Lazy presents?

[Iremembertheelderlykoreanlady]

Inspired by another thread.

What do you count as lazy presents? Or "I can't be arsed to think of anything good to get you" presents

For me its:
Candles
Bath stuff
Hand cream
Alcohol

My OH buys his dad a bottle of red wine most Christmases. I mean you've known the man your entire life and you can't think of anything a bit more personal?!

Amazon gift vouchers 🤣

I love all the things you listed as lazy presents. I like practical things I can use and I can always use alcohol!!! 🙂

Those things are practical and nice and stuff people tend to use, so not wasteful.

I think "personal" presents are far more about the giver than the recipient. The giver gets to feel all pleased with themselves over the amount of effort they've put in and the hit rate is low.

Personally (see what I did there? ) I'd far rather have something they know I'd use, like wine or hand cream.

My 18-year-old daughter has asked for all those things for Christmas this year.

@tobedtoMNandfart

Amazon gift vouchers 🤣

I always ask for Amazon gift vouchers. I want them. They make me happy. It bugs me to no end when people ignore that because it's "lazy" or "impersonal" or whatever else. FFS, it's what I want and look forward to! It doesn't get more personal and thoughtful than that.

A generic and shit box of chocolates

My sister gets me a massive box of shortbread every year for Christmas (has done for the past few) despite the fact I do not now, or have ever, liked shortbread. That I would class as a lazy present but I wouldn’t mind candles

Different families and groups of friends have different gift-giving habits though. It's only when there's a mismatch between mutual gift-givers that it's a problem. I wouldn't give my DF a bottle of wine for Christmas, but maybe it's what your OH's dad would like.

For example I'm happy to get toiletries from my dh's aunt. She doesn't know me well and it's kind of her to get me anything. It's not laziness.

I love all the things on your list. As in genuinely see them as a treat rather than an 'ok' present.
I do prefer quality versions of them and dislike gifts that are obviously part of a 3 for 2 offer where I'd see much less thought being involved.
The trouble with really personal presents is you may not like them but feel obliged to keep them.

Wow. Does that mean you get offended if someone gets them for you? I like all those things. If anyone spends any time or money buying me or wrapping me gift, no matter what it is I wouldn't consider it lazy. I've just been out and bought my mother in law a beautiful soy candle and some gorgeous handcream as part of her Xmas present and put thought and care into it. So many people from kids to elderly people will not be receiving anything this Xmas,.so I'd be loathe to call anything lazy.

Those presents are lazy - unless you know the person likes them.

I agree those are practical and I don’t hate to receive them.

I’m curious what personal gifts you are thinking about. I prefer generic stuff such as that listed than someone trying to go with a hobby present and missing the mark.

I hate “novelty” (and useless!!!!) stuff just because it’s themed around a hobby. But on the flip side, as an example: my husband plays guitar to quite an impressive level and his guitar stuff is in the house quite openly, and he talks about amps/pedals/whatever a lot, and yet I still wouldn’t know where to start with buying him something useful for his guitar playing.

I get all those things for Christmas. It doesn’t matter to me. It’s judgemental to judge people for the presents they get you and I genuinely don’t care.

Ideally I dont want presents, but if someone has to buy something then consumables are best, and easy to give to the foodbank if I'm not going to use them. I really don't want things, however thoughtful.

I love bath stuff and have asked everyone for them 😂

It’s lazy if you give them to people who you know aren’t interested in it but if they’ve asked surely it’s a thoughtful present and not at all lazy??

Be thankful for what you recieve or you may end up with nothing. (unless really inappropriate.)

Bath sets
Candles

My boss used to buy me the most lovely (expensive red wine) for birthday and Christmas was such a treat! I’d also get him nice red for his birthday and Xmas. Not lazy just two people who appreciate a good full bodied red 😁

My SIL buys me and my DH crappy mugs every year despite the fact birthed of us drink hot drinks so don’t use mugs 🤷🏻‍♀️ That’s what I call lazy

I would love your list of lazy presents tbh lol

I ask for Amazon gift vouchers so I cna buy Kindle books with them. I'd also appreciate a really nice bottle of.wine.

I actually think there’s no such thing as a lazy present. Lazy would be no present at all - and there are lots of other reasons why there might be no present.

@BecomeStronger

I think "personal" presents are far more about the giver than the recipient. The giver gets to feel all pleased with themselves over the amount of effort they've put in and the hit rate is low.

Personally (see what I did there? ) I'd far rather have something they know I'd use, like wine or hand cream.

I would add chocolate, flowers, and pretty much any 3 for 2 or equivalent gift sets, to your list OP, but generally agree with becomestronger - I much much prefer practical gifts that I will actually use than random stuff the giver thinks I will like but I usually don't, which just ends up getting wasted/binned.

Even if it's proper 'practical' stuff like socks I like it because it saves me buying boring stuff like that myself, which means I can spend my own money on stuff I actually want.

It depends on the person you're buying for. I like and would appreciate everything on your list except candles. My mum would love candles etc.

Handcream..not so much as I don't use it very often.