To give up bed or not

[aijaine]

So my mother in law wants to stay round every weekend which is nice for the kids but I am now 8 months pregnant and finding it hard to sleep on the sofa while the in-laws take our bed.
Aibu to think my husband should stick up for me and tell them that I really need the bed right now.
I just assumed they wouldn't expect me to sleep on the hard sofa with sciatica and a big ass baby in my stomach.
Maybe I'm wrong and I'm being rude please let me know x

I can't believe they watch an 8 month pregnant woman sleep on the couch while they take her bed, that's unbelievably rude and uncaring. tell them no more!!

In a thread where the MIL has been described as selfish, horrid and rude.

I think it's really important to remember at the root of this problem is a DH who has invited his mother round and offered her the bed while his pregnant wife sleeps on a sofa. But that's just me LindaEllen.

Blimey. Buy a good futon sofa bed and put them on that from now on.

Fuck this just say no OP, I’m shocked that your DH and in laws are even expecting you to do this!
I mean what happens when the babies born are you going to be sleeping on the sofa bruised from labour with a Moses basket beside you? No no no, foot down OP now. If DH disagrees tell him he can have the sofa Monday to Friday aswell!

No way would my PIL be welcome every weekend and while I would let them sleep in our bed while I slept on the couch on the odd occasion I would not do it at 8 months pregnant and I would not in a million years do it regularly.

@GabriellaMontez

In a thread where the MIL has been described as selfish, horrid and rude.

I think it's really important to remember at the root of this problem is a DH who has invited his mother round and offered her the bed while his pregnant wife sleeps on a sofa. But that's just me LindaEllen.

I do agree that he's a massive problem here too, I just can't believe that the MiL would watch her heavily pregnant DIL sleep on a couch while she takes her bed

*I have no issues with MILs in general, I don't even have one!

Nice try 🎣

I wouldn’t do that even if I wasn’t pregnant. You poor thing!

Yikes - we used to give up our bed for PIL (not every weekend though) but when pregnant I told DH no more. He looked a bit surprised (WTF?!) but accepted it as... it's my bed.

PIL now stay in a B&B when they visit despite offers of spare room. Whatever...

All that changing of bedding too!

Op not come back?
Hmmmm.......

@Popcornismandatory

Op not come back? Hmmmm.......

You read my mind.

Perhaps she's gone to bed

Actually can’t even believe at all ur being made to sleep on the sofa. Completely out of order

Find this difficult to believe. How are they staying so often in a pandemic anyway oh yeah, they're not.

Not a chance, if she wants to stay every weekend (fuck that) then she buys a fold up bed for herself

This can't be real. If it is, OP you need to put a stop to this madness right now. Your PIL and DH are a pack of selfish arseholes.

Wtf?

Why have you agreed to this so far?

WTF??? I'd be having some words with DH, that's no way to treat the mother of your own child. What awful people.

Equally, have you said how uncomfortable it is? While they shouldn't put you in that position, you should also have said "not sleeping on sofa anymore, I'm pregnant and very uncomfortable". Not sorry, no negotiations. Your house, your bed, your baby

Why haven't you just put your foot down and said that you are too uncomfortable to sleep on the sofa?
And why are they coming over every weekend to stay?
Can't the children bunk up with each other and your inlaws sleep in one of their rooms?
Where does your hsband sleep?
And do you always let people walk all over you?

They will continue to do so until you put your foot down and stop behaving like a martyr.

@KatieGGGG

Nice try 🎣

🤣

Where does your DH sleep? In bed with his Mummy?