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Bought DH something for Christmas and he has just said he doesn't like them..

140 replies

Bebo14 · 04/12/2020 18:50

DH is somebody who is prone to feeling the cold and always comments that he's chilly. He often wears my leggings under his trousers as long johns and wears double layers because he feels the cold that much Grin

I bought him a lovely thick Ben Sherman dressing gown as one of his chrismas presents thinking it would go down well.

This evening he was complaining about being cold again and I tested the waters and said "have you ever thought of getting a dressing gown, me and the kids love ours"

He replied saying "nah, I don't like them and can't get on with them"

What do I do about that now? Blush

Would you give it to him anyway because I'm fairly sure he'd end up liking it if he gave it a chance, or would you return it?

OP posts:
NotagainMrs · 04/12/2020 19:42

Return it and buy him a nice tight onesie, that will keep him warm. Like a big babygro/long john.

He probably doesn't want a flappy dressing gown.

OffredOfjune · 04/12/2020 19:42

Is he always so grumpy?
Confused

Bluntness100 · 04/12/2020 19:42

I also would say I don’t have a dressing gown and can’t get on with them, so I’d not change my mind becayse someone bought me one. I’d wear it a few times to be polite and then it would,languish unworn.

Divebar · 04/12/2020 19:43

Tuesday, Wednesday and Sunday OK. The rest not so much.

Divebar · 04/12/2020 19:43

Oooops wrong thread

Staffy1 · 04/12/2020 19:47

Give it to him, maybe with some long johns as well.

Chamomileteaplease · 04/12/2020 19:50

It sounds like he would rather wear layers than have a flappy dressing gown.

I am just thinking imagine if you told someone you didn't like something and they still gave it to you, expecting you to be pleased! I would return it now and buy the merino thermals as suggested earlier.

CodenameVillanelle · 04/12/2020 19:51

I don't like dressing gowns. There is too much fabric and the waist belt is uncomfortable and they always come loose. I love a good hoodie for warmth at home. Maybe he has tried dressing gowns and feels the same? It would be really weird if you give it to him now that he has explicitly said he doesn't like them. I'd be annoyed if my partner did that.

CodenameVillanelle · 04/12/2020 19:52

Get him one of those lush oversized hoodies :)

DeciduousPerennial · 04/12/2020 19:52

Return it. Buy thermals.

merlotormalbec · 04/12/2020 19:54

My husband always refused a dressing gown until his sister got him one 5 years ago and he's barely taken it off since. Same with slippers. I'd give it to him

HollyandIvyandallthingsYule · 04/12/2020 19:55

I’d give it to him; he’ll come round once he tries it.

Emeraldshamrock · 04/12/2020 19:55

I'd show him it early. It isn't fair to get him a gift knowing he doesn't use one. Mine wouldn't wear one he never has.

HollyandIvyandallthingsYule · 04/12/2020 19:56

Or you could give it to him now and say why doesn’t he try it since you’ve already bought it?

Then get him another gift for Christmas, like sheepskin slippers...

BessieSurtees · 04/12/2020 19:56

I can’t get away with a dressing gown, they get in the way. I would rather wear layers or use a blanket. DH bought me one last Christmas I have never used it, I have never learned to like it, no matter how many times he suggests I do.

Cocomarine · 04/12/2020 19:57

He’s a grown man, Xmas will not be ruined for not having a surprise dressing gown. Just tell him - “actually, I was sounding you out as I thought you might give one a try, and I got you one for Xmas - go on, try it on and if you’re sure it not for you, back it goes.” No need for any drama!

Sunshineandflipflops · 04/12/2020 19:59

@myhobbyisouting

I like blankets and layers. I do not like dressing gowns. They're so uncomfortable.

Send it back

I’m the same. I have a dressing gown but rarely wear it as I don’t find them comfortable and they get on my nerves. I’d rather wear a hoodie or have a blanket over me!
Bluntness100 · 04/12/2020 20:01

Yes i find them impractical too. Just too much material and flappy. I prefer a hoodie and a pair of pyjama bottoms or leggings.

MrsGrindah · 04/12/2020 20:02

I bloody hate dressing gowns and would be really pissed off if DH gave me one after we’d discussed me not liking them.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 04/12/2020 20:04

There is quite a lots of bathrobe love overconfidence here😂
I don't like them either.

It would really be different situation if he didn't say he doesn't like them.

WaltzingBetty · 04/12/2020 20:04

Buy him leggings. I hate dressing gowns.
I'm constantly gifted them.
There's a bloody reason I don't have one!

MrsGrindah · 04/12/2020 20:04

Why are people suggesting he doesn’t know his own mind ?

SlippersForFlippers · 04/12/2020 20:06

I'd return it and buy him a fleece poncho. I think they've are called honchos?

rottiemum88 · 04/12/2020 20:07

I'd return it rather than putting him on the spot on Christmas Day. As much as you say you won't be offended, he's going to feel some obligation to try it/keep it because you've gone to the effort. Some people just don't like dressing gowns 🤷🏼‍♀️

Bluntness100 · 04/12/2020 20:07

@MrsGrindah

Why are people suggesting he doesn’t know his own mind ?
This, yes, it’s batshit. He’s a grown man, he will know if he fancies a dressing gown or not, 😂