AIBU to ask DH not to post on my social media?

[OnlyTeaForMe]

I mainly use Facebook/ WhatsApp etc for keeping in touch with friends, which of course has been really hard this year. DH and I have been married for 20+ years so share a lot of the same friends etc.

I've noticed that increasingly whenever I post something on social media he responds almost immediately with his own comment.
I just find it really strange and a bit creepy and weird? He doesn't seem to judge the tone of things very well, so often he 'kills' my conversation before it even gets started. Or he posts replies to me which he could just tell me as he's in the next room!

Some examples:

• one of my friends posted a picture of a cake she'd made for her DH's birthday. I posted " Happy Birthday to [her DH] - delicious-looking cake!" and within 2 minutes DH had posted almost the exact same thing?! (he barely knows the DH)
• when I posted a pic of all the apples from our garden I jokingly posted "anyone got any apple recipes?" and DH replied to me, publicly, "If you look in the cupboard in the kitchen I think we've got some pudding recipe books" (WTF?!)
• I posted a few nice pics of a historical site we'd walked around with "nice day in XYZ" and within minutes DH posted a really long post going on all about the history of the place etc etc. He completely killed it and nobody else liked or commented after that.

He rarely posts anything himself first, but jumps on all my stuff and ruins it!

This is why I am ecstatic that dh hates social media !! I occasionally remind him why he should hate it and never go on there

My neighbours are like this ! They have full blown conversations with each other on Facebook! I imagine them sat next to each other on the sofa ,on their phones, replying and laughing at each other's comments ! Yuck!

Just restricted what he sees or mention it to him. Perhaps he thinks he's being kind by Increasing your face book fan base !!!!!

He might be getting notification. I get them for people I interact with most.

I dont think it sounds malicious or like he's staking a claim, he's just interacting with you.

Does he understand how facebook works? That you're not actively sending it to him? My MIL doesn't, she comments on everything everytime it pops up on her newsfeed and she'll talk to me about what she read on Facebook as though we've all seen the exact same stuff. Sometimes I delete her excessive messages from my posts.

@Rae36

Mine does that too. I hide my posts from him now. Apart from the odd one so he doesn't realise I've done it

I do this too 😀😀. DP comments on my posts with ‘unfunny’ replies (not offensive just not funny).

My MIL does this. I also think she has an alert set up for whenever I post as she gets in with a comment within seconds.

I have changed my settings so she can't see them anymore. Occasionally I will change the setting back later in the day so she can view it. I just can't be dealing with the same benign comment every post I make.

@shitinmyhandsandclap

Like a PP, I have an uncle who posts random, stupid comments on my posts, it's really annoying and I was thinking of blocking him

Omg you just reminded me I had a racist uncle who'd post really nasty/racist reply's to political posts/articles I shared. He got into an argument with a nice friend of mine. He was vile. Deleted and blocked him pretty quickly.

It's the cringiest thing ever when couples write to each other on social media. YANBU.

In the box saying "friends" on your status,press it and you can choose who doesn't see your posts you dont have to change it every time.

He’s stealing your likes 😂

Seriously though, this would really wind me up. You need to block him from seeing your posts. I’m sure you can chose your audience on specific posts.

I have an acquaintance on Facebook who does this with her husband. They have full on conversations on a post when they’re both sitting in the same room. It’s so cringe and I’ve noticed hardly anyone ever likes or comments on them!

My husband replies on some of mine if he's at work. Usually if it's something I've baked or cooked and he'll reply something "Yum! A cannae wait fer dinner, hen!" But conversations over FB? Ew. No.

My auntie is like that .
Real conversation killer .
I removed her from my friends list but we hadn’t seen each other in over 20 years and she doesn’t talk to my dad so no great loss.
Block your dh .. just kidding

How mean! Poor fella

I always cringe when couples chat over social media, especially when you know they're probably sitting beside each other on the sofa
This.
Or worse when they write a status and then tag their partner. Just weird! Don’t you talk f2f?!

If it makes you feel better my dad is the exactly the same and even sign off every comment with

Love dad xxx

😂😂😂 yep know it’s you saw your name !

The pudding recipe books I'm cringing OP but at least he's giving your friends a laugh at his expense I guess. I'd tell him to stop and if he didn't, block him. The problem with putting on comment approve or restricted settings is that won't apply when you comment on a friend's post and he also does.

Oh op that would stress me out. Does he know he's annoying I guess he just wants to feel involved.

It’s cringeworthy, and tbh it gives the impression that the DH wants to lay claim to the OP, not in a creepy way, but as if he needs to be involved somehow.

My DP does it to an extent as well and it drives me up the wall.

You could try to
A:block him from seeing your post
Or B: just... you know... try talking to him about it if it annoys you😅

I would have liked to read the history bit!