To give up bed or not

[aijaine]

So my mother in law wants to stay round every weekend which is nice for the kids but I am now 8 months pregnant and finding it hard to sleep on the sofa while the in-laws take our bed.
Aibu to think my husband should stick up for me and tell them that I really need the bed right now.
I just assumed they wouldn't expect me to sleep on the hard sofa with sciatica and a big ass baby in my stomach.
Maybe I'm wrong and I'm being rude please let me know x

[Crustmasiscoming]

My husband wouldn't dream of offering my bed to his mother, especially not when I was heavily pregnant! And I highly doubt his mother would accept such an offer.

This situation sounds very weird. Do your husband and his family normally behave like this, or is it just the bed issue?

[Beautiful3]

No that's not right. You need to say that it was lovely having you over for weekends but I cannot give up my bed anymore. Tell your husband to support you in this. This is not normal. They can see you're heavily pregnant and haven't considered your feelings?! Sounds like they never will so you have to speak up and set the right boundaries. If not, you'll end up on the sofa with a new born baby!

[MrsToothyBitch]

What have I just read?? NO! Refuse! What sort of people chuck a heavily pregnant woman out of her bed? Ask them that.

And unless they are doing you a massive favour with child care, I'd nip those every weekend visits in the bud. Sounds seriously restrictive.

[SarahBellam]

Even the thought of having my in-laws round every weekend would make my teeth itch, but giving up my bed? As a one off, maybe, if I wasn’t heavily pregnant, but otherwise not a chance in hell. No way.

[LoveFall]

At the very least, if she insists on staying and you are ok with that, tell her she is sleeping on the sofa and if she wants to be more comfortable, she should buy a sofa bed for your place herself.

Absolutely no way should you give up your bed!

[popshops]

Not a hope. I wouldn't give up my bed for anybody, pregnant or not. Not even my own mother.

[KatharinaRosalie]

My MIL would also want to be over here every weekend, but absolutely no way this will be happening. Might be nice for kids, but is it nice for you too, do you ever get family time, or see other relatives and friends?

[AlwaysCheddar]

No way..... how far away does she live?

[Beachhuts90]

Even not pregnant and with a guest room, I would NEVER let anyone stay every weekend. That sounds like hell.

[stonebrambleboy]

I am a MIL and I would never expect my son and his wife to give up their bed for me. Not would I stay every weekend, that is ridiculous.
Your husband needs to tell his mother that this can't continue.
And please don't have them stay for Christmas.

[Grobagsforever]

This surely isn't real!

WTAF is wrong with your DH?

[MrsDThomas]

What the fuck?

She would certainly not be welcomed at my house. Give up the bed for her? Words fail me.

[Therealjudgejudy]

WTF!! What have I just read?? And why on earth are you putting up with this?

[flaviaritt]

To echo 38 other posts: what?

[Bluntness100]

Gosh, I’m also stunned at this, who makes a heavily pregnant woman sleep on the sofa. 😱

Take control and jist say you need to change the sleeping arrangements.

[Stompythedinosaur]

Quite apart from the bed issues (in which you are obviously right, you need your bed) who on earth comes to stay every weekend.

[Nottherealslimshady]

What the fuck are you playing at?!

Your in laws sleep at your house EVERY weekend, fuck that for starters.

But they also kick you, a pregnant woman with sciatica out of your bed and make you sleep on the sofa?!

You don't need your husband to stand up for you, stand up for yourself. "Hi MIL and FIL, weekly sleepovers are cancelled for the foreseeable future. As you know, I'm heavily pregnant and struggling with sciatica. I'm not willing to sleep on the sofa anymore and I would like some down time with my family at the weekend rather than hosting. I'm sure you understand. Give us a call or text to arrange when we next have time to see you for a few hours."

Christ on a bike woman!

[shehadsomuchpotential]

I had phases of doing this, but as soon as we hit phases of it being uncomfortable grandparents booked the premier inn round the corner. Then we got a bigger house and went through the cycle again-more DC and then they went back to the premier inn.
But they were coming 250 miles and it was only once a month. When they first started coming they were waited on hand and food but by the end of it would take their turn to cook and do shopping or treat to takeaway etc.

I'd explain to DH that you won't be leaving your bed from now on its not appropriate for a pregnant person or anyone with a baby who is already not getting enough sleep. He needs to work with parents to resolve sleeping arrangements and perhaps leave them to it. I'd also question the frequency of these visits-weekly does seem overkill.

[Bluetonic41]

This surely isn't real?? If it is please grow a backbone!

[Cheeseboardandmincepies]

Tell them they can’t stay anymore or they buy a blow up bed to sleep on downstairs in the lounge. Simple really. Why are you putting up with that?

[Fleetwoodmacs]

Fuck no! Get them a blow up bed for the living room. I bed you will find they suddenly have other weekend plans....

[Shoxfordian]

Every weekend? Wow.
How have you agreed to this?
Obviously you need your bed

[SchrodingersImmigrant]

You could stick up for yourself and say no do you really have to ask if it's rude not to give up a bed in your condition...

[WB205020]

Your DH and MIL show fuck all respect of consideration for you to expect you to sleep on the sofa full stop let alone at 8 months pregnant. Tell them both it’s not happening anymore. In fact tell your DH to take the kids to stay with his mother for the weekend whilst you ha e a real from them all.

[Mix56]

Nope, wouldn't happen on my planet.
Every w/e ? Nope
In my bed ? Nope
Take your life & family back