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Bought DH something for Christmas and he has just said he doesn't like them..

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Bebo14 · 04/12/2020 18:50

DH is somebody who is prone to feeling the cold and always comments that he's chilly. He often wears my leggings under his trousers as long johns and wears double layers because he feels the cold that much Grin

I bought him a lovely thick Ben Sherman dressing gown as one of his chrismas presents thinking it would go down well.

This evening he was complaining about being cold again and I tested the waters and said "have you ever thought of getting a dressing gown, me and the kids love ours"

He replied saying "nah, I don't like them and can't get on with them"

What do I do about that now? Blush

Would you give it to him anyway because I'm fairly sure he'd end up liking it if he gave it a chance, or would you return it?

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BillysMyBunny · 04/12/2020 20:08

I would return it. I feel the cold and am always layered up and under blankets but I honestly hate dressing gowns. They’re never long enough and they don’t fasten properly and always end up falling open which means they are draughty and annoying. As he’s said he doesn’t like dressing gowns and you have the receipt I don’t understand why you would give it to him when you could exchange it for thermals or a blanket or something he would actually like.

Meowchickameowmeow · 04/12/2020 20:11

Return it, it seems a bit mean spirited to give him something he's told you he doesn't want.

RoomOfRequirement · 04/12/2020 20:11

I hate dressing downs. They are SO awkward and I never feel comfortable in them. Rather wear a hoodie or cardigan.

knittingaddict · 04/12/2020 20:11

It depends on the husband doesn't it. If mine said that he didn't like something, he would mean it and it would be a mistake to think I know better than him. We rarely do surprise presents now because some from 10 years ago are still sitting in a draw gathering dust.

I would be tempted to return.

JumpingJamboree · 04/12/2020 20:11

To be fair, my husband always resisted a dressing gown as he 'could never think of an occasion when he would need one' despite moaning about being cold all the time.
I still gave him one for Christmas last year and now I can barely get him out of it! He wears it everyday when working from home and in the evenings so it was definitely a hit...eventually.

halcyondays · 04/12/2020 20:12

Return it obviously.

hula008 · 04/12/2020 20:15

I think if you hadn't had the conversation where he specifically said he doesn't want a dressing gown then maybe you could give it to him. But you asked!

EdwardCullensBiteOnTheSide · 04/12/2020 20:16

I too hate dressing gowns, I can't be persuaded, I've been bought some lovely soft cosy ones but I just hate them! Return it.

Monkeytapper · 04/12/2020 20:18

If he’d mentioned some kind of perfume and you said “I’m not keen on that” and weere given some on Xmas day you’d be a bit miffed.

Return it and get him a big fleecy hoodie or some thermal leggings and vest.

actiongirl1978 · 04/12/2020 20:18

Return it.

They are horrible garments and look awful, feel uncomfortable and make the wearer look old and ill.

Buy him a cashmere jumper, or some thick jogging bottoms or similar.

vanillandhoney · 04/12/2020 20:19

@Bebo14

I've kept the receipt and can return it within 28 days so I might give it to him for Xmas as planned but present the receipt too so he can decide whether he wants to take it back and get something else. I'll make it clear I won't be offended.

It makes no sense that he wouldn't like it when he spends his time indoors wrapped up in blankets and multiple layers. He's a funny man Confused

I hate dressing gowns. They're uncomfortable - they ride up around the waist and are far too bulky for me. I have one for wearing after a shower but I don't wear it for longer than a few minutes.

I'd rather wear thermal leggings and an oversized sweater with a big blanket on top. Far less restrictive.

Fluffycloudland77 · 04/12/2020 20:20

Buy him a heated throw instead.

Iremembertheelderlykoreanlady · 04/12/2020 20:20

I would return it and get him thermals

FridayWineTime · 04/12/2020 20:20

Why did you bother asking him if you were going to ignore his response? Confused

FadedRed · 04/12/2020 20:20

There are some nice tartan onesies currently being discussed on another thread- maybe an alternative to the dressing gown? Grin

WillSantaBeComingToTown · 04/12/2020 20:22

Unless he is 80 and in a nursing home this was never going to be a great gift.

Utility items: socks pants pjs Tampax deodorant dressing gowns are not gifts.

Alexafrost · 04/12/2020 20:25

Take him out and shoot him. There's no other way.

altiara · 04/12/2020 20:25

I’d ask him to try it on (as he clearly doesn’t know what he’s missing out on) and say you’re returning it but just wanted to double check first

AlwaysLatte · 04/12/2020 20:27

Send it back and get some ultra comfy man-leggings. Honestly it's his legs that are cold, right?

VanityWitch · 04/12/2020 20:29

I don't like dressing gowns either. They look awful on me and the waist tie always comes undone and they just sort if drag along like a long skirt.

I'd return it and get something else warm and cosy.

I got DH an arctic gilet as part of his Christmas present. Although now I'm wondering if he'll need it, as I am the one who feels the cold! Ah well.

DarkDarkNight · 04/12/2020 20:29

I’m always cold, but can’t get away with dressing gowns either. I find them really uncomfortable to sit in, they’ve too restrictive. Get him an electric throw/blanket instead.

opinionatedfreak · 04/12/2020 20:34

I don't like dressing gowns either. I got a really nice one for christmas a couple of years ago but sent it to the charity shop as I never ever wore it.

I too like layers - get him some merino base layers if he nicks your leggings. Merino stuff is expensive but lasts for ages. Or some nice knitwear - I often wear a thin jumper at home with a big baggy cardie over the top. I'm a sucker for cashmere but I know not all budgets stretch there - there is some nice merino knitwear around too.

Coffeeandcakee · 04/12/2020 20:36

Return it. I hate dressing gowns. DP got me one last year and I didn't want to offend him so kept it. Worn it a handful of times max and it now lives on the back of a door. I feel guilt every time I see it but I really don't find them comfortable or useful. As someone that's always cold, I'd prefer cosy jumpers, hoody, blanket and slipper socks any day. He doesn't have one for a reason. You've got advance notice. I'd return it and pick something he'll use and enjoy.

purplerainox · 04/12/2020 20:37

My DP always said he hated dressing gowns aswell and I came home from work early one day to find him wearing mine. He has his own now and wears it quite regularly when it's cold in the house.

OzziePopPop · 04/12/2020 20:47

Return. The merino thermals are a great idea though!