AIBU to ask DH not to post on my social media?

[OnlyTeaForMe]

I mainly use Facebook/ WhatsApp etc for keeping in touch with friends, which of course has been really hard this year. DH and I have been married for 20+ years so share a lot of the same friends etc.

I've noticed that increasingly whenever I post something on social media he responds almost immediately with his own comment.
I just find it really strange and a bit creepy and weird? He doesn't seem to judge the tone of things very well, so often he 'kills' my conversation before it even gets started. Or he posts replies to me which he could just tell me as he's in the next room!

Some examples:

• one of my friends posted a picture of a cake she'd made for her DH's birthday. I posted " Happy Birthday to [her DH] - delicious-looking cake!" and within 2 minutes DH had posted almost the exact same thing?! (he barely knows the DH)
• when I posted a pic of all the apples from our garden I jokingly posted "anyone got any apple recipes?" and DH replied to me, publicly, "If you look in the cupboard in the kitchen I think we've got some pudding recipe books" (WTF?!)
• I posted a few nice pics of a historical site we'd walked around with "nice day in XYZ" and within minutes DH posted a really long post going on all about the history of the place etc etc. He completely killed it and nobody else liked or commented after that.

He rarely posts anything himself first, but jumps on all my stuff and ruins it!

Can't you just delete his comments? That's what I'd do. That, and probably block him

Block him. Although if you still get no reactions to your posts, you might need to reassess your posting style.

Poor sod, feel a bit sorry for him lol!
I thought you were going to say he keeps posting on your account as in not got one of his own, so was going to say tell him to get his own bloody account
Just commenting, though?! That's what people DO on FB, you're being slightly ridiculous, sorry YABU

I’m so glad me and DH don’t have social media.

Maybe he just wants to talk to you? I have to agree I always think it’s weird if couples talk to each other on their social media. Rather than tk each other in the same room

8No one cares who’s been baking what or what they had for dinner or where they have been that day*

Not true. I love seeing who's been baking what and what they'r e having for dinner lol
I find it much more weird people being on social media and then bitching and moaning that people are posting on it

Block him lol. That's would annoy the life out of me

The one about the 'pudding recipe books'

@Modestandatinybitsexy

Change some of your posts to "all friends except dh" in privacy settings.

I'd do this! My sister was the same with my DH and SIL. It was usually crude/unfunny crap she'd post on their updates. She ended up getting blocked! 😆

Just defriend or block him!

I feel your pain OP.

I kept my ex husband as a FB friend as it seemed a bit unkind to defriend him when we had a reasonably amicable divorce. But then he started commenting with passive aggressive nonsense on my posts eg "at least one of us got to live our dream" when I did an adventure thing that he'd specifically refused to do with me just the year before!

He always did like the sound of his own voice though, and he's now blocked - he still "doesn't understand why".

My ex used to do this. I’m a massive x files fan and asked if anybody else on my friends list were. had extra copies of box sets. He had to comment- ‘early ones’ then listed all the ones he liked. In the end, I deleted the account- wasn’t worth the hassle.

YABU if you post things on fb you are leaving yourself open for comments and his aren,t unkind or mean.

He sounds a bit lonely, like he’s trying to somehow engage with you.

But yes annoying as fuck.

@whereiwanttobe

I feel your pain OP.

I kept my ex husband as a FB friend as it seemed a bit unkind to defriend him when we had a reasonably amicable divorce. But then he started commenting with passive aggressive nonsense on my posts eg "at least one of us got to live our dream" when I did an adventure thing that he'd specifically refused to do with me just the year before!

He always did like the sound of his own voice though, and he's now blocked - he still "doesn't understand why".

Oh god I bet any of your friends who saw it were absolutely cringing.

Like a PP, I have an uncle who posts random, stupid comments on my posts, it's really annoying and I was thinking of blocking him

The apple comment sounded like a joke as in you have recipe books go and make something
But just speak to him and ask him not to comment so much
I occasionally comment on my dh and vice versa usually jokey ones but not all time and if he posted something that annoyed me I would tell him and delete the comment,

I have an uncle that does the same. He will come on and post a huge long winded, dull and apparently informative essay about whatever I have posted about.

Recently I had a terrible day where every damn thing went wrong from losing my phone to the car breaking down and I said I deserved a nice strong gin that night.
He posted a massive, several paragraph reply about how it's the stress of the death of my father and how I shouldn't turn to drink to help me through blah blah blah...

Nah mate, it was just a shit day and I wanted to cheer myself up with a cheeky gin. I'm not having a dammed breakdown and becoming an alcoholic!

He is getting put on my restricted list. He'll only see a handful of my posts and only ones I specifically change the audience settings for!

I wouldn’t block him from seeing the posts, I’d just hide his comments so they only show to him.

Might not be as effective if you have lots of friends in common, though.

To be honest the most effective thing is probably to talk to him.

Ghost the son of a bitch! 😀

My Dad does that i have a setting where he cant see my posts unless he actively looks on my page.

I had to have a chat with my mum about this. She was quite upset at first but got over and it and it has toned down.

Maybe the reason no one interacts with your posts is that they are boring? 😂 no offence op, but I hardly think he's putting people
Off commenting, when the highlight of the timeline is a photo of some apples 😂😂

Could he be taking the piss? I'm sorry to say op, but the examples you've given that you post (the apples and day out) are very boring. So, is he being ironic by responding in kind?

I have lots of friends with veg plots and allotments etc and we're always posting about our produce!

If I manage to get a post in without him seeing it there's always lots of back and forth comments, but he honestly kills the atmosphere!

I think it's the speed with which he posts which bugs me - he must have alerts set up - and the fact that sometimes he literally copies what I've posted except for changing one word!

Yes, perhaps I need to exclude him, but then I know someone will refer to something I've posted and I'll be rumbled!

Sorry, I meant to say that it's not just posts on my own page, but on our friends' pages too - he's always straight in with a comment beneath mine!

Yes, blocking him from seeing my posts might be the only way!