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Bloody Elf turns up in a balloon now

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DressingGownofDoom · 01/12/2020 12:59

I know IABU and a curmudgeon but why does everything have to be such an exhibition at Christmas? Elves can't just appear this year they have to float from Lapland in a balloon with a present Confused I know, I know if you don't like it don't do it. That's fine but I do feel sorry for the kids whose parents don't have £15 to spend on an elf balloon and then a present on top just because it's the first of December. I thought this year might make us all step back and maybe consider a simpler celebration of Christmas but no, the social media onslaught of who can be the most ostentatious Christmas fanatic is worse than ever. I hate it.

Bloody Elf turns up in a balloon now
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malificent7 · 01/12/2020 16:06

Everything!*

DressingGownofDoom · 01/12/2020 16:07

@TheKeatingFive

Its difficult enough to say no to 4 and 5 year olds and there were a few parents who felt they HAD to do it otherwise their child would somehow be missing out/ stand out.

Why is this always an argument wheeled out against the elf, but never foreign holidays, expensive days out, fancy tech, shiny bikes, etc, etc?

And honestly, in its simplest form it’s very little expense or effort, so I don’t feel too sorry for those who, for some reason, can’t say no.

Well because you can explain to a 4 or 5 year old that they cant have an expensive day out because mummy and daddy have to save their money for bills, but you can't exactly explain that the magic elf doesn't bother coming to them in a daft balloon unless you make up some kind of elf admin fee or just tell them Christmas is all a swizz.
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Mrsjayy · 01/12/2020 16:10

Do you think kids love a tasteful Waitrose style Christmas? Do they fuck...they live for this tat!

They absolutely love it the flashier the better and top it with a bit of tinsle 😄

TheKeatingFive · 01/12/2020 16:14

but you can't exactly explain that the magic elf doesn't bother coming to them in a daft balloon

I honestly don’t understand why you can’t explain that different things happen in different households.

Santa doesn’t visit everyone in our area as it’s quite mixed, that’s no big deal. Some kids have parties in soft play, others have them at home, others don’t have anything.

If parents don’t believe the kids are actually missing anything, then it shouldn’t be a consideration, should it?

Rosebel · 01/12/2020 16:19

I rent and have never done Elf on the Shelf and never will.
Absolutely hate it and find the elf freaky
anyway. Find the whole idea a bit creepy and certainly couldn't be to do it every day.
I don't know anyone who has had the elf arrive by balloon. Hadn't even heard of it until now.

ThePinkGuitar · 01/12/2020 16:21

My eyes nearly rolled out the back of my head this morning insta perfect mummies and their beautifully hinched houses with their colour coordinated elf balloon arches ffs my two are happy with selection box

haircutsRus · 01/12/2020 16:27

YANBU.

It really has got absurdly out of hand now, hasn't it? Whatever happened to making paper chains and wonky cut-out snowflakes, or dabbing pine cones with glue and sprinkling on some glitter?

blacksax · 01/12/2020 16:28

If that thing ever turns up in my house I will throttle it and feed it to the cat.

UnholyConfessions · 01/12/2020 16:29

Local Fb group with so so many requests for elf ideas.

My suggestion of a note with ‘visa application denied, returned to north pole’ and a teeny forgotten elf hat didn’t go down well.

SillyUnMurphy · 01/12/2020 16:30

Oh it's bollocks isn't it. one of the mums on my FB had her daughter's elf delivered in a personalised balloon, with the much coveted Harry Potter Lego advent calendar and a chocolate advent calendar!

Ours came with a note telling DDs to be good Grin (They already had their chocolate advent calendars - so no 'magic' there!)

TheKeatingFive · 01/12/2020 16:31

It really has got absurdly out of hand now, hasn't it? Whatever happened to making paper chains and wonky cut-out snowflakes, or dabbing pine cones with glue and sprinkling on some glitter?

Times like this and I wonder what MN would have been like in the 1840s.

Has anyone seen those tacky Christmas trees people have started to put up. Awful German import. Now what’s wrong with a nice log and a bit of holly?

Ellathechristmasfairy20 · 01/12/2020 16:33

@Joeblack066 spot on.

CatherineSanderson · 01/12/2020 16:33

@UnholyConfessions

Local Fb group with so so many requests for elf ideas.

My suggestion of a note with ‘visa application denied, returned to north pole’ and a teeny forgotten elf hat didn’t go down well.

Grin
BumbleFlump · 01/12/2020 16:34

Just NO, why are we even giving these damn elves any thought at all?!...and if anyone actually has one then Biscuit to you.

Simplyunacceptable · 01/12/2020 16:34

I don’t rent and have a fairly decent household income but we do have an elf. We’ve had one for 8 years now so not a recent fad for us at all. No balloons or other gimmicks, just a bit of fun and Norbert the elf is well loved Smile.

Elfieishere · 01/12/2020 16:36

Well because you can explain to a 4 or 5 year old that they cant have an expensive day out because mummy and daddy have to save their money for bills, but you can't exactly explain that the magic elf doesn't bother coming to them in a daft balloon unless you make up some kind of elf admin fee or just tell them Christmas is all a swizz

Well you could just say any old crap about why the elf didn’t turn up in a balloon.
Just say each elf picks how they arrive and yours decided to do XY or Z and not a ballon. It’s a 2 minute convo, just like telling them they can’t go to the zoo because you can’t afford it.

You are already lying about Santa anyway so making you a daft lie about a balloon isn’t going to make a difference.

Elfieishere · 01/12/2020 16:36

@BumbleFlump

Just NO, why are we even giving these damn elves any thought at all?!...and if anyone actually has one then Biscuit to you.
Is that you Scrooge? 😂
ric12 · 01/12/2020 16:38

I completely agree. In fact, I started completely ignoring christmas 30+ years ago in my early 20's. I resumed doing it very grudgingly for a few years when the kids were little, and stopped again as soon as they were old enough not to mind. I'm just not a very nice person at this time of year, and don't want to inflict myself on other people.

TheKeatingFive · 01/12/2020 16:38

if anyone actually has one then biscuit to you.

Why are you dishing out biscuits to people who are moving soft toys around the house?

Does that not strike you as an overreaction?

ChocolateCherrybomb · 01/12/2020 16:39

I love a good game of "Spot The Wanker" on any given thread...such fun.

AliceMck · 01/12/2020 16:40

I know a few people who have done the balloons, most have been gifts from friends/relatives. I’m happy with my cheap home bargains ones. Personally I love the elfs, they are great fun for the DCs. DH & I have always done things like this with the DCs toys, set them up at night in random situations, especially with their toy story toys. My DF always did things like this when I was a child and for the DGCs. It’s all just a bit of fun, no one is forcing anyone to do anything. As for social media, if you don’t like it don’t look. We personally add things on social media as we have family and friends all around the world, it’s a one stop shop and we all love and enjoy seeing each other’s children grow up and having fun.

AriesTheRam · 01/12/2020 16:41

The elf is in our house for the first time this year and its dh responsibility

NameChange84 · 01/12/2020 16:42

@MeepyMupp

The posters saying that the kids probably don't talk about it at school.. you couldn't be more wrong. I used to work in a school and it was the hot topic of conversation with the kids young enough to still take part with elf on the shelf. It sometimes caused upset with the children, if the child didn't have an elf on the shelf or another child got presents, sweets etc with theirs. I remember one time a child crying uncontrollably at lunch because she didn't have an elf on the shelf and other children were teasing her. Another child just had the elf but didn't get a present with him and was told be another child it was because she was 'on the naughty list.'
Too true. (Former School Teacher)

We had all this shit to deal with one year when a school choir event fell on an Easter Sunday one year too but with the “Easter Bunny”. This seven year old kid bursts into the church hall with a huge, sparkly Jojo Siwa rainbow sparkly backpack with a big bow on it, sticking out of backpack was a big Build A Bear Bunny in a rainbow sparkly dress and matching bow, kid has matching mahoosive rainbow sparkly bow in her hair, plus new sparkly converses and some sort of very coveted T-shirt and sparkly bomber jacket plus a gift bag full of chocolate (Lindt bunnies, giant tube of creme eggs etc). Of course all her friends crowd round her and one parent said “oh Sophie! We didn’t know it was your birthday!”

“It’s not. The Easter Bunny brought me all of it!!!”

It was frigging carnage.

“Why did the Easter Bunny not bring me anything?”

“The Easter Bunny only brought me an egg”

“There’s no such thing as the Easter Bunny”

(which Sophie replied to with “my Mummy says anybody who says that is just jealous. Maybe the Easter Bunny didn’t bring YOU anything because you aren’t very nice?”)

Parents were looking on in disgust, palpable animosity towards Sophie’s parents but, in their absence, directed at Sophie. We persuaded Sophie to put her bunny, toys, jacket somewhere safe (instead of waving it around under the upset children’s noses).

Of course, Sophie then wouldn’t share any of her giant bag of chocolate “Mummy said it’s to keep me going until after the concert”. Later an oblivious parent turned up with a big bag of the same mini eggs that Sophie had for all the children to share and help themselves too. It got mixed up with Sophie’s, and a couple of kids had maybe 3 mini eggs and she threw a tantrum. Parents got involved and told Sophie she was being greedy and had a whole gift bag of sweeties and maybe she shouldn’t have brought things she didn’t want to share and that she shouldn’t have shown off. To be fair she wasn’t showing off, she was 7 and genuinely believed it all came from the Easter Bunny and was excited.

One Mum was crying as her child thought she’d been genuinely naughty and that’s why she didn’t get £200 worth of stuff for Easter. This Mum had recently separated, had no money, said the pressure was too much to deal with and she constantly felt she couldn’t keep up. She mentioned Elf on the Shelf, Christmas Eve boxes etc being bad enough but now all this Easter Bunny stuff on top was extra expense she couldn’t cope with. Lots of parents badmouthing Sophie’s parents. Sophie’s Mum arrived at pick up, some passive aggressive joking from other parents about them having to up their Easter Bunny game, “thanks for showing me up!” etc. Sophie’s Mum makes a comment about “refusing to be made to feel bad about other people’s lack of effort to make Easter fun and magical for their children.” Broke Mum bursts into tears. Rest of parents furious. Sophie is now crying, “why does everyone hate me?”

Honestly, you may all think children don’t boast but they absolutely do. They always have and it is really hard to deal with as a teacher. We always had strategies for Santa. As he came in the holidays we didn’t have to deal with the immediate fall out. But now with Elf on the Shelf, Breakfast with Santa, kids taken out of school to go to Lapland (either the U.K. one or the REAL one) etc etc, it just goes on forever. Every first of December I’d have to deal with 5 and 6 year olds sobbing because they didn’t have an Elf or because someone had said their Dad said the elves weren’t real etc... does that mean everyone shouldn’t do it? Well...no. But there IS a fall out. And the more lies we tell our children, the more upset there is further down the line.

LuckyAmy1986 · 01/12/2020 16:47

IMO each to their own but we don’t do the elf thing

But I don’t see why people plaster it all over social media, some with daily updates about what elf has been up to. Now that is cringe... IMO

Mucky1 · 01/12/2020 16:51

Our elves arrived today! My daughter was so excited for them coming I arranged this for today. She's been cooped up for a fortnight whilst my DH and I battled through covid and she's been amazing! This will probably be the last year I will have with this kind of thing and after this crappy year I'm going all out! As they say OP you do you!!