Husband opening my mail means I've missed the flu jab not I have it

[popsydoodle4444]

Fuming;I've been on my arse this week with flu;my DH hasn't done anything to help;he's currently giving me the cold shoulder,he's not said anything but I know he's peeved off because I've spent every available minute I can sleeping in bed as I need to recover ASAP;3 teenagers have been amazing with helping out,looking after me and their younger brother but it shouldn't be left up to them.

I'm a little worried about Covid 19 so I asked DH (as I don't drive) yesterday if I booked a drive through test today could he please take me but he complained he's too busy with work to take me,he's the company owner and sets his own schedule and can be flexible so he's just being a dick.I've ended up ordering a postal test just in case.

So pretty much I'm being punished for being ill and not being a good little wifey and doing everything (he likes to monitor what I do in the house as he has OCD)

I've just found a big stack of opened mail;in there is an important letter from my sons college about his course and a letter from my GP practice dated the 20th of November telling me I'm eligible for the flu jab;I could have gone to my local pharmacy which is a 5 minute walk away and had it sorted 2 weeks ago but obviously I haven't seen the letter as I didn't open it and my son hasn't seen the letter addressed to him.

I know my DH has opened them,they are dumped in a pile where he leaves his crap along with his mail.I've confronted him about this but he was quite nasty towards me and tried to gaslight me and told I must have opened them and forgotten about it.I've definitely not he's trying to cover up his mistake and knows he's been caught out.

I'm so annoyed because I think this is probably just seasonal flu and if I'd had the jab I wouldn't be ill right now.

What a nasty twat.

Still, one more example to add to 'this week's examples of excuses for being controlling':

Because he's an extrovert.
Because he has OCD.
Because he has dandruff.

Because he's not worth it OP!

He's done a right number on you if you really believe him monitoring what you do in the house is due to OCD. Sweet lord woman. Hope you can find some strength to put a stop to this. Your children sound lovely!

@knittingaddict

OP just over a year ago you posted about your suspicions of your husband and his female friend. It was clear then what you should do and it's clearer now. I hope you come back to this thread.

I checked and OP’s previous posts about him are horrendous.

I've organised a weekend away for his birthday tomorrow.He'sa foul mood all day,he's been quite horrible to me calling me a fat bitch and a cunt and has told me to cancel this weekend

Ah I wondered if it was you op.
Your poor kids

Will you ever put them first?

Have my first ever LTB. You deserve a lot better.

Do you have anything positive to say about him?

I'm struggling to understand why you'd be annoyed about him opening your mail when there are obviously way bigger issues that have been going on for much longer that need addressing.

He sounds horrible. Just also reiterating he is abusive rather than suffering from ocd.

I think the flu jab is a red herring, but there are so many red flags here. Get over your flu and then get over your bad marriage.

He sounds horrible!

My exh used to get really cross that I was ill too - wouldn’t “let me” be ill, was how I thought of it. Could not stand the idea of me being ill in bed and not doing all the childcare and housework.

Notice exh.

He used to monitor what I was doing too - trying to get as much “value” from me as possible, ie doing all the housework and not sitting down to rest.

Also if you’re within time for a covid test, you can send off for a postal one, so no one needs to take you. Doesn’t make him less of a dick but some practical help.

he prob wants to get rid of you and run off with his best friend