Oops... accidentally got someone banned from Bumble!

[Sparklfairy]

I recently joined Bumble again and starting chatting with a guy. He seemed friendly, 'normal' and we had a lot of quite unusual interests in common.

He asked me what I was looking for, (hate that question!). I gave some non committal reply about would like a relationship rather than casual sex but I'm not desperate to jump in and get attached with just anyone. He said he was looking for the same. All good.

After a while he suddenly said (completely out of the blue) that he bet he could guess my bra size. I was a bit taken aback but thought it might be an attempt at humour so I played along (didn't give away whether he was right or not). I changed the subject and again he brought it back to sex saying he had a 'huge dick'. I got turned off but took the piss a bit first. 'Do you mean have or are a huge dick?' 'Are you SURE it's big? But how do you KNOW? How many real life dicks have you compared yours with in person, dick to dick?' I was getting bored, tried again to change the subject one last time but he again brought it back to sex (how horny he is in lockdown) so I said I think we're looking for different things and wished him luck.

I unmatched with him, and they give you a little pop up with some radio buttons as to why. I put 'not interested' and added something like, 'he's looking for casual sex and that's not what I'm looking for'. Didn't think any more of it.

Until Bumble sent me a message saying they're sorry I 'had this experience' and that they've removed him from the app for violating terms!

I can only assume they read our exchange and could see I was not encouraging it and he kept pushing. It didn't bother me though and I didn't feel harassed or anything. There's an option on your profile to say you're looking for casual, so I don't think looking for a hook up is against their terms. I don't judge him for it, it's just not for me so I unmatched him.

Feel a bit bad and a bit surprised at Bumble being rather heavy handed imo. I've had far worse on other sites over the years

AIBU to feel a bit guilty?

And seriously what is it with these men who think that women they have never met and barely know want to talk about their dicks? It’s hardly surprising that any of them are single.

It's because they think their dicks are amazing... see this song (NSFW - some might find the lyrics offensive - it's all about big dicks...)

@Palavah

next time, don't feed the algorithm. I know it's fun to wind them up but but the app will feed you people it thinks you want to interact with. It will work this out based on who you've interacted with in the past. So if you don't want someone with a cat, don't chat to cat people. If you don't want people who talk about bra size, don't engage in conversation with people who talk about bra size.

Nooooo, I've now got ideas that there's a "creep score" and me and weird guy have both got ourselves points and now I'll be matched with more creeps

@IndieTara

I've tried more than once to get various men banned on Bumble for worse than that but never received an email for message afterwards

Which is why I was so surprised. Yes maybe I'm immune to this shit but still.