:08

Unless it is an elaborate dressing gown whereby I can wear a matching turban and descend a staircase like Norma Desmond I don’t really see the point of them.

MrsGrindah · 05/12/2020 13:49

Where do you all live that’s so cold? Grin

This reminds me of when DH asked me repeatedly if I wanted a Kindle when they first came out. I said no. On Xmas day, he handed me my present and said “ I know you don’t want one of these but you are wrong”

I was right.Never used it and now have no idea where it is.