AIBU to ask DH not to post on my social media?

[OnlyTeaForMe]

I mainly use Facebook/ WhatsApp etc for keeping in touch with friends, which of course has been really hard this year. DH and I have been married for 20+ years so share a lot of the same friends etc.

I've noticed that increasingly whenever I post something on social media he responds almost immediately with his own comment.
I just find it really strange and a bit creepy and weird? He doesn't seem to judge the tone of things very well, so often he 'kills' my conversation before it even gets started. Or he posts replies to me which he could just tell me as he's in the next room!

Some examples:

• one of my friends posted a picture of a cake she'd made for her DH's birthday. I posted " Happy Birthday to [her DH] - delicious-looking cake!" and within 2 minutes DH had posted almost the exact same thing?! (he barely knows the DH)
• when I posted a pic of all the apples from our garden I jokingly posted "anyone got any apple recipes?" and DH replied to me, publicly, "If you look in the cupboard in the kitchen I think we've got some pudding recipe books" (WTF?!)
• I posted a few nice pics of a historical site we'd walked around with "nice day in XYZ" and within minutes DH posted a really long post going on all about the history of the place etc etc. He completely killed it and nobody else liked or commented after that.

He rarely posts anything himself first, but jumps on all my stuff and ruins it!

Petty yabu

Sorry

😂 poor man

Change your settings to post approval

Oh I have an uncle like that. Will pipe up with some unfunny joke or comment and complete kill the post!

I think there’s an option where you still are friends but he can’t see any of your posts?

Change some of your posts to "all friends except dh" in privacy settings.

Bless him. That'd annoy me too! 😂

I agree with PPs. Change your settings so he can't see your posts.

Sorry OP but this has cracked me up!

Do the approve comments thing. And also, bless him!!

l posted a few nice pics of a historical site we'd walked around with "nice day in XYZ" and within minutes DH posted a really long post going on all about the history of the place etc etc. He completely killed it and nobody else liked or commented after that. maybe nobody else was interested?

Mine does that too. I hide my posts from him now. Apart from the odd one so he doesn't realise I've done it

@slipperywhensparticus

Change your settings to post approval

YANBU. And ^ this is a great idea!

Hardly earth shattering 😏

Just stop him being able to see your posts.

when I posted a pic of all the apples from our garden I jokingly posted "anyone got any apple recipes?" and DH replied to me, publicly, "If you look in the cupboard in the kitchen I think we've got some pudding recipe books" (WTF?!)

Did he realise you weren't messaging him directly?

Why are some men like this? Especially on the Internet but in real life too. It’s like they just want to be making a noise.

Oh this has made me laugh.

Hahaha this made me laugh! God yes I agree this must be insufferable, what an annoyance! The apple recipe one You have no choice but to change your settings to approve all comments, set statuses that everyone except he can see (dodgy territory) or LTB

Maybe he just wants to talk to you... do you ignore him in person? 😂😂

Yeah, change FB settings to "friends except DH" so he won't see your posts.

Oh God you'll look like a couple who only talk on social media, stop him!
Though I'm not sure if be expecting conversations on such things...

Just block. It'll much easier when it all comes out, rather than this pathetic 'I'm watching what you're doing' shit.

I always cringe when couples chat over social media, especially when you know they're probably sitting beside each other on the sofa

I'd tell him straight, in the nicest way possible that you'd rather he didn't post in your page.

Perhaps everyone on your FB finds your posts extermly tedious and somewhat cringey and that's why people don't like or comment on them rather than your DH 'killing them'. It might be a tad annoying but I wouldn't blame him for your posting style that appears to go down like a lead balloon. Denail is a slippery slope. 😂

Is he new to social media? It's like he's making a claim to you, commenting on everything so people see that your husband is involved in your life!

Why do people post all this random boring stuff in the first place anyway is what I want to know ! No one cares who’s been baking what or what they had for dinner or where they have been that day

I feel annoyed just reading that.

@Skyla2005 to be fair we are on the whole locked down and many want to connect with friends and family. Social media posting does tend to be inane everyday stuff.