MN obsessions

[RoughWinds]

Why is MN obsessed with fluffy socks, why not just socks?

Also see new pyjamas, posh chocolate, warm coats, good quality yet inexpensive anything.

Can we use some new adjectives.

I miss when the only thing naice was ham.

'Whilst' isn't pretentious. It's grammatically correct. As is 'until' but i thought the correct abbreviation of it is 'til' as opposed to 'till' isn't it?

That's what I always understood and how it was traditionally rendered - but it's very common to see it written as 'till' nowadays. Maybe I'm just a dusty old-fashioned relic: I only grudgingly gave in to modernity and stopped putting an apostrophe in front of 'phone' and 'bus' - to denote that they were abbreviations and not actual full words - a few years ago; however, I still refuse to accept the modern corruption convention of treating words like 'data', 'dice' or 'candelabra' as though they were singular.

Oh relax everyone. Try to stop getting enraged by other people. Life is too short.

Who is getting enraged?!

I wondered who was getting enraged too

@Cooroo

Oh relax everyone. Try to stop getting enraged by other people. Life is too short.

Nobody is getting enraged, unless you are. The thread is a bit of fun.

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion

Bung/chuck/throw any raw ingredients into a slow cooker and by the end of the day you gmhave a delicious healthy dinner for the whole family

Lurpack is disgusting (its actually perfectly nice and my whole family prefer it to anything else)

Class. I generally think this is because mn is very "middle class" and they seem to be the ones who are most obsessed with class, how much people earn and where they live.

Kids clothes. They have to be scandi style and brightly coloured because anything else is just BORING.

Yeah I joined a MN antenatal group that moved to Facebook and when we all had our babies I was really taken aback that instead of buying babygros from Dunnes or Tesco everyone was spending loads of money on clashing (has to be clashing) rainbow coloured outfits and bemoaning how boring children's clothes are that haven't been bought from Babi Pur.

Then they got older and I committed the total faux pas of cutting DSs hair! Where I live there are no boys running round with long hair and rainbow clashing outfits on whilst their mums tut because said boy has been mistaken for a girl.

I wondered who was getting enraged too
Isn't it the done thing on here to see people having a light hearted and sarcastic moan about fairly minor irritations and feeling the need to accuse posters of having nothing better to do/ accuse them of being enraged/ make some silly comment about how they should be lucky if that's all they have to be worried about in life?

Red lipstick will make everyone instantly look and feel better. Eh no, actually most people can't even wear read lipstick because it looks awful, never mind red lipstick with no other make up, hair scraped back and old tatty clothes on.

@kwiksavenofrillsusername

I used to have a uni tutor who'd mark us down for using 'whilst'. It does sound odd and pretentious, like you're an old Victorian lady writing a letter. Like 'whom'.

Eh?

'Whom', used correctly, is a perfectly valid relative pronoun.

This sentence is grammatically correct. 'Whom' is the object form of the pronoun 'who'.

"She is a woman whom I admire".
(I admire 'her' - her = whom / she = who)

I think that your tutor was marking you down for your incorrect usage of 'whom'.

Granted 'whilst' is archaic (yet still a valid English conjunction).

I don't know anyone who says whilst. It sounds old fashioned to me, but maybe it just isn't part of the Yorkshire dialect.

Disclaimer: I'm not from Yorkshire

I say whilst, but I don't say whom.
Dd says lap which sounds odd to me as its not a word I've ever used, even though it's correct.

Henry hoovers. He's shit. No comparison to a Dyson

Hiding your husband’s hobby (cycling...)

I am constantly saddened by the "my MIL is horrible threads." I am a two-time MIL. I know I am far from perfect, and yes, I have had to bite my tongue a few times. I am pretty sure I have also neglected to do so a few times.

But I love my DIL's and grandchildren so much it hurts. The grandchildren are of course perfect, but I am not and neither are my DIL's. We have had disagreements and there have been hurt feelings once in awhile. But we are a family. We all try to respect boundaries and accommodate each other.

I just can't imagine my now gone MIL being banned from my home or anything remotely similar for her sins such as asking me why I took a bath everyday (she lived through the war etc.).

Any Mother is likely to become a MIL one day. Trust me, we won't all be perfect. I remember my first grandchild's birth. It was a miracle. Yes, I wanted to hold him, feed him, take care of him. I was lucky and had a DIL who trusted DH and I to take care of him. He is 17 now and we are still close. We support him unconditionally.

Working at a good relationship with inlaws, and inlaws being responsive to feedback is well worth it. I listen hard if a DIL raises something with me! I expect her to do the same.

LoveFall
I agree, the dastardly MIL threads can be very sad and infuriating. I love my DIL and I'm so pleased that she's in my life as my son's wife and mother to their children. She's fabulous and the most positive person I know. She did say to me once that she feels very lucky to have me as a MIL when she hears about some of her friends problems. So like everything it cuts both ways.
I think of the mothers with their little families pulling up the drawbridges and keeping their in Laws out, They'll probably be singing from a different song sheet when their boys start their own little families. Good luck to them

That clothing for young children (particularly PFB babies) has no gender basis and any parent who suggests otherwise it’s being ridiculous and stereotyping.

Along the lines of OP “At my 20 week scan I was told I was having a girl and was given lots of girls clothing, mainly tutu’s, dresses and pink baby grows. I’ve just had the baby and it’s actually a boy! Not sure what to do with all the clothes as I don’t want to offend people who gave gifts but obviously I can’t use them now”

100 responses of “what’s wrong with the dresses? ”
“Stop being ridiculous and dress him in what you’ve been given, you sound ungrateful and entitled”
“His penis won’t fall off if he wears a tutu OP”
“I don’t see the issue, my Ds wore all his sisters hand me downs and looked lovely in them, pink floral really set off his skin tone”
“He’s a baby he doesn’t care what he wears, are you always this controlling and uptight OP?”

Granted 'whilst' is archaic

Archaic?!?!?! It's hardly up there with 'forsooth', 'methinks', 'twelvemonth' and 'sirreverence', is it?!?! It's part of my everyday speech.

However, after juxtaposing 'while/whilst' with 'until/till/'til' earlier, it has occurred to me that, coincidentally, in some regions, people will commonly use 'while' where 'standard' English would use 'until' - e.g. "The event lasts from 7 while 19".

Prissy use of words;

'Generally I..' or 'I tend to' which is usually followed by something like 'wear tunic tops over leggings' or something equally useless or frumpy sounding.

Also all the talk of 'bunging' and 'whacking'; 'just whack it in the slow cooker' or 'bung him in the buggy'

Also all the talk of 'bunging' and 'whacking'; 'just whack it in the slow cooker' or 'bung him in the buggy'

I blame the TV cookery programmes, where they tell you to drizzle, fling, chuck, garnish, drench, drown, crown, enthrone, bamboozle, baffle, bewilder something with/over something else. It would seem that simply pouring, putting or adding completely ruins the taste of the whole dish.

OP -Can anyone recommend nice lacy knickers that have a decent soft gusset that doesn’t shred your vag?

Mumsnet - “It’s your VULVA!” “If they’re shredding your vagina OP, I think you’ll find you are wearing them incorrectly!” etc.

Competitive not having "matchy matchy" decor or Xmas trees

The more cluttered and less anything goes together the better.

Only acceptable dog is a retired grey hound

“I think of the mothers with their little families pulling up the drawbridges and keeping their in Laws out, They'll probably be singing from a different song sheet when their boys start their own little families. Good luck to them.”

I think the same. There are some despicably selfish dils out there and MN often encourages them.

Oooh yes. And the mumsnetter's own mother can buy whatever she wants for the kid and the Mumsnetter has to live no further than 50 yards from her childhood home, yet if the MIL who lives in New Zealand has the temerity to want a 5 minute phone call "when we are having our family time" or buys a present which hasn't had the royal charter seal of approval it's livid-livid-livid. And if the poor MIL wants to physically see the child before it's 10 and hasn't been given a 10 minute visiting slot, well, mummy will smack.

Seems to change a bit when they want a free babysitter. Though of course that too is a minefield.

Another one- neighbours who complain because your 3 kids, 2 Dalmatians and gaming hubby might be a bit heavy on the laminate and the dividing wall. If my neighbours complained about my noise, my first instinct would be to say sorry and try and keep the noise down, not that the neighbour should buy a manor in the country and has probably got dementia.

Likewise, I tend to think people who say hello to me and my children on the avenue are civilised fully human members of society, not obviously paedophiles that I need to ring 999 for.

livid-livid-livid

'We live very rurally' or 'we're very rural'
No you live in a very expensive house in the Cotswolds and you want us to know all about it.

Likewise, I tend to think people who say hello to me and my children on the avenue are civilised fully human members of society, not obviously paedophiles that I need to ring 999 for.

Oh yes. I can never understand people who are INCENSED if a complete stranger dares to speak to them. My DF used to walk along the main street with me on my way to work sometimes, and he said Good Morning to everyone we passed. Goodness knows what some MNers would have thought about that!